Hi, me and my cousin are talking about his ex and trying to come up with a few answers. Let me get to the point.
He was dating a girl and they were together for 2 years on and off.
He says that overall he is sure that she loved him and was very attentive and always wanted his attention.
He thought she was getting clingy and put space between him and her for a while. She told him a few times that she wasnt happy about the fact that he wasnt there for her and giving her attention.
One day she changed her number and didnt ever get in contact with him again.
He doesnt know where she lives or what to do. Do u think he brought this on himself? If she really loved him, how come it was so easy for her to just leave and not contact him ever again?
Has anyone experience a ex changing his/her number and leaving? If so, do u know the reasons? Thank youCan we have a quick relationship advice here please?
She was in love with the attention he gave her, not ';him';. Sounds like she's found another audience. Good riddance.
Friday, April 30, 2010
I really really really need relationship advice! Please help!!!!!?
Ok, I have had this major crush on this guy.. for about a month or two now. I keep telling myself that I don't like him anymore.. but deep down inside I know that I do. The problem is-- he has a crush on my best friend (who is currently talking to another guy). I am of course, REALLY jealous. I continue talking with this guy.. and he seems like he cares about me. So why did he tell my best friend that he liked her?! Another dilemma- my best friend is starting to change the way she acts around my crush.. kind of to make him continue liking her. She's totally leading him on. Why would she do this?
I'm so jealous, and sad, and upset, and blah blah. But I won't talk to my friend about it because i know she will just deny everything i accuse her of doing. It's like she's in her own world sometimes and just doesn't understand the un-stated rule of feminism.
Can anyone help me?!?!?!
Thanks.I really really really need relationship advice! Please help!!!!!?
some girls just like being noticed, she may not even be conscious that she's doing it. but as for the guy... find a better one! if he likes your friend and isn't into you, trust me, there are plenty of others around who would be much better for you.
I'm so jealous, and sad, and upset, and blah blah. But I won't talk to my friend about it because i know she will just deny everything i accuse her of doing. It's like she's in her own world sometimes and just doesn't understand the un-stated rule of feminism.
Can anyone help me?!?!?!
Thanks.I really really really need relationship advice! Please help!!!!!?
some girls just like being noticed, she may not even be conscious that she's doing it. but as for the guy... find a better one! if he likes your friend and isn't into you, trust me, there are plenty of others around who would be much better for you.
Hi. Looking for some important relationship advice!?
Me and my girlfriend were in a very serious relationship for over 3 years. When I first met her I wasn't even looking for a relationship, I was happy being young and single, spending quality time with my friends and generally enjoying life. Then I met this girl and the whole world moved for me. It was the most incredible feeling. She felt the same way and here our relationship started. Everything started off great, we sgared some of the greatest times. Then we both went to university. The relationship has had its ups and downs, but we stayed together becuase we knew that we were right together. The problem though was that my girlfriend couldn't cope with not seeing me as often as before uni, it made her unhappy, and I didn't know what I could do to resolve this. I must admit that the time apart wasn't as painful for me as it was for her. Eventually she got so upset that she finished it.The couple of weeks after the break-up I was feeling so restless. I couldn't eat or sleep for feeling so desperate for her. I have never felt so desperate in my life. The problem is that I have spoken to her about these feelings since, and realise that she would take me back if I proved to her that I still love her. Since realising this however, those desperate feelings seem to have subsided and I am feeling a little indifferent. I feel that we could be happy again, but I know she expects a lot from me and I don't want to hurt her anymore if I can't make her as happy as she deserves to be. What should I do? Is this just a case of me wanting what I can't have? Hi. Looking for some important relationship advice!?
For your circumstances, I would stay close friends with her for the time being. SHE was the one that did break it off, so you have to leave some of this decision up to her. It seems like it upset her a lot more than it did for you-- and you just had the usual complex that you didn't realize what you had until it was gone.
I would give her a call and tell her of your feelings, but also of your concern for being far away. Maybe you could suggest that if neither of you have moved on to someone else by the time you Graduate College, then you guys could rekindle what you left.
I hope everything works out for you-- almost everyone going off to school has a situation thats similar!!Hi. Looking for some important relationship advice!?
I don't see that you have anything to prove to her. She broke up with you, so if anyone needs to be doing anything special for anyone, it should be her trying to get you back. If it was me, I would just drop it and move on. There is someone out there that will appreciate you for just who you are without having to prove anything.
i say you go for it.. if you really wanna make things work, you'll find a way to make things work for the two of you. go outta your way to make her happy!
if you dont have any real intresets in seeing her n tht it doesnt bother you tht ur not seeing her maybe its that youve moved on..bt idk it seems that you dont care too much at first you did but after a while you kinda got used to the whole thing...dont lead her on thinking she has a chance if deep down ur feelings have changed a little! idk wat to tell you tho sorry! all i cn say is focus on your carrer n stuff n maybe u just needed a little break
O.K. lol um it seems like your in love at this point. If your ex gf doesn't see that you could make her happy, i would go and try to make it happen. If you rlly love the girl then go after what is right. Don't give up on a loved one that you might only find once in a blue moon. She still loves you and you still love her. Thats a real relationship! She might have done you wrong and you have done her wrong too, but thats what makes a relationship strong is if you keep working at it and trying to get it right. You should go talk to her and if she doesn't listen then try with all your power to get her to listen. She will listen to you if u tried. You can get your gf back, just have faith! You two belong together!!!!!!
You and your friend a lot of your life time Three years together of to days average life (50Years)
you people have understand each others , know your feelings , choices and you guys can best restablish your relations.
I think some weeks break is not that much , but it should not exceed 40 days.
I think you should be persistent in expressing your love and affection to her.
She is girle i believe she will come to you.
and you guyes will walk for long run.
Wow, its not that often that you hear a bloke putting his girlfriends feelings ahead of his own, even if it means he will feel bad. This relationship obviously means a lot to you both. I think that you need to get your heads together and see what it is you both want from this and if it could work. Uni isnt forever and there is time to travel at weekends and half term. If this is meant to be, then it will. GL :)
I think this is one that you will have to try and figure out on your own.,
anyone can give you advice, but none of us know what is inside your heart or head. If you are truly in love with this person,then being apart should not make a difference in your heart of hearts. Or Hers.
Think long and hard, this could be your future you are thinking about.
Good Luck, but, don't do something just to make someone else feel good.
She sounds like she might be a little insecure either with the relationship or with herself.
Talk things out it may be in both your best interests.
For your circumstances, I would stay close friends with her for the time being. SHE was the one that did break it off, so you have to leave some of this decision up to her. It seems like it upset her a lot more than it did for you-- and you just had the usual complex that you didn't realize what you had until it was gone.
I would give her a call and tell her of your feelings, but also of your concern for being far away. Maybe you could suggest that if neither of you have moved on to someone else by the time you Graduate College, then you guys could rekindle what you left.
I hope everything works out for you-- almost everyone going off to school has a situation thats similar!!Hi. Looking for some important relationship advice!?
I don't see that you have anything to prove to her. She broke up with you, so if anyone needs to be doing anything special for anyone, it should be her trying to get you back. If it was me, I would just drop it and move on. There is someone out there that will appreciate you for just who you are without having to prove anything.
i say you go for it.. if you really wanna make things work, you'll find a way to make things work for the two of you. go outta your way to make her happy!
if you dont have any real intresets in seeing her n tht it doesnt bother you tht ur not seeing her maybe its that youve moved on..bt idk it seems that you dont care too much at first you did but after a while you kinda got used to the whole thing...dont lead her on thinking she has a chance if deep down ur feelings have changed a little! idk wat to tell you tho sorry! all i cn say is focus on your carrer n stuff n maybe u just needed a little break
O.K. lol um it seems like your in love at this point. If your ex gf doesn't see that you could make her happy, i would go and try to make it happen. If you rlly love the girl then go after what is right. Don't give up on a loved one that you might only find once in a blue moon. She still loves you and you still love her. Thats a real relationship! She might have done you wrong and you have done her wrong too, but thats what makes a relationship strong is if you keep working at it and trying to get it right. You should go talk to her and if she doesn't listen then try with all your power to get her to listen. She will listen to you if u tried. You can get your gf back, just have faith! You two belong together!!!!!!
You and your friend a lot of your life time Three years together of to days average life (50Years)
you people have understand each others , know your feelings , choices and you guys can best restablish your relations.
I think some weeks break is not that much , but it should not exceed 40 days.
I think you should be persistent in expressing your love and affection to her.
She is girle i believe she will come to you.
and you guyes will walk for long run.
Wow, its not that often that you hear a bloke putting his girlfriends feelings ahead of his own, even if it means he will feel bad. This relationship obviously means a lot to you both. I think that you need to get your heads together and see what it is you both want from this and if it could work. Uni isnt forever and there is time to travel at weekends and half term. If this is meant to be, then it will. GL :)
I think this is one that you will have to try and figure out on your own.,
anyone can give you advice, but none of us know what is inside your heart or head. If you are truly in love with this person,then being apart should not make a difference in your heart of hearts. Or Hers.
Think long and hard, this could be your future you are thinking about.
Good Luck, but, don't do something just to make someone else feel good.
She sounds like she might be a little insecure either with the relationship or with herself.
Talk things out it may be in both your best interests.
Does anyone have really good relationship advice?
Okay. Tomorrow will be my boyfriend and I's 5 month anniversary. I keep having trust issues with him, always thinking about him cheating on me or hurting me by breaking up with me. I think that I think that way, because my mom has never been in a real ''relationship''. Every relationship she has been in the guy usually cheated on her. And I have been cheated on before too. He tells me all the time that I need to trust him, because he loves me more than anything, and he also says that it pushes him away when I keep none stop having trust issues with him. It's so hard to believe him on it...
So any advice please?Does anyone have really good relationship advice?
He's got it right... You will drive him away if you keep up with the jealousy, clingyness and distrust... Unless he gives you a legitmate reason not to trust himDoes anyone have really good relationship advice?
i just posted a relationship question myself you should check it out. Be optimistic! Give him the benifit of the doubt and if anything happens you can reel him right back in to that no trust zone. I had this issue and occasionally still do but i learned that spending all your time worried causes you to miss out on the fun things you could be doing and once you learn to have fun you both value the relationship more.
It's true, if you keep accusing him of something he is not doing it will just push him far away. You should trust him otherwise how are you ever going to have a real relationship? You're just stressing yourself out. I'm sorry, I hope thing's go well!
well, first of all, happy five months. the thing is to try to trust him as much as you can. its cool to be suspicious, but don't let it show a lot. if someone tells you that he is doing something, then that's the time for you to do what you think is right about what was accused. just as long as he isn't anthony camden, lol.
Well never aspect that if you have any actual evidence to prove that he is cheating. Overall enjoy him as your boyfriend and take advantage of what you have because maybe he does love you so dont lose that.
Your boyfriend is right....the more you question his trust, the more you will push him away. If you don't want to lose him, you have to find a way to trust him. I know its hard, especially due to your past, but if your boyfriend has never given you a reason to not trust him and if he is respectful to you, then you should really try to trust him. Stop questioning him, because that does get annoying. Think about it if the situation were reversed. What would you do if he didn't trust you and kept coming to you with trust issues. It would be very annoying, especially since you have never cheated on him. You would feel hurt that he doesn't trust you. If you have no reason to question his trust, then don't. Trust is a huge part of a relationship, but it sounds like you would be this way towards anyone. If he's a really good guy and respectful, honest, and he loves you, then don't ruin a good thing. The next time you want to tell him that you don't trust him, remember that this could be the last time you talk to him....so try really hard to not say anything. Nobody wants someone who is always negative either...that will also turn him off. Keep the relationship positive. Instead of focusing on anything negative and not trusting...try to focus on all the positive things. Think of all the nice things he has done for you and how he treats you....maybe that will help with not bringing up anything negative. If you want to keep him, trust me, stop acting insecure. Its a turn off.
do you love him if you do you need to trust him i know its hard cause other people have wronged you but im sure he's a great guy and if you trust him he will love you and you'll have an easyer time trusting him it just grows and grows....... hope it all works out good luck=))
I know its hard but you can't keep whats happened to your mother, on yourself. Those guys that cheated on your mother, and you, are assholes. But you have to let it go, and just put trust in him that he wont cheat on you and he wont hurt you. Also if your insecure or have low confidence, it may make you feel like you can't trust completely. Not trusting any guy, will make them push away from you because they dont deserve to be untrusted. Good luck :)
Well does he have a myspace? Make a fake myspace with a hot girls picture and stuff make it look real.. and just send him a message and see what his response is. =)
1. Trust is what a relationship should be based on.
2. If someone is going to cheat, you can't prevent it. So quit obsessing about it. Otherwise you'll never enjoy your relationship.
If your boyfriend hasn't cheated on you, you're just gonna have to trust him. He deserves your trust. If it is so hard to open up and have a healthy relationship, you might want to try counseling. That way you can get down to the core of your trust issues. Just remember, he's not one of your exes or mom's exes.
jst think its not going to happen in this realationship bc if you keep having trust issues he is going to fall out fo love with you and then tht will be a problem but theres no problem except for you and jst think he loves you too much to cheat or break up with you and when you convince yourself the problems will be gone and there will be a heealthy realationship
Its so easy to have trust issues, I think we all experience it to a certain level at some point. If you really like the guy, then take things slow, as slow as you need to. Give yourself time to trust him and let him know where you stand. by you just telling him that you don't trust him will definitely push him away. Why be in a relationship where you're not trusted? He also needs to know what you feel so he can help you get through it.
What's with the you not trusting him? has he giving you any signs this he may be cheating? stop compairing your relationship to your mother pass bad relationships. Back up a little give the man a break, allow him too go on his own, a relationship need some space and some time alone, stop smothering the man, and find a hobby, something that will take your mind off of the crazy thoughts that you are having. Keep it up and he will surely find someone that will trust in him
Slow down a little. Just relax. If you keep pressuring him, and being a control freak, it will scare him away. Your problem is that you want to take your boyfriend and lock him in a room with you to be as faithful as possible. However, your imagination unlocks itself and only tells you that he will cheat. You're a little insecure;as soon as you let go a little, everything else will fall by the waistline.
You have a simple choice in your life.
You can either protect yourself, never properly love, never have faith in another person and therfore never be hurt or let down.
Or you can love - trust - get clobbered a couple of times along the way - but have an open heart which will be truely rewarded and elevated when the time comes.
Its a simple choice - but not an easy one.
.
when you have these thoughts think to yourself ';he loves me and he wouldnt treat me like this'; and when you do this over a period of time...you will stop thinking these thoughts and finally trust him...i had the same problem and this worked...hope it wors for too
Yeah i know it's hard, but trust is the biggest thing... Being nosey and clingy and getting jealous easy is a Huge turn off for guys, and girls too.
Trust me, everytime he sees you talking to another guy he gets jealous too... It's just a vicious cycle couples have to go through and pretend like they aren't jealous, wearing their happy mask :)
Boy doesn't life suck? haha most of the time anyway.
Have a good long conversation and somewhere in the middle say ';Look me in the eye and tell me will you ever cheat on me, this is the last time I'll ever ask you. If you can seriously say that you can be with me, my trust for you will never waver.'; Basically, you just gotta ask him if he'll ever cheat on you and make him give you an honest answer. If he's a real man, he'll give you an honest answer, from there, if he says he'll never cheat on you, you can relax. Also look out for those quick replies. If he gives you an answer like a second after, he's just sayin it to make you shut up. If he gives a longer answer, it should be honest. I know this 'cause I do it to my mom XD, well good luck!
Yes, constantly worrying about your boyfriend cheating on you, and breaking up with you will push him away or cause him to cheat, if he hasn't already. If he hasn't done anything, you can't be upset with him. It's hard for you both to have a fun stress free relationship if every time you see him you are accusing him of cheating or asking if he will break up with you. I think that is a large reason why chick's drive guys crazy. Constantly nagging about what they are doing all the time. Now don't get me wrong, there are a lot of guys that have problems with keeping it in their pants, but there are also an equal number of girls. But it is not fair for you to accuse him if you have no evidence. To be honest, an ex boyfriend I had was constantly on my case about cheating, so I ended up doing it. Not exactly proud of it, but everything I did, I was cheating. You sound insecure. Just realize what an awesome chick you are, and what you have to offer, that other girls don't. If he doesn't see that, then there are plenty other guys out there that will.
SG, you have overcome your fears, you have FIRST trust yourself, trust on that you can give genuine love, that you can compromise, you can do things right. now remenber no one is perfect neither you, your boyfriend or your mom. every relationship is unique, but somethings that you make this special relationship last , TRUST,comunication, respect, etc. dont worry be the best you can without fears, base your feeling on actual reality, on your own relation work on your problems with your partner, let him know how he feels, ask him to help you get trough the process. wish you the best!!!
Don't have sex with someone that you don't trust.
So any advice please?Does anyone have really good relationship advice?
He's got it right... You will drive him away if you keep up with the jealousy, clingyness and distrust... Unless he gives you a legitmate reason not to trust himDoes anyone have really good relationship advice?
i just posted a relationship question myself you should check it out. Be optimistic! Give him the benifit of the doubt and if anything happens you can reel him right back in to that no trust zone. I had this issue and occasionally still do but i learned that spending all your time worried causes you to miss out on the fun things you could be doing and once you learn to have fun you both value the relationship more.
It's true, if you keep accusing him of something he is not doing it will just push him far away. You should trust him otherwise how are you ever going to have a real relationship? You're just stressing yourself out. I'm sorry, I hope thing's go well!
well, first of all, happy five months. the thing is to try to trust him as much as you can. its cool to be suspicious, but don't let it show a lot. if someone tells you that he is doing something, then that's the time for you to do what you think is right about what was accused. just as long as he isn't anthony camden, lol.
Well never aspect that if you have any actual evidence to prove that he is cheating. Overall enjoy him as your boyfriend and take advantage of what you have because maybe he does love you so dont lose that.
Your boyfriend is right....the more you question his trust, the more you will push him away. If you don't want to lose him, you have to find a way to trust him. I know its hard, especially due to your past, but if your boyfriend has never given you a reason to not trust him and if he is respectful to you, then you should really try to trust him. Stop questioning him, because that does get annoying. Think about it if the situation were reversed. What would you do if he didn't trust you and kept coming to you with trust issues. It would be very annoying, especially since you have never cheated on him. You would feel hurt that he doesn't trust you. If you have no reason to question his trust, then don't. Trust is a huge part of a relationship, but it sounds like you would be this way towards anyone. If he's a really good guy and respectful, honest, and he loves you, then don't ruin a good thing. The next time you want to tell him that you don't trust him, remember that this could be the last time you talk to him....so try really hard to not say anything. Nobody wants someone who is always negative either...that will also turn him off. Keep the relationship positive. Instead of focusing on anything negative and not trusting...try to focus on all the positive things. Think of all the nice things he has done for you and how he treats you....maybe that will help with not bringing up anything negative. If you want to keep him, trust me, stop acting insecure. Its a turn off.
do you love him if you do you need to trust him i know its hard cause other people have wronged you but im sure he's a great guy and if you trust him he will love you and you'll have an easyer time trusting him it just grows and grows....... hope it all works out good luck=))
I know its hard but you can't keep whats happened to your mother, on yourself. Those guys that cheated on your mother, and you, are assholes. But you have to let it go, and just put trust in him that he wont cheat on you and he wont hurt you. Also if your insecure or have low confidence, it may make you feel like you can't trust completely. Not trusting any guy, will make them push away from you because they dont deserve to be untrusted. Good luck :)
Well does he have a myspace? Make a fake myspace with a hot girls picture and stuff make it look real.. and just send him a message and see what his response is. =)
1. Trust is what a relationship should be based on.
2. If someone is going to cheat, you can't prevent it. So quit obsessing about it. Otherwise you'll never enjoy your relationship.
If your boyfriend hasn't cheated on you, you're just gonna have to trust him. He deserves your trust. If it is so hard to open up and have a healthy relationship, you might want to try counseling. That way you can get down to the core of your trust issues. Just remember, he's not one of your exes or mom's exes.
jst think its not going to happen in this realationship bc if you keep having trust issues he is going to fall out fo love with you and then tht will be a problem but theres no problem except for you and jst think he loves you too much to cheat or break up with you and when you convince yourself the problems will be gone and there will be a heealthy realationship
Its so easy to have trust issues, I think we all experience it to a certain level at some point. If you really like the guy, then take things slow, as slow as you need to. Give yourself time to trust him and let him know where you stand. by you just telling him that you don't trust him will definitely push him away. Why be in a relationship where you're not trusted? He also needs to know what you feel so he can help you get through it.
What's with the you not trusting him? has he giving you any signs this he may be cheating? stop compairing your relationship to your mother pass bad relationships. Back up a little give the man a break, allow him too go on his own, a relationship need some space and some time alone, stop smothering the man, and find a hobby, something that will take your mind off of the crazy thoughts that you are having. Keep it up and he will surely find someone that will trust in him
Slow down a little. Just relax. If you keep pressuring him, and being a control freak, it will scare him away. Your problem is that you want to take your boyfriend and lock him in a room with you to be as faithful as possible. However, your imagination unlocks itself and only tells you that he will cheat. You're a little insecure;as soon as you let go a little, everything else will fall by the waistline.
You have a simple choice in your life.
You can either protect yourself, never properly love, never have faith in another person and therfore never be hurt or let down.
Or you can love - trust - get clobbered a couple of times along the way - but have an open heart which will be truely rewarded and elevated when the time comes.
Its a simple choice - but not an easy one.
.
when you have these thoughts think to yourself ';he loves me and he wouldnt treat me like this'; and when you do this over a period of time...you will stop thinking these thoughts and finally trust him...i had the same problem and this worked...hope it wors for too
Yeah i know it's hard, but trust is the biggest thing... Being nosey and clingy and getting jealous easy is a Huge turn off for guys, and girls too.
Trust me, everytime he sees you talking to another guy he gets jealous too... It's just a vicious cycle couples have to go through and pretend like they aren't jealous, wearing their happy mask :)
Boy doesn't life suck? haha most of the time anyway.
Have a good long conversation and somewhere in the middle say ';Look me in the eye and tell me will you ever cheat on me, this is the last time I'll ever ask you. If you can seriously say that you can be with me, my trust for you will never waver.'; Basically, you just gotta ask him if he'll ever cheat on you and make him give you an honest answer. If he's a real man, he'll give you an honest answer, from there, if he says he'll never cheat on you, you can relax. Also look out for those quick replies. If he gives you an answer like a second after, he's just sayin it to make you shut up. If he gives a longer answer, it should be honest. I know this 'cause I do it to my mom XD, well good luck!
Yes, constantly worrying about your boyfriend cheating on you, and breaking up with you will push him away or cause him to cheat, if he hasn't already. If he hasn't done anything, you can't be upset with him. It's hard for you both to have a fun stress free relationship if every time you see him you are accusing him of cheating or asking if he will break up with you. I think that is a large reason why chick's drive guys crazy. Constantly nagging about what they are doing all the time. Now don't get me wrong, there are a lot of guys that have problems with keeping it in their pants, but there are also an equal number of girls. But it is not fair for you to accuse him if you have no evidence. To be honest, an ex boyfriend I had was constantly on my case about cheating, so I ended up doing it. Not exactly proud of it, but everything I did, I was cheating. You sound insecure. Just realize what an awesome chick you are, and what you have to offer, that other girls don't. If he doesn't see that, then there are plenty other guys out there that will.
SG, you have overcome your fears, you have FIRST trust yourself, trust on that you can give genuine love, that you can compromise, you can do things right. now remenber no one is perfect neither you, your boyfriend or your mom. every relationship is unique, but somethings that you make this special relationship last , TRUST,comunication, respect, etc. dont worry be the best you can without fears, base your feeling on actual reality, on your own relation work on your problems with your partner, let him know how he feels, ask him to help you get trough the process. wish you the best!!!
Don't have sex with someone that you don't trust.
HELP ME! SERIOUSLY NEED SOME ';RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!';?
I'm a 17 year old girl
I feel quite lame having to resort to 'yahoo answers' but you know, desperate needs call to desperate mesures haha!
Basically, I have this friend (who is a boy same age) who ive been close friends with for about two years now? We have hooked up a could of times when we've been drinking but over the last couple of months I have really started to like him! I don't know how to say anything to him, or whether to say or hint at all!? It's just driving me crazy! I'm **** scared of rejection! Ahh you need to help haha!HELP ME! SERIOUSLY NEED SOME ';RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!';?
Definitely hint or tell him you like him. Even while drinking both of you showed the other you liked each other. You have known each other for two years, it shouldn't be a problem to tell him you like him and ask him how he feels about you. Being around your for two years he has to have feelings for you.HELP ME! SERIOUSLY NEED SOME ';RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!';?
just tell him!
I feel quite lame having to resort to 'yahoo answers' but you know, desperate needs call to desperate mesures haha!
Basically, I have this friend (who is a boy same age) who ive been close friends with for about two years now? We have hooked up a could of times when we've been drinking but over the last couple of months I have really started to like him! I don't know how to say anything to him, or whether to say or hint at all!? It's just driving me crazy! I'm **** scared of rejection! Ahh you need to help haha!HELP ME! SERIOUSLY NEED SOME ';RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!';?
Definitely hint or tell him you like him. Even while drinking both of you showed the other you liked each other. You have known each other for two years, it shouldn't be a problem to tell him you like him and ask him how he feels about you. Being around your for two years he has to have feelings for you.HELP ME! SERIOUSLY NEED SOME ';RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!';?
just tell him!
Before i give my friend relationship advice what do u think? Posted this a.m. any later day suggestions?
yesterday a friend who had seemed down for awhile confided in me. she said about Christmas she was getting ready to leave her b/f and he wanted sex when she said she had to run he made the comment about going and ';getting'; a woman who lives up the street. She let it go just laughing it off a few other times he had made some other comments that she let go. most recently she said they went to an out of town concert sitting in the car a woman walked by with a man and she was carrying flowers. meaning the woman was lucky to have rec. flowers she said oh what a lucky woman she got flowers and he said yeah she's lucky alright she bent over and looked in the car @ me- meaning him. She let it go. The one thing that stabbed her most was the other nite he told her he would get married again if he found someone who made him happy and was compatiable with. she said she felt like she wasn't anything to him but a hold over till he found his miss wonderful. i think he should hit the roadBefore i give my friend relationship advice what do u think? Posted this a.m. any later day suggestions?
i agree, he dosnt sound like he is worth the heartache to me Xcream treatment
i agree, he dosnt sound like he is worth the heartache to me X
I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
Please allow me to give you a short bio of me . I recently moved from new york due to family dysfunctionalities. I arrived in texas and have been seeing this beautiful girl for hmm.. i guess ever since I came here. I was on the phone with her 24 hours during my drive here and I think i have talked to her more than anyone in this world in my life .
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of any long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
If your chatting is bothering you this much...you must have some real feelings for this gal. I suggest then, that what ever you do from now on...you have her in mind as well. That helps you not do things that you might regret later.
I don't believe in giving people your passwords until there is some serious commitment...and then...there are some areas of your life that should still be for you...your space. But since you have already given it out, changing it now will look as though you have something to hide.
I would talk to her, be honest with her and ask her what would make her feel better? After all, she is the one you are worried about.
You haven't said what your dreams are so that one is hard to comment on. I don't know if they are safe or sketchy. If they are safe, and she loves you...she will come around as long as she knows the road will always lead back home for visits. If it is sketchy...then you are on your own. It would be hard to commit to someone who you don't know if you will get stuck on the other side of the world with no help.I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
if you are having like sex chats or trying to get in these girls pants or meet them then you should feel bad. From what you are saying it's not like that at all. I flirt with guys all the time, I'm just a flirty person, my fiance knows it means NOTHING and I would never take it further than some flirtations and if the guy tries I'm out of there. If she says she doesn't care and hasn't brought it up or brought it back on you at all, then she probably really doesn't care. If you think she's mad or worried about it then sit down and talk to her (HONESTLY) about it.
First of all, change your passwords. Someone you are dating should never have your passwords to things.
Then sit down and talk to her. However, you said you ';recently'; moved. You may be more lusting than in love, and rushing things - either because you want someone to cling to and some familiarity since you just moved across the country and don't have many other people or maybe no one else (due to your dysfunctional family), or because you know you want to leave the country next year and are afraid of going alone, so you want to pull someone along with you.
Either way, you definitely don't need to be flirting with people on-line. I used to be very flirty on-line (and still am in person sometimes), but my husband's best friend's wife just left him and moved several states away - to be with some dude she started ';flirting innocently'; with in a forum. (It wasn't even a chat room - they ended up talking from reading each others' posts or something). So just don't do it.
I have a dream in my life and I want to start pursuing it in about a year.
But I made a mistake , I gave her my online passwords ( just verbally ) and she saw that I been talking to these girls online saying How pretty their dress looks or things that could be defined as flirting and I feel bad about it .
She saw this and didn't tell me any thing other than just making small fun of it because she likes me a lot , yes a lot.
And now i am stuck because I feel like I screwed up big time and I am afraid if i have lost leverage to ask her to follow me and my dream which she's hesitant to do , because I want to leave the country in less than a year to follow my dream .
( she's hesitant because she will be going to a new land she's not familiarized with and she will be leaving her family behind)
I love this girl with my heart like a kid that just saw and smelt rose petals for the first time.
I feel this guilt and deep sadness inside me right now because I was talking to this other girls online( nothing serious ) and i know that hurt her .
how do I fix this situation , how do I talk to her ?I know communication is the base of any long standing relationships and right now i am drawing blanks .Please help me only if you are in a long term relationship and is a really smart person which I think you are. I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
If your chatting is bothering you this much...you must have some real feelings for this gal. I suggest then, that what ever you do from now on...you have her in mind as well. That helps you not do things that you might regret later.
I don't believe in giving people your passwords until there is some serious commitment...and then...there are some areas of your life that should still be for you...your space. But since you have already given it out, changing it now will look as though you have something to hide.
I would talk to her, be honest with her and ask her what would make her feel better? After all, she is the one you are worried about.
You haven't said what your dreams are so that one is hard to comment on. I don't know if they are safe or sketchy. If they are safe, and she loves you...she will come around as long as she knows the road will always lead back home for visits. If it is sketchy...then you are on your own. It would be hard to commit to someone who you don't know if you will get stuck on the other side of the world with no help.I am in desperate need for some good advice because my relationship might be in trouble , can you help me ?
if you are having like sex chats or trying to get in these girls pants or meet them then you should feel bad. From what you are saying it's not like that at all. I flirt with guys all the time, I'm just a flirty person, my fiance knows it means NOTHING and I would never take it further than some flirtations and if the guy tries I'm out of there. If she says she doesn't care and hasn't brought it up or brought it back on you at all, then she probably really doesn't care. If you think she's mad or worried about it then sit down and talk to her (HONESTLY) about it.
First of all, change your passwords. Someone you are dating should never have your passwords to things.
Then sit down and talk to her. However, you said you ';recently'; moved. You may be more lusting than in love, and rushing things - either because you want someone to cling to and some familiarity since you just moved across the country and don't have many other people or maybe no one else (due to your dysfunctional family), or because you know you want to leave the country next year and are afraid of going alone, so you want to pull someone along with you.
Either way, you definitely don't need to be flirting with people on-line. I used to be very flirty on-line (and still am in person sometimes), but my husband's best friend's wife just left him and moved several states away - to be with some dude she started ';flirting innocently'; with in a forum. (It wasn't even a chat room - they ended up talking from reading each others' posts or something). So just don't do it.
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