Can anyone give me some relationship advice? Please!?

I was trying to get ya'lls opinion on something I am going through right now. Anything you say helps, I wont take it as an offense.


My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 4 1/2 years, I am his first real girlfriend and he's my first serious relationship. We meet in college and from there I was able to graduate and due to some financial problems he is two credits short from doing so. Therefore, he decided to join the air force (something I was opposed to when he initially told me, but the more I thought about it the more I supported his decision). He did basic training and I went to grad school, the whole time we wrote back and forth and he called me as much as his TI's allowed him too. When I first saw him at his basic training graduation, I was afraid that he would no longer be the person I knew but to my surprise he was the same sweet guy i knew! Right after graduation he was sent to Biloxi, MS for his tech school training, where he has been there for about two weeks now. I think I screwed up by calling him (since he was finally given his cell phone back) a bit too much and I accept blame for being a bit overbearing with that, but I was excited that he finally had a way to communicate with me yet being a bit selfish I did not take into account that it was his first week there and he probably had no time to do anything but what his instructers were telling him to do. This particular morning his cell phone was not locked and somehow called me twice, all I heard was him in a relaxed manner talkng to a female. I hung the phone the first time, the second time I listened in for like 2 minutes and I did not hear them talk about anything that would indicate flirting. But it frustrated me that he sounded relaxed and into this conversation with this female, yet did not have two seconds to text me ';good morning'; that I tried calling him back to see if everything was ok, yet each time he would just press ignore on his phone. I texted him asking if he was ok, yet he never replied, until the girl he was talking to did and from his phone! Like I said, I understand I was annoying and I would probably not want to talk to me for a while either but was it right for him to have a girl send me a text saying ';leave him alone';? Should he have been man enough to text it or call me himself? Yet he still would not talk to me at all, until a day ago that he called, but he sounded mad and monotone. When I told him ';i love you'; as we usually end our conversations he declined to say it back. He just said ';I just need you to relax';. I asked him where do I stand in the relationship, if one even exists to which he stated that he always has feelings for me. So I'm more confused. I mean we have 4 1/2 yrs of dating, living together, knowing a lot about each other, etc, was it wrong of him to let a fellow female trainee take his phone and text me three times to say leave him alone? My parents said that was pretty unmanly of him and move on, my friends say the same thing. I see their point, because coming from the guy who has told me he will marry me soon, has me wondering if I want to spend the rest of my life miserable wondering if today will be the day he will hate me for something I did. From my perscpective, I believe that he has now come to the realization that there are other people out there to see, he has grown tired of me, and that he probably needs to dump me. Now that he is in the air force and most of his friends are single, and he is in a casino city, I think he wants his freedom and the ';single life'; without having to worry what I would think of his actions (which I do not care what he does as long as he doesnt cheat or go bankrupt and he knows that). I hate to give up this relationship because I have strong feelings for him and everything seems to remind me of him, but the more I think about it the more it seems to be a lost cause. What would you do? Move on? Try to work it out? Forget the incident and hope next time he calls he isnt upset anymore? Thanks!Can anyone give me some relationship advice? Please!?
Don't get ONE-itis. You are so insecure, I know that just because you haven't already left. Start to love yourself and demand more. Read ';The Game'; by Neil Strauss, then go have some fun and play it. This guy will be a funny memory one day about your insecure days.





Here's hoping you grow out of him!Can anyone give me some relationship advice? Please!?
did you ask him why did he allow another person to use his phone without permission? it seems to me he is rather irritated with you right now. give your relationship sometime since you really love him, about 1 month to see if he treats you better and do not call him at all. let him be the one who misses you and call you.





at the same time, be open and see if you meet someone new. he doesn't seem to be that committed to you.
move on !! you don't need a guy that is going to do that but if its meant to be it'll happen but don't worry move on. =)
get over him. he obviously had something going on with that other woman and wants to move on but just doesn't know how to tell u. its best your move on now before you two get any deeper.
Hi. That is a rough situation you have there.


For what it is worth, I would suggest that you Move on. He is in a situation which will be bringing about huge changes in him. There is always the chance that once he gets himself settled, that he will come back to you, but he is growing right now, and probably sees you as ';past'; or confining.


I am sorry to write this, cause I know you are probably wanting someone to tell you that everything is alright.


If this is destined to be, then someday he will come back on his own...


Good luck to you.