I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, it has been an AMAZING relationship. Everyone that knows us thinks that we are perfect for each other (personality-wise) and we do just about everything together. In our time together we have maybe fought only three times and its never anything huge mostly fights over seeing each other when we are not together because we miss each other so much. the only thing that causes problems is that he is extremely horny and experienced (although he had never had sex he did just about everything else...) when we started dating it had to change for him because i had never done anything but make out. we both agreed that we wanted to save ourselves for marriage, but at the beginning of the relationship we did as much as we could (other than sex) but it was hard to find time and place because my parents are extremely strict and we had to do it all behind their backs... sooo anyway, towards the end of the school year we were both extremely busy and barely had time to see each other... our relationship was not the best during this time and we were a little distant. i had a feeling he was cheating on me with this one extremely pretty girl that would always text him that she loves him and wants to be with him really bad because he suddenly became friends with her and sometimes during school he wouldn't show up to where we usualy met and when i asked him where he was he said that he was talking to her because she was having a lot of problems and needed someone to talk to. i didnt really believe him at first and suspected he was cheating but then i believed that he wasnt because he insisted he wasnt/didnt and said he was just stressed out because of school ending and all that stuff and i really had no reason to believe that he would cheat because we had been together so long without much problems. This was about 3 months ago and now it seems like our relationship has improved greatly since then. A few days ago we were going through a rough spot when he said that he had to tell me something and i had to get it out of him that he slept with that girl!!!! apparently during the hard time we were having he really needed action and i wasn't giving it to him and that girl was persistant that they hook up, so he finally said ok after a lot of convincing and wasn't intending to have sex with her and he ';pushed her off him once but just couldnt resist'; and he said that they did it three times within that week and that was it... (idk for sure if he is telling the truth about that but i think he is because when i think back i can think of about three times all during that week that he had iffy stories about where he was...) when he told me this he was crying (he said he's only cried a few times that he can remember in his life) and said that he was so sorry but he really really is a horny guy and i just wasn't satisfying him at that time and he didn't want to break up with me because he loves me so much and he didn't really consider it cheating(at the time) because he just wasnt getting any from me....i have chosen to stay with him because i do honestly love him more than anything and understand why he did it just not how he could do that to me exactly... :/ he said he wants to make it work but just feels horrible about it and said that he just doesnt want to hurt me anymore and doesnt know how long it will last (we still have a lot to talk about i'm unsure about a few things still.....) but we've both decided to do what it takes to make the relationship work because we both really love each other... he insists that the thing with the girl is completely over and he doesnt even talk to her anymore and i believe that... my justification to stay with him is that it was sort of a while ago, it was just a short affair, i wasn't giving him any and he is a guy so he just couldn't resist a beautiful girl asking him over and over.... so... did i make the right choice to stay with him? what do you think i should do? any advice at all would be appreciated... we still have a lot to talk about and i have to ask a lot still and i'm still not sure what he is telling the truth about even though i believe what he is saying it is hard for me to trust him (obviously...) i'm so sorry this is so long but a lot of background info was needed...it is extremely complicated.... before i found out about this our relationship was really really great and i honestly have no reason to believe that he is lying to me about loving me and things like that because he has gotten a lot of **** from my mom and my other boyfrends have quickly ran the other way but he has stuck through it (i would go into detail but its just too much and too horrible, for example she tried to run him over with her car...) so for that reason i believe that he really loves me... please help! i do want to stay with him... but i just dont know what to do to make it last or how to get over him cheating..... i know i'm going to have to step uI need some serious relationship advice pleassseeeeeee!!!! cheating boyfriend?
If you love him stay with and try to make it work. However do make excuses for him. Not only did he cheat on you but he told you it was because you were not giving him any. So what's going to happen the next time he ';needs some'; is he going to cheat again. Was he so in love with you when he was sleeping with this girl more than one time. Open your eyes it is NOT your fault that he cheated and dont let him make you think it is. You really need to sit and think talk it out with him some more by do not sleep with him because you think he will not cheat on you.
BTW: Guys can resist a ';hot girl'; coming on to themI need some serious relationship advice pleassseeeeeee!!!! cheating boyfriend?
thanks for your comment about my poem btw. I believe u shouldn't blame urself 4 not giving him any lol. You guys had an agreement. And he gave u a reason 2b insecure. But u should follow ur heart.
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i know you dont want to hear it but here it goes...once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater...im sorry but a person who truly loves someone would never put his ';needs'; before the one he loves.
hes gonna cheat on you again you cant change cheaters.
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