Can anyone offer really good relationship advice about this situation?

Boyfriend of 5 years, we are 6 years apart in age (not that that really matters). He still works a part time job he has for 10 years, not that i care, its just he complains about it all the time. but when offers for moving up in things come along he quickly fizzles them. I've lost my patience with him, he's tired all the time from working and still manages to get himself into debt.





It's tough, but how do I break up with someone after 5 years? this has been an ongoing issue - he says its because of the way he was raised in a broken home and messed up parents (which they are absolutely). He is really draining to be around, even though I'm sick with a major illness, he still manages to drain me even more, he whines constantly. And like I said, any opportunity at moving on with things or anything, he thwarts with procrastination and negativity. I'm really beginning to think he is a loser and doesn't contribute anything to me or our relationship except tension, stress. He always talks about marriage but I think he'd be a disaster as a husband I would have to carry him through life, showing him how to do everything like I have.





I have a knot in my stomach just thinking about breaking up with him, as being sick makes me vulnerable and I don't want to hurt his feelings. but am I crazy to want to call it quits? I have done everything I can think of to help him and our relationship and he still fumbles and makes empty promises. he's a really nice guy but he just has no ambition in life - he wants to do things, but doesn't want to do the work. help!Can anyone offer really good relationship advice about this situation?
You have to decide if you are going to stay with him and allow him to pull you down and stress you out. If he is not trying to do better and move up in the world, then that's on him. You have to take care of you and please don't marry him at this stage. Good luck.Can anyone offer really good relationship advice about this situation?
leave him. you don't need anymore stress in your life than you already have. explain to him that he is making you sicker and that in order for you to get better you need to rid your life off all the negativity, including him.





good luck and i hope things get better for you.