Another one of those relationship advice questions?

Right here we go,





There is this new girl who is working with me in a pub and we both catch on like a teenager with acne (without using all those acne medication stuff). She has a boyfriend and she has been with him for roughly 4 months but there are already problems so ive tried helping her get through the tough times (not revenge sex). The only reason she is with him is because she is afraid of being kicked out his house which I can understand, im still living with my parents (19) so its not like she can bunk with me. Would it be wise to just stay friends or let love take its course?





At work we have employee rooms above the pub (its a Beefeater/Premier Inn) but im not sure how much they cost per calender month/week or even if there are any spare rooms. Im willing to give up the holiday ive been saving up for the past 18 months and giving up smoking to save the extra cash.





I know this isn't exactly the best place to ask for advice but its a long shot I guess.





P.S sorry for the essay.Another one of those relationship advice questions?
Best thing I can think is if you can sometime when your alone talk to her an ask her what she thinks or feels is the right thingAnother one of those relationship advice questions?
if you have a good feeling about her i say go for it...and if you think of her as a friend type then just stay friends...and honestly if you want to give up your holiday is a gamble or walkout good moment. you could get the girl and be happy or lose the girl and no holiday or you can have the holiday...
Well, if you don't let love take it's course, you may miss out on the love of your life, and may regret it later on down the road. I'm all for the ';follow your heart'; thing, so I say go for it! Good luck.
Hi,





I appreciate your unique sincerity and wit to your question :) U must be from the UK too, i recognise the beefeater/premier inn, I'm in Scotland!





My gut feeling is, you obviously like this girl...a lot...but she's put u in a very difficult position. She has a boyfriend but she's (i'm assuming) spending a lot of time talking with you/perhaps flirting - whether her bf is an *** or not this is wrong. She might be afraid to be kicked out, very true but hasnt she got parents or friends (female) she can rely on? It would be great and impressive to do the hero thing and save up cash for her but it will only backfire, she needs to make these actions herself in order to prove to you she would want to be with u. There is no point in her letting u do the hardwork.





If I were you? I dont know does she know how u feel but its important you tell her. Everything. If you're falling for her u better tell her and tell her its difficult for you trying to be just the friend when u want more but you cant force her or make the big decisions for her like leaving her bf, she needs to be a big girl and do that for herself. U are also putting a lot of pressure on yourself by helping her out like u said because ur then obligated to help her in the future and u might not want to do that - she needs to be independent in this matter and then come back to you - whether for friendship or more. Do not give up your holiday, you'd really regret that, it sounds selfish but you need in this lifetime to look after number 1, and guide people in the beginning. If she were your girlfriend I would be thinking it were very sweet but she's not. She's actually betraying her bf a bit if u think about it - he might be the biggest idiot on earth but what does that say for her character you know? Would u like the same treatment done to you? I'd advise her what to do as a friend (move in with someone, move back home, get prices for her for the beefeater but dont pay a penny) and then u guys can make an adult decision about if theres anything between u.





Good luck - please comment back to me by editing your question, thanks xxx





P.S 4 months is not a long time to be going out with someone and living with them - that is a little crazy cos u dont know a person (clearly whats happened in her situation).