It became a distant relationship...advice? [please take time to read =( ..]?

Well briefly, I moved to a different country after a 2 year relationship, but always had and still have hopes of going back to the last country I was in. Either way we decided to continue it, as I still had plans to come back (after 2 years). Things were fine in the beginning.. we both made efforts and I even went back to visit a few time. But slowly i started realizing i was making a lot of efforts, and his were stopping..he never even came to visit me once.. despite him saying he would. Then i started to see how this needed to be a mutual effort..and I wasnt getting what I deserved. aka I didnt want to keep giving anymore. erytime I stopped i saw he never did anything either. I did start complaining a lot..I know this tends to drive guys away.. but come on, he really wasnt giving me any reason to be okay, I had every right to complain if I felt I wasnt getting enough in return?


I wanted to fix the relationship..and he complained we always talk about how to fix the relationship on the fone.. and it sucks. But i mean come on..thats cause i care about it, and want it to be good!?


Anyway.. he broke up with me in november..and we talked on and off after that..normal I guess.. but with no official going out.


he promised he would change and prove it to me..it was fine in the beginning.. but as soon as his frens came bak from vacation and he went bak to college. he was the same old. He started hangin up on me..choosing others over me. chossing to drink at parties and have fun.. rather than to attend my fone call for a few minutes. One night he answered..and didnt want to talk about anything.. and I was hurt.. I wanted to know why he made a promise of improving.. and wasnt sticking to it.? He started giggling..not paying attention, saying hed rather drink and smoke than talk to me right now. I WAS HURT. moreover..he hun up on me again, was like the 3rd time that week.


I felt like he was taking me forgranted..and it wasnt fair. also that e had no respect left. That night i deleted him from facebook and all my chats. He left me no choice. But after a 3 years relationship..i really thought he would atleast ask why i did that, show some concern..or even explain why he hung up!? NO nothing. and till this day I wonder.


But that was the last time I ever spoke to him. 3 years of my sacrifice and work down the drain. I guess I was expecting a reaction or something? or need some closure. Although its been more than one month now.. what do u think I should do? It still sucks..and I do feel low when thinking about memories. I know I should move on.. I know i deserve better. But I guess I need some closure.. I need to know why?


He seems happy though..but then again i wouldnt know deep down how he really feels. But if he cared.. he would have said something.





Question now is.. what do I do? Do i forget my need for closure.. and forget it and continue moving on? Or do I find out. what the hell has been going on?


But I believe the ball is in his court..I rang last.. and he hung up..and yes I deleted him .from things..but he could have said something.. if everything meant something to him!!?!?!





I dont get guys. I dont think I ever will?


Someone explain.. whats happening here.


Hope to hear from you =)It became a distant relationship...advice? [please take time to read =( ..]?
i wish i had the answer to your question but i believe u deserve better hun and its his lossIt became a distant relationship...advice? [please take time to read =( ..]?
It's over...get on with your life. He is getting on with his.





He's got a life with his friends and probably many other females. You should never have put your life on hold for him or any other person.





It's time for you to move forward; find a guy where you are. Stop waiting for the guy to call you. It's over. Stop looking back. There is no closure because there never was a relationship. You were played and you seem to have imagined a life with a guy that is only in your imagination.