Me and my boyfriend of almost 2 years, used to be VERY happy... up until May of this year---- when we found out I was pregnant. NOW, he barely touches me. AT ALL. I seriously feel like we're not even in a relationship anymore. No more affection. He doesnt even seem like he likes to feel the baby movin or kicking... I SAY THINGS TO HIM ABOUT THIS CONSTANTLY!!!!!!!! He even has a 7 yr old son from his previous relationship who we have full custody of. I cant imagine him being afraid of being a father since he already IS one... All through the pregnancy, and he says everytime he'll change, or try harder- but he never does. I'm at the end of my rope and am close to 9 months pregnant now. I just want the affection and intimacy back into our lives... I'm mostly hurt by this because I feel like its because of the way I look. and I need advice because i'm on the edge of just letting go- I dont feel loved, and i'm completely sad, miserable and lonely... and very hurt. Please Help!I'm VERY upset, i'm almost 9 months pregnant, and need serious relationship advice.?
maybe you SHOULDN'T SAY THINGS ABOUT IT TO HIM CONSTANTLY.
sounds like you might be nagging.
no one likes naggersI'm VERY upset, i'm almost 9 months pregnant, and need serious relationship advice.?
Get control over your hormones woman! You're very emotional right now and you don't want to push him any further away than you may have already. He can't think you're beautiful if you think you're ugly. You are larger than normal and that's new to him in YOUR relationship with him. Try not to focus on the two of you as much as the family you have. I'm sure you've changed a lot within the past 8 months. Make sure you're still tending to his needs and let him know some of your needs as well. Stop nagging at him about the baby and anything else you may be nagging about. I'm sure he loves the baby and will be a great dad to both of his children. Try acting normal for a week and then kinda bring up your relationship with him. Let him know you love him and if he doesn't love you, you don't have to stay with him just because you are having his child.
This is one of two things:
1) The mother of his child, like a lot of women, did not want to be touched the last trimester. He is giving you the same respect. He might be (foolishly) afraid he will hurt the baby. He may also be nervous about the arrival and not thinking about affection. He may just need you to sit down, hold his hand and tell him it will be fine and that you want that same affection. Then put his hand on the baby's kicks. Make him feel like it is ok.
2) This is the one I am hoping against. He's done. He doesn't want another kid, he doesn't want to be with you, and he hates his life.
Keep in mind, with either scenario, it is not because of the way you look. It may be what your looks represent, but trust me, guys don't care what you look like during pregnancy. We get it.
However, a scared guy, or an angry guy will pull back. You need to find out which he is.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Quit chasing after him for a bit, chances are as soon as you back off, he will come running after you. It's very hard to do that, but it works.
you are not married and he has a kid with someone else............mmmmmmmmmmm......he has moved on my dear
TALK to him, you have to, you are so miserable, or leave this on the computer and get him to read it. HE needs to understand how you feel, maybe therapy if you really want to save this relationship. It's a terrible time to be trying to fix this, take good care of yourself/baby try not to get too riled up. Good luck
Some men are just not physically attracted to their partner when they are pregnant for some reason and you may be putting him off further by going on and on about feeling the baby move, etc. He may be feeling like you are not that into him and just focussing all your emotions on the unborn baby. As long as you also show intimacy and affection towards your partner after the baby is born then things should get better. You have to make sure he isn't feeling like he is playing second fiddle to the baby.
i been prego 4 times and first you do feel unatractive fat uncomfterble. and needy. with my last to prenancys my ex told me he was afraid to hurt me since i was high risk. but i truly belive that you may be right some men are not attracted to prgo women and thats okay dont be hurt about this you will have your baby and he will love this child. its okay you do look diffrent. we as women tent to be more emotional amout being prego but remember we are the ones that get to feel the baby evry day its diffrent for us
I went through the same thing and after the baby came everything was good again, so just wait !!!
...hormones are raging right now...just a few more weeks till the baby comes...he just may be feeling overwhelmed by all the hormomes and changes in your body in the last 8 mos just like you are...stick by him, he's sticking with you...he will pull through...when he sees that new baby...new feelings will start to flood him ...either way...be strong...it wont be too long b4 youll have that wonderful bundle of joy to take care of and share with him, and youll also be able to start working on that hott bod for him again...relationships are hard...and pregnancy is really hard...YOU CAN DOOOO IIIITTTT!!
I have 2 children with the same man. And he acted completely different with each pregnancy. He was just going through different things in his own personal life at those times. Your boyfriend could be going through something he hasn't told you about. I mean there could be several explanations for his reasoning behind his actions. However, you should not blame it on the way you look. You are beautiful. You are carrying a life inside of you. There is nothing more beautiful than that. And you are very emotional and vulnerable at this point. So to some extent you may be overreacting a little. Just all depends on the situation. Just talk to him and be honest and up front letting him now how you feel and how is making you feel. Then all you can do is go from there. Just for now take it easy, try not to think about it and just relax. You need to be stress free and relaxed for your new bundle of joy. Good luck and congratulations!
well you kinda brought in on yourself with getting pregent!!!!! hello!! you not even married!!!!!!!!!! and you are bearing his child!!!!!!!!!1 its your own fault.... and you can always pray about it... you can pray about anything
see how he acts after the baby ur allmost there anyways some men dont like to be too intimate during a pregnancy some men are way too hands on dont constantly tell him the same thing over and over guys hate that i know its hard when ur pregnant u need support and love but what can i say men are strange creatures lol if hes still acting the same after the baby then you two have to seriously talk and as women we have to kinda do our part after the baby's born to get into shape again we cant just let ourselves go good luck!!
First of all, realize that you are very hormonal right now and that makes it a very BAD time to be making life altering decisions. I'm not saying this is all in your head, I'm just saying that your thinking processes are more affected by hormones than you realize at the time and you don't want to make life changing decisions under those circumstances. I understand your feelings of isolation and rejection. It sounds like your boyfriend is not understanding at all of your need for affection. Perhaps after the baby is born you two should look into some counseling to see if this is an insurmountable problem. If he is consistently going to ignore your needs, for whatever reason, a permanent relationship is unlikely to succeed. My best advice is to wait until after the baby is born and your hormones have settled. Then try counseling if the problem persists. If that doesn't work, you might need to write off the relationship. Just because he's been a dad, though, doesn't mean he's looking forward to being one again. Perhaps he isn't happy about sharing your time with a baby -- that happens more than you might realize.
yOU CAN become a hot mama after you give birth. You'll look even better after you get back in shape
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