it was 1am and he came in and woke me up, he asked me to follow him into our pc room. He pointed at the computer and up pops msn messenger and my email address typed into it. He starts by asking how it got there and why. I never in my life had downloaded it and had no intention too because i knew this would happen. i told him i dont know how it got there and he started accusing me of cheating and telling me i'm a liar. He had me in floods of tears accusing me of sleeping with my ex even though he banned me from speaking to him.
i ran out the room crying my eyes out luckily my daughter was at my mums. It got that bad i self harmed myself as i felt it was my only way of punishing myself for everything. i feel like this is all my fault and feel he's mad at me. he's told me change my ''attitude problem'' otherwise he'll leave with my baby daughter. I cant bear to be without her but i'm just so scared. My body is so covered in scars it's knocked my confidence, aswell as pregnancy stretch marks. I know if i leave him i'll never find anyone who will look at me for love and not notice my hideous body. I'm too scared to leave my partner. I never downloaded it, i mean, i even typed it all in and showed him my contact list. Every guy on there he questioned. It broke my heart.
please help. thank youxPLEASE HELP ME. I need relationship advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
im a guy and i think someone should beat his *** dont ever think low of yourself you can find someone better out there that will appreciate you if not for you leave him for your daughters sake because later down this will badly affect her if shes not his child or he is really abusive and you can prove it a court they will not let her stay with him you have to stand up for yourself and be strong because im telling you things will only get worse so please leave him hes not good for you and will only destroy your daughters life.PLEASE HELP ME. I need relationship advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
goodness me, it's not your fault at all. you need to leave him, really, what he's doing is so not right. i can't emphasise enough on that. it's disgusting really. leave him, get help, something.
and believe me, there are people who will love you and care for you. there are people who really do love you. stay strong.
you deserve much better. please, get help, for your sake.
im sorry that u have to be with someone like that. I have had to beat the crap out of guys who beat girls. and there is no reason for girls to be with guys like that. cause as much as u love him. He is more into himself then u and for you safety plz leave. Things always contuine to grow worse.
it goes from verbal to mental to physical abuse so if you love your children you will separate from this big jealous bully who possibly has a need for medication
Control freak - get out. No person has the authority to ';ban'; you to speak to anyone. As for finding love, look first within yourself.
it sounds like u dont need to be with him at all!!
he doesn't trust you and thats the most important ting in a relationship
i think u just need to leave with your daughter
its NEVER ur fault! u need a break, and a guy who will treat u right. my heart breaks for you :(
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i understand.. :( breaks my heart. first off.. it sounds like he loves you in a different way than you love him. for a happy relationship to work out, there needs to be trust! he's not worth the broken heart. i hope i can somehow have influence in your decision to not be with him anymore. all he's doing is breaking your heart and, when he is a sweetheart (even if it's for a while) he's just building it up more, to eventually shatter it again. people would tell me this and i never would listen. i thought i knew better than they did and that ';we had something so special'; .. and we did. but it wasn't worth the pain. and it could ruin you your daughters life as well. please just listen when i say this... walk away. you'll find love somewhere else. i wish i would have listened when people told me to. instead of let it get worse. it was one of the hardest things for me to do :( . but SO WORTH IT in the end. i'm so happy now!! and i know you can be too. good luck!! you'll be in my prayers.
Sounds like he is not worth it. It is so true what they say about trust being the most important thing in a relationship. He may have downloaded it himself since he is abusive.
Don't hurt yourself. Make sure your daughter is in a safe place and then tell him it s over.
Trust me any man worth his salt will love you for you and your scars won't matter.
This website is great http://www.womensaid.org.uk/.
There are people who can help you, but you have to realise you are worth more this.
Hope you get the happiness you deserve soon x
I believe you that you didn't download it, a lot of browsers automatically self update them selves and now include this as an updated feature. There could have been lots of ways that it got there. Anyways, the bottom line is that you deserve better. He sounds too controlling and the fact that he accuses you of cheating may actually mean that he is working through his guilt of cheating on you! I know that you do not think so now, but there are lots of guys out there that will treat you better, my friend told me the same thing and I would always make up excuses and say yeah ok thinking that my situation was so much more complicated, but in reality she was right, I did find someone so much better and you can too. Please seek help from a therapist.
break up with that guy. Trust me grl you can do better. THINK OF YOUR DAUGHTER. she does not deserve this. She needs a good role model in her life, and what would you think if a man was doing the same to your daughter. Its very hard to get up and leave and i can tell it wont be easy for you but its something that should be done. There are curches that can help you or try family if your worried about leaving and not having a place to sleep or money. but do it for your daughter and yourself!!
I have to say right when you wrote on ';never find anyone...hideous body'; wow that is hardly a thing to worry about nowadays cause I have seen many people in harmless relationships regardless of their figures. I have not been in any relationships but I can say the people I know are very personable people that I know their relationships are not based on the looks. Sure many people are deluded by television and americas next top hooker but the best conclusion from this is the end...not to stay trapped.
take care and Control.
Do Not Be Self Loathing
Ma'am, first of all, don't hurt yourself, don't be too much guilty about it. Okay, you've done a mistake and you really feel sorry, but you're just a normal person and I think you really didn't mean it at all.
You must have confidence in yourself, of what you do, and of what you say. 'Cause based from what I've read, you really are scared of losing him for the reason no one may ever try to love you like he did. Focus on this, you must have strength to talk to him and clear what just had happened, apologize and admit your fault. Telling him that doesn't make you a wrong person, but a person who wants to make things right. Remember, we step forward for every right thing we do. Try to talk to him, clear things out and believe me, you'll be just fine. ((;
Well it's never ok for someone to hit you. And also it is never your fault. Seriously get out of that relationship it's only gonna leave you heartbroken and hurting in the inside and out. So please do this for the most woman who stay in bad relationships and get her. It's time and you need to do it. There is someone out there who will treat you so much better!
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