I really need some relationship advice? Please!!!?

I've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs %26amp; we have a son who is 8 months. I have a 3yr old son from a previous relationship. My boyfriend keeps constantly cheating on me and he says he doesn't know why he does it even though he swears he loves me. Even though he does all this, I keep taking him back, only now, he's admitted he won't stay faithful and it's best he leaves so I don't get hurt anymore. Only I begged him to stay! I know u think it's stupid but I feel I need him. I can't raise 2 kids by myself with no help. My friends are always busy and I don't have any family to help. It's hard to leave my youngest son with any1 as he refuses the bottle and only takes breast. I'm stuck with them all day indoors. I feel really depressed, I can't eat, I just cry all the time and I don't know what to do. I dont want to be with someone who keeps cheating but I dont want him to be free and single whilst I'm stuck indoors 24/7 with kids. I just don't have any courage to tell him to leave. Do u think he can get help about his constant cheating?I really need some relationship advice? Please!!!?
I think you need to forget him getting help for his cheating. You however, need help with your confidence and self esteem, and some support for you and your children.


This is more common than you think and is not stupid at all, but you can raise 2 kids - you just need to let people know that you're gonna need some extra support - real friends will not turn their backs and will do all they can to support you.


Also, you need to realise that you'll never find the right man for you if you hold on to this guy - get rid of him and take stock - you can do it!I really need some relationship advice? Please!!!?
He can only change if he wants to. And it doesn't sound like he wants to change. You have a baby together, what kind of role model is he being for your child when he is running around on you all the time. Remember, a person that loves you wouldn't cheat on you. That is the ultimate betrayal. Leave him!
I'm sorry i can't help you out, but your boyfriend sounds like a piece of sh1t!


Hope you sort yourself out.
Only if he wants help, he doesn't seem prepared to change.
Stop bloody well crying and moaning for a start.





And start thinking from a practical viewpoint. You need his help, he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, so change the type of relationship you have. Tell him you need him to be your free babysitter for a set amount of time every week, as the father of one of your children, he should be available to that child at least.





But make it clear that you are only doing this for his help with the children, and there are no other benefits in it for him from you - you know what I mean.





Also, you can decide who else has access to those kids, including any women you don't know. You can refuse him access if on the sly he brings someone to the house that you don't know.





But go after him for child support through the courts for his child, I assume to get support from your other child's father? You should be.





And rather than asking friends that don't have kids to help you, start going to parent and toddler groups, particularly single parent and toddler groups, and find some people in a similar position to you, it may be that you can pool resources.





And stop crying. You're a mother, not a wimp. You've given birth, for goodness sake!
To directly answer your question... no. But you are making the choice to still be with him, so there isn't much anyone can say to you. I understand it is hard, trust me. But you need to find help with someone else, not some piece of crap boyfriend. Your children don't need to grow up with an unhealthy adult relationship in the household. Get your kid weaned to a bottle and find a day job. It's HARD. But what else is there to do but remain unhappy and dependent on some guy?! It's not worth it. He won't change, don't even expect it.
It is unfortunate! I am no role model for a guy...i have such a problem. Ask yourself, are you ready to condole this problem of his or say no you will not condole it. But this i know, you are hurting, you are not happy and the kids are certainly in a non conducive environment. He seem not to have the ability to provide the aforementioned. It is only logically and reasonable that you find other alternative...i.e get a job, get babysitter and finally, LET HIM GO! This is my opinion.