I need some extreeeeme relationship advice.?

Ok so my boyfriend lives out of state and I don't get to visit him too often because I'm in school and I can't leave all the time and miss school. We both have trust issues, but it's only because of distance. When we are together, even if I'm just up there and he's out and about or whatever, I don't care what he does and it's the same with him for me. The problem is, when we're apart, we argue all the time. We both have some anger issues. He is a little worse though. When he is mad, he says things he really shouldn't say, but he feels absolutely horrible about it in the end. Almost always, our arguments end with apologies and tears. Nothing I say to him ever changes anything. I tell him what he can do to help and he tells me what I can do to help. I try doing what he says and he still gets extremely mad over the stupidest little things, and he doesn't do the things I tell him to do to help. We have been together for almost three years now. I am not going to give up because when we're together, we're happier than ever and nothing around us matters. I'm really surprised we've even been able to hold on for this long. We're trying to make plans for him to come see me by the end of this month, but he's getting a job and he can only leave for about 2 weeks. It's stressing me out sooo much because we need more time than that to make us happy. We've been through so much and the one thing that could help is to spend some time together, but two weeks isn't really enough right now. I'm tryng to find a way to go up there this summer too, but money is an issue. I really don't know what to do. Don't answer with ';therapy';, that's not going to work. We've tried. The only way to make it work is if we go to therapy together. So that's not an option. Pleaaaase I need some extreme advice.I need some extreeeeme relationship advice.?
Well I am engaged to a soldier, who is thousands of miles away right now..It's hard, we used to fight all the time while he was in training, it was so hard, so I know what you are talking about but, it's a phase trust me it will get better if you two are commited to talking it out without fighting.I need some extreeeeme relationship advice.?
If a relationship is causing more heartache than it does to bring you satisfaction and joy, then you need to consider ending it and moving on. But, only you would know if this is truly necessary or not. To me, it sounds like it's time. Otherwise, you're gonna have to do what the Military wives do when their hubbies are away for a whole year... (or should I say, whole school-until-graduation term)


Live your life on your own and take advantage of web cams, emails, phone pics, communication devices, US Mail, planes, trains, automobiles, telegrams, carrier pigeons, etc.


Final option would be for one to relocate to be with the other. Unfortunately, these are your only options.
Sorry I dont think that therapy will help anyway. It sounds like both of you are young, trying to get your lives on track by finishing school. I would suggest both of you move on with your lives and meet other people. See each other whenever possible if its desired. Until you can be together there is a whole lot of living to do and people to meet. Why limit yourselves to each other when all you do is fight. Take the mature road and give each other space. If you two come together again down the road then great, Why continue making each other miserable with the current situation.
I can honestly say that the two of you, if you truly love each other, need to develop better communication. Therapy may be a good route to go but its also not for everybody. Let him know exactly how you feel when he ';says things he really shouldn't say';. Also, on your part, I know you try to tell him certain things that may help him but understand, just because you told him something that was meant to help him doesn't mean that he'll get it. A lot of times, we don't listen to the person closest to us because we're ready to resent anything and everything they are about to say. If you're going to stress that the both of you need more time but time isn't available, you may need to appreciate what time you do have and create other ways to see each other. Do you have a web cam? How about taking some sexy pictures for him?





You already made some progress on your own....your determined to be together. But make sure he feels the same way. Also, what's his side to the story? You stated that noting you ever say to him changes anything. Stop waiting for him to change in to the man YOU want him to be and either accept him and his flaws or know that you may have to eventually leave him.





Don't be coupled up and miserable when you can be single and happy.





GOOD LUCK TO THE BOTH OF YOU!