I really need some relationship advice?

I love my boyfriend very much--he is most definitely my soul mate. Our biggest problem though, is when he gets mad at me for little things and every time, says he doesn't know if we can be together like that (i.e. an old best friend called me at 1 am, so he got mad... yesterday i found out one of my friends is in a coma, and i was IMing my bf at the time, and he got mad because i wanted to be alone for a minute before we talked about it) anyways, he is bipolar and does have anger issues, and it is a long distance relationship. I don't want to lose him, but even when he does something wrong, he finds some way to turn it around to where the blame is on me and somehow i'm at fault (his ex fiance emailed him saying she loved him and w/e, i asked him not to write her back but he did, to tell her to leave him alone because he still had feeling for her deep down and it was too painful, and she wrote him back and he said he didn't know if he wanted to write her back or not) Wouldn't this make you upset? I didn't do anything. I said for him to do what he felt he should, but that i'm a little hurt he'd consider talking to her about anything. I don't want to share his heart... am i wrong? what do i do? i hate it that he makes everything my fault, when i am so unbelievably understanding and supportive, and he always says he doesn't know how we are gonna me it through this, so i mean... c'mon guys, i need your advice. i love him, i don't wanna leave him, but i need him to grow up and be a man about things. help me. I really need some relationship advice?
wow ur next question is like twice the size as the old 1





anyways....


right now, all i can suggest is that he takes some kind of anger management classes





you should have a talk to him about him always turning it around on you


just telll him what u feel


and if he interupts to say something, tell him to stop and to let u finish





and about his ex fiance, just go into his email thing, and send his ex a really disturbing message


your not wrong, your heart is in the right place, and your just a bit jealous


i wouldnt want to let him know that you love him


but i mean, cmon, look at his ex-fiance, if it was an ex-fiance, something mustve happened!!!!!!





im sorry but today, im not really on much of a ';advice giving'; type person


well actually, since yesterdayI really need some relationship advice?
';but i need him to grow up and be a man about things'; do you really see that happening anytime soon? if not it is time to get another bf.tmm
If you really love him ,do not talk to other guys at late night time ,sure he come mad for a reason ,avoid that if you like to stay with him
The got ya thing...EEEEWWWWWW


I hate it when I was in a relationship and when we got into a fight they would pull this


I don't think we need to be together


We might need to break up


Threats If you ask me. I finally got the nerve to say, Stop the theats, every time we fight you try to scare me into going your way...Never threaten to leave me again unless you do it.


That is #1


Also the next time you know 100% it isn't at all your fault....Tell him that you are not the one to blame about the disagreement and don't turn it around and make this my fault because it isn't


#3 he gets to do whatever...........While you walk on pins and needles that isn't a relationship that is a chore. Love isn't supposed to be like that
he is bipolar


Strike One!





and does have anger issues,


Strike Two!





and it is a long distance relationship.


Strike Three!





The rest of this drama is all just more fuel on the fire. He is not available for a relationship with you. He has entanglemenst with his ex.





If you start up with someone there are only three possible outcomes:


You break up, you get married, one of you dies.





You didn't marry anyone inappropriate, nobody died, you won.


Get your romantic, unrealistic butt out of there, take a break, read up on what you need to have a rational relationship and do not take any calls from this turkey.
Hmm this seems complicated. I honestly think you need to get away from this guy. No one should make someone a priority if they don't make you one. It seems like if you did the same to him he'd have a freak out and you shouldn't put up with it. Submissiveness for small arguments only leads to worse things like abuse down the road. If he's still hung up on his ex than he can't be fully ready to love you completely. His putting blame on you will only build up your stress level until you can't handle it anymore. Also, long-distance relationships aren't exactly your best bet. I know it's much more easily said than done but I think this whole relationship needs to end. It's only making you upset. If you love yourself more than him (which you should) than you deserve someone who will treat you much better and believe me, there's someone out there who is. Don't settle for this, go out and find something better.