ANYBODY OUT THERE I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE... PLEASE REPLY!!!?

In short... I have had a girlfriend for 11 months and I love her. But she has become very burdensome, with her depression and manipulation and stuff. I know she is absolutely in love with me too. But hapiness is only about 40% of the time. I know I should be there for her, and I want to be, but it looks more like I'm her counselor than her boyfriend.


To make matters worse, I've recently developed a crush on another girl. She seems carefree, happy, and she has a lot of similar interests as me. PLUS she seems t like me too. And I don't know what to do. I want to stay with my girlfriend... but I also can't get this other girl out of my mind. HELP!!!ANYBODY OUT THERE I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE... PLEASE REPLY!!!?
Ok...this is a good one. And I applaud you for your honesty.





Oftentimes, Love isn't enough. And just because you love a person does not make you right for that person. If you cant be In Love and happy AT THE SAME TIME...you may want to reconsider your relationship. As long as this ';problem'; didnt arise AFTER you developed your little crush. Speaking of, the grass will always be greener on the otherside until you have to cut it. The ';new'; person will always seem better because you are meeting their representative. Everyone puts their best foot forward to make the catch. Plus, women tend to find a man about 10 times more desirable if they are already taken (whether they admit it or not).


Can you really work on your relationship with the woman that you TRULY LOVE if you are dividing your thoughts and affection with a woman that you merely LIKE? Being in a relationship means you have to take the ups with the downs...if your girl is just having a rough temporary time, why shouldnt you be her counselor? You should be her best friend as well as her boyfriend.


Sit her down..tell her not to say a word...then proceed to inform her on how her present attitude and manipulation tactics are pushing you away and turning you off. Tell her you want to help and support her, but you dont want to be dragged down in the process.


Taking the easy way out by finding release with another woman while still in a relationship will place you under that negative sterotypical umbrella that alot of women like to put over men. Being a Dog.





Release her or Rekindle the flame...but leave the extra (the other chick) out of the picture until you decide on which option you will be taking.





Dont forget to self-evaluate...Im sure you wouldnt be able to go on record as being perfect in this relationship...make sure you consider what faults YOU may be bringing to the table as well.





I hope all works out for you


Hope I helped





DaniC


www.therealdeal-danic.blogspot.comANYBODY OUT THERE I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE... PLEASE REPLY!!!?
dont legg it... i mean dnt run from someting u have already started.. coz sumday it will happen 2 u... if u really wanna help ur gf.. den dont leave her.. considering she's alreay depressed.. what u tink thats gona make her better. no she'l problay commit suicide.. she's already falling.. like they say.. ';dnt kick a man if his already falling';... be patient.. wait till she's all happy with herself again.. n then if ur feelings still remain.. then work it out.. and if u cant then tell her that u feel someting for someone else.. that way u wont look like a coward.. and she will understand.. and maybe she'l see sense in it then to.. but not now.. not when she needs u most... all the best peace
Tell your current girlfriend how you feel. Say it nicely and remember to be alone. Tell her you just want to be friends. Don't go after the other girl right away. Wait a couple of weeks. It will all work out at the end...hopefully. I really hope this all works out for you.
Time to grow up .. Lose the emo bagagge and give a new gal a try. When gals do that .. they juz say '; he is jus a fren or its just coffee';


U go its jus a movie/hangout'; . See what life has to offer ... n lose the Wuss girl who is draggin u down
If you're not happy at least 95% of the time, move on.
are you just her boyfriend? or does she see you as a best friend, someone she can count on to talk to about everything?


maybe she doesn't know you can't handle her problems and help her through her depression like she thought you could.





but if you really love her, why can't you help her through her problems? you were happy at one point weren't you? let her get through this before you make any major decision that may cause her more pain. in fact, you should try to help her. she probably needs you right now in her life.





does she know about the other girl? if not ignore this, if so, how do you think that makes her feel? do you think that could be some of the cause of her current depression? cool it with the other girl for a while, until you and your girl are happy again.





then, if you really think you need a break from this girl, go ahead. but be careful with your choice, and be careful about what you do about the other girl. once you lose your girlfriend, know that it might be for good. losing a guy that u really love is one thing, but losing him to another girl is scarring. she might be reluctant to take you back.





good luck, be careful, and remember other peoples feelings. :)