Help! I need some serious relationship advice...?

Hope you have time....


My boyfriend and I have lived together for five years, along with his two daughters, 10 and 14. We've had up's and downs--we are truly in love with eachother. But my problem is that he is sooo obsessed with his daughters and lately he doesn't show any interest in me. There is no affection, no passion...he does things like go shopping and out to eat with them and not me. He doesn't treat me to anything. I think it's great that he is very involved with his kids, however, he shouldn't be in a relationship if he can't spend time on that person. He's a great dad, but sometimes it's like he's just filling some void. When I call him, he acts like I'm bothersome.


I moved out last year and he cried and begged me to come back. Nothing changed. Sometimes it can be so great though. I feel like I am the child and they are the girlfriend(s).


Please don't tell me that it's over. I need advice on how to revive us. Thanks in advance.Help! I need some serious relationship advice...?
Wow, two daughters, that's a hard but rewarding job for your boyfriend! I wouldn't say that the relationship is over, but I agree that while it's very important for him to be involved with them, he shouldn't neglect you. Maybe the first step is to show interest and ask to be involved with them in the things that they go and do. Your situation is just like parents who have children together. Once the children arrive, it's hard for mom and dad to find time to enjoy each other because the kids will always come first, as it should be. But it is possible to do both. Maybe your boyfriend just feels overwhelmed trying to satisfy everyone and he's taking his stress out on you. My only question would be, do his daughters like you?? If not, they may be fueling the riff you feel between yourself and your boyfriend. Communication is the key. Just make sure you aren't whining or badgering when you claim you are ';just talking'; to him. That will only push him away further. I hope everything works out!!Help! I need some serious relationship advice...?
Well, first off.. let me tell you that accepting a man with a package it harder that expected. (i've been there) Now, as to how to revive the relationship.. Let me suggest that.. Instead of going shopping with the girls, plan a saturday at an amusement park, that would bring both of you guys together and the girls too.. See, I think it's a matter of being involve. Almost like a competition but being aware that the kids have and advantage. At nigh when they are asleep make sure you talk to your boyfriend about your feelings and let him know that you want to at leat agree onto having days for you only. ie every one shopping on a weakend whereas the next weakend you'll have a romantic dinner with him only, while the girls catch a movie with a responsible adult.. Compromise with him, best of all, make sure you don't forget to tell him that you love him. And be careful, make sure you have an open relationship with the girls too. Take them out to eat while he's at work.. out to play and things of that nature. That would bring them closer to you aswell. Don't forget the romantic sex.. That's another kicker.. Don't ever work against them, but with them. I hope it helps.. best of luck
have you told him how you felt i think that would really help