Help needed for sister relationship advice.?

Sister thinks I am been selfish but cant be further from truth. We used to be very close, now she comes to me when needing help eg. money problems, but when she doesn't need help she wants nothing to do with me eg. doesn't answer phone and not coming to see me. I pointed this out to her that I feel like I am been used and then she flips saying I need to grow up and get over it, so I then said fine don't come to me for help when you need it next time and she is saying now I am been childish and selfish. I think she is depressed and don't want to get into a situation where she doesn't talk to me at all so should I just drop it and be nice to her ignoring what she does? Help needed for sister relationship advice.?
You have to stop enabling your sister to depend on you when she mishandles her money. Now, if there was an emergency and she didn't have enough money and asked for help, I could understand that. BUT, if she just doesn't have her priorities straight when it comes to managing her money, I'd quit giving her money, even if that meant the relationship is over.





Your sister knows she can depend on you to bail her out when she needs money. You have to put a stop to that. You are enabling her to continue doing what she's doing. She will never learn to manage things herself if you keep bailing her out financially.





If she gets upset when you bring the subject up, that goes to show you it is true. Otherwise, she wouldn't get so defensive and resort to name-calling.





I know it may be hard since she is your sister, but you have to do what you have to do. Good luck.Help needed for sister relationship advice.?
You cant just leave it alone. I am in the same situation, I am supporting myself and my sister keeps holding me back. Maybe its time you o not go directly to her. Find the underlying problem, talk to some of her friends professes, teachers whatever you can do to find out whats going on without making her upset and flipping out on you. Maybe there is a big problem and if you don't help her get over her depression now there are going to be problems in the near future.
Write her a long letter and mail it to her certified. This is all you can do.
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One of you will have to wear the big girl panties and you seem to be the best candidate. You can do this without being used by her. People now days seem to think that they can make bad choices with their funds and yours as well. You should hold to your stance of not paying to be her sister because you already are and nothing on your part will ever change that. She will know how she got in the ';po house'; and will probably ask you what are you doing there should you continue to be her ';I spent all of mine'; backup. Continue to love her no matter if she doesn't call, answer when you do, or come if she doesn't want something. My philosophy is if you only tolerate me when I do what you want, you want me for a fool and not a friend so regardless to what I do I don't have a friend. She calls you selfish and childish because she won't face it as an accurate description of herself. If she really felt that, why would she expect you to give her money? Children don't have it and the selfish never part with it.





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