Does anyone have really good relationship advice?

Okay. Tomorrow will be my boyfriend and I's 5 month anniversary. I keep having trust issues with him, always thinking about him cheating on me or hurting me by breaking up with me. I think that I think that way, because my mom has never been in a real ''relationship''. Every relationship she has been in the guy usually cheated on her. And I have been cheated on before too. He tells me all the time that I need to trust him, because he loves me more than anything, and he also says that it pushes him away when I keep none stop having trust issues with him. It's so hard to believe him on it...


So any advice please?Does anyone have really good relationship advice?
He's got it right... You will drive him away if you keep up with the jealousy, clingyness and distrust... Unless he gives you a legitmate reason not to trust himDoes anyone have really good relationship advice?
i just posted a relationship question myself you should check it out. Be optimistic! Give him the benifit of the doubt and if anything happens you can reel him right back in to that no trust zone. I had this issue and occasionally still do but i learned that spending all your time worried causes you to miss out on the fun things you could be doing and once you learn to have fun you both value the relationship more.
It's true, if you keep accusing him of something he is not doing it will just push him far away. You should trust him otherwise how are you ever going to have a real relationship? You're just stressing yourself out. I'm sorry, I hope thing's go well!
well, first of all, happy five months. the thing is to try to trust him as much as you can. its cool to be suspicious, but don't let it show a lot. if someone tells you that he is doing something, then that's the time for you to do what you think is right about what was accused. just as long as he isn't anthony camden, lol.
Well never aspect that if you have any actual evidence to prove that he is cheating. Overall enjoy him as your boyfriend and take advantage of what you have because maybe he does love you so dont lose that.
Your boyfriend is right....the more you question his trust, the more you will push him away. If you don't want to lose him, you have to find a way to trust him. I know its hard, especially due to your past, but if your boyfriend has never given you a reason to not trust him and if he is respectful to you, then you should really try to trust him. Stop questioning him, because that does get annoying. Think about it if the situation were reversed. What would you do if he didn't trust you and kept coming to you with trust issues. It would be very annoying, especially since you have never cheated on him. You would feel hurt that he doesn't trust you. If you have no reason to question his trust, then don't. Trust is a huge part of a relationship, but it sounds like you would be this way towards anyone. If he's a really good guy and respectful, honest, and he loves you, then don't ruin a good thing. The next time you want to tell him that you don't trust him, remember that this could be the last time you talk to him....so try really hard to not say anything. Nobody wants someone who is always negative either...that will also turn him off. Keep the relationship positive. Instead of focusing on anything negative and not trusting...try to focus on all the positive things. Think of all the nice things he has done for you and how he treats you....maybe that will help with not bringing up anything negative. If you want to keep him, trust me, stop acting insecure. Its a turn off.
do you love him if you do you need to trust him i know its hard cause other people have wronged you but im sure he's a great guy and if you trust him he will love you and you'll have an easyer time trusting him it just grows and grows....... hope it all works out good luck=))
I know its hard but you can't keep whats happened to your mother, on yourself. Those guys that cheated on your mother, and you, are assholes. But you have to let it go, and just put trust in him that he wont cheat on you and he wont hurt you. Also if your insecure or have low confidence, it may make you feel like you can't trust completely. Not trusting any guy, will make them push away from you because they dont deserve to be untrusted. Good luck :)
Well does he have a myspace? Make a fake myspace with a hot girls picture and stuff make it look real.. and just send him a message and see what his response is. =)
1. Trust is what a relationship should be based on.


2. If someone is going to cheat, you can't prevent it. So quit obsessing about it. Otherwise you'll never enjoy your relationship.





If your boyfriend hasn't cheated on you, you're just gonna have to trust him. He deserves your trust. If it is so hard to open up and have a healthy relationship, you might want to try counseling. That way you can get down to the core of your trust issues. Just remember, he's not one of your exes or mom's exes.
jst think its not going to happen in this realationship bc if you keep having trust issues he is going to fall out fo love with you and then tht will be a problem but theres no problem except for you and jst think he loves you too much to cheat or break up with you and when you convince yourself the problems will be gone and there will be a heealthy realationship
Its so easy to have trust issues, I think we all experience it to a certain level at some point. If you really like the guy, then take things slow, as slow as you need to. Give yourself time to trust him and let him know where you stand. by you just telling him that you don't trust him will definitely push him away. Why be in a relationship where you're not trusted? He also needs to know what you feel so he can help you get through it.
What's with the you not trusting him? has he giving you any signs this he may be cheating? stop compairing your relationship to your mother pass bad relationships. Back up a little give the man a break, allow him too go on his own, a relationship need some space and some time alone, stop smothering the man, and find a hobby, something that will take your mind off of the crazy thoughts that you are having. Keep it up and he will surely find someone that will trust in him
Slow down a little. Just relax. If you keep pressuring him, and being a control freak, it will scare him away. Your problem is that you want to take your boyfriend and lock him in a room with you to be as faithful as possible. However, your imagination unlocks itself and only tells you that he will cheat. You're a little insecure;as soon as you let go a little, everything else will fall by the waistline.
You have a simple choice in your life.





You can either protect yourself, never properly love, never have faith in another person and therfore never be hurt or let down.





Or you can love - trust - get clobbered a couple of times along the way - but have an open heart which will be truely rewarded and elevated when the time comes.





Its a simple choice - but not an easy one.





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when you have these thoughts think to yourself ';he loves me and he wouldnt treat me like this'; and when you do this over a period of time...you will stop thinking these thoughts and finally trust him...i had the same problem and this worked...hope it wors for too
Yeah i know it's hard, but trust is the biggest thing... Being nosey and clingy and getting jealous easy is a Huge turn off for guys, and girls too.





Trust me, everytime he sees you talking to another guy he gets jealous too... It's just a vicious cycle couples have to go through and pretend like they aren't jealous, wearing their happy mask :)





Boy doesn't life suck? haha most of the time anyway.
Have a good long conversation and somewhere in the middle say ';Look me in the eye and tell me will you ever cheat on me, this is the last time I'll ever ask you. If you can seriously say that you can be with me, my trust for you will never waver.'; Basically, you just gotta ask him if he'll ever cheat on you and make him give you an honest answer. If he's a real man, he'll give you an honest answer, from there, if he says he'll never cheat on you, you can relax. Also look out for those quick replies. If he gives you an answer like a second after, he's just sayin it to make you shut up. If he gives a longer answer, it should be honest. I know this 'cause I do it to my mom XD, well good luck!
Yes, constantly worrying about your boyfriend cheating on you, and breaking up with you will push him away or cause him to cheat, if he hasn't already. If he hasn't done anything, you can't be upset with him. It's hard for you both to have a fun stress free relationship if every time you see him you are accusing him of cheating or asking if he will break up with you. I think that is a large reason why chick's drive guys crazy. Constantly nagging about what they are doing all the time. Now don't get me wrong, there are a lot of guys that have problems with keeping it in their pants, but there are also an equal number of girls. But it is not fair for you to accuse him if you have no evidence. To be honest, an ex boyfriend I had was constantly on my case about cheating, so I ended up doing it. Not exactly proud of it, but everything I did, I was cheating. You sound insecure. Just realize what an awesome chick you are, and what you have to offer, that other girls don't. If he doesn't see that, then there are plenty other guys out there that will.
SG, you have overcome your fears, you have FIRST trust yourself, trust on that you can give genuine love, that you can compromise, you can do things right. now remenber no one is perfect neither you, your boyfriend or your mom. every relationship is unique, but somethings that you make this special relationship last , TRUST,comunication, respect, etc. dont worry be the best you can without fears, base your feeling on actual reality, on your own relation work on your problems with your partner, let him know how he feels, ask him to help you get trough the process. wish you the best!!!
Don't have sex with someone that you don't trust.