Can anyone help me...relationship advice?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years in May. 3 months into the relationship we both agreed that this will be a permanent and made plans for our future together (no formal engagement, just spoken in words). Well about a 1-and-a-half years into it I made a terrible mistake. I cheated on him...I regret it to this day. I was selfish to want him and this other guy. After a week of separation, we were back together. And we have been together since.





The years to follow weren't easy. In fact it seemed as if got worse by the day, but I knew nothing would happen to either of us again, the way I made a bad choice. Well it I was wrong. He fell in love with another girl who he was seeing ';on the side'; at work. These feelings weren't infatuation. He said he just needed someone to talk to about us. I remember he told me about her in an instant message conversation. Of all things! He asked her if they would ever have a chance together. She said she didn't know. From what it sounded she was everything I wasn't and more. Well that night when we talked he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to break with me because he didn't want to chance loosing to a new relationship with her. I was devestated to hear this. But we never did end the relationship that night. The next morning we got into an arguement. And so once again he said he still wanted to be with her. Once again I told him he has to choose, and if he chooses me he has to break all contact with her. He reluctantly agreed. About 2 months later we had another one of our arguements. He then told me that if we broke up he always wanted to make things workout between him and her. Well we broke up. This time I left. I walked out in tears. But he came after me. Saying he was sorry. I went to a hill we used to sit on when we fell in love those first wonderful months of our relationship. He convinced me to stay. 4 months have passed, and he hasn't given anything that would make me think he still wants to be with her. Recently I found out more bad news. His friends are trying to convince him to break up with me and get back together with her. I feel like he's violated my trust not just once but several times. I told him I didn't like it and I didn't want him to hang out with them. He tells me I have to get over what happened and that he doesn't listen to his friends.





I guess my question is this: Am I wrong to try to tell him I dont want him to hang out with these people? The same ones that were rooting him on when he started seeing this other girl?Can anyone help me...relationship advice?
I understand how you feel about the situation but would you want him telling you who you can hang out with and not. I wouldn't want that. The main thing you should have a in a relationship is trust. If you cant trust him then you might as well not be together.You have to believe that he tells the truth and doesn't do things behind your back. He has to do the same with you also. Guy friends may try to root him on to the other girl but if he truly loves you and wants to be with you, he will stay with you and not listen to them.. Good Luck %26lt;333Can anyone help me...relationship advice?
Boy your really letting him have his cake and eat it too.


When will you ever get to have someone just for you ? why do YOU hang on?


Let him go It will always be the same with him.


Live your life , life is to short to be worrying about unhappy thoughts.
Lost my patience.Be brief.No likes to read history book while surfing.
Wrong section.


+ it's too long, no one here will read it.
hell no you are not wrong girl. You have every right to feel that way. But some advice to you, if he wants to be with someone else, let him. Dont run after any guy because he is not worth a broken heart. Why would you want to be with someone who wants to be with someone else? There are so many fish in the sea and i know five years is a long time. But the longer you stay, the more time you are wasting finding the guy that wants you and only you.....
Friends are for life a girlfriend is not ...I wouldn't tell anyone who they can and can't talk to ...but if he thinks his friends opinions are more important then you then its time to say bye bye to this relationship..once trust is broken then its hard to recover ...








I forgive my wife for cheating but things where never the same , we muddled on for a year or so for the sake of the children but we knew it wasn't going to work cause the trust was gone ..Thankfully we are both happy since the divorce