I really need some help to figure this out (relationship advice)?

All right I will try to find the right words to put this down correctly.





If a person wherever he goes feels there's always someone who desires him, in his relationship he feels he is the one most wanted, gives constant compliments to himself and every now and then gives a compliment to his mate mostly after demand, constantly judges others by appearance and evaluates everyone in a sense that's kind of sexual. BTW the person I'm talking about is 32.


Is it logical for the mate to feel a little ';competitive';, what's the deal with this situation? I really need some help to figure this out (relationship advice)?
I believe it's called a Narcissistic Complex. I have met one or two people that have this disorder. It can be quite unnerving to say the least.


Some people act this way just because they have insecurities and keep telling themselves they are the best, the most beautiful, the handsomest.


You must have allot of love for this man who seems to love himself and admire others this way.


Good luck with him, you need it.I really need some help to figure this out (relationship advice)?
I believe it is logical for the ';mate'; to feel competitve. It's also unfair for the person to go around judging and making the mate feel, I suppose you can say, inadequate. The ';deal with this situation'; is that the person should probably tone down the constant self-righteousness and pay a little more attention to the mate. Hope I helped.





P.S. The goal of a relationship is to not post yourself on a higher pedestal in the relationship. I think its better to make your significant other feel better about themselves instead of concentrating on others.





And the constant looking at other people might be interpreted as checking them out and might make the mate extremeley jealous. So beware.





Thanks for the time,


Duco
In my personal opinion, I would feel competitive also. But not in a good way, it's not good to compete for a guy's attention against himself. A good mate should always ditch himself to hang out with you. If you hadn't already talked to him about it, I would. And if you have, and he's not listening, he doesn't sound like someone you're happy with. And he feels like there is always someone who desires him? He should be telling YOU that he feels like there is always someone who desires YOU, and that he's lucky as hell to have you.





That's my two cents, good luck. Relationships are harder than math.
It sounds like this person has some insecurities. By verbally speaking out about himself (with high praise) he is being obvious to his low self esteem within. He needs that reassurance and I'm sure it is not intended to insult you. He judges others because he'd like to find flaws in someone else rather than facing the reality of his own.


It is understandable for anyone to feel ';competitive';, but it sounds like this guy needs to respect himself more. God makes no mistakes and he needs to accept himself. ( Flaws and all)
Well he is the one who feels that he needs to be in competition with everything and anything and it is a big source of where he gets his self-esteem from. it is logical for the mate to feel a little competitive but if the mate plays to it then he/she is feeding to his source. the best thing to do for the mate is to just let it go and not play to his game.
it depends beause if you like the person alot because i am very concited myself but the difference is i don't boast it out there for everyone hear but anyway back to the point its not worng for the other person to feel competitive beacuse he made you feel that way but when your in a relationship you shouldnt feel that way you should just be happy with your mate its not a competion.... so back to my beging statement if you really like him stay with him and just learn to deal with his attitude but if not move on there are more fish in the sea i hope i helped =]
Uh, I would think so. I think it's an obvious reaction. Personally, I wouldn't bother with feeling competitive, I would just dump the narcissistic SOB. Most of the time their pride is founded in bullshit anyway, so they are in essence, parading themselves as idiots.
Heck ya! If this person is this judgmental you are bound to feel as if you are being judged as well. You might want to really think how important this person is to you. Sounds like nobody can be as wonderful as he is to himself. Hope it was honesty you were after.


Good Luck
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well i think that if the other person really loved u he or she would say nice things 2 u without u having 2 ask him or her 2



Competative, is a BAD word in a relation ship... Get far, and fast. Or get ran the hec over...
He needs to get over himself.


Cause that sounds like a really cocky guy- and it's NOT attractive.





:/
I would feel comeptitive
tap into instincts..


instincts say (what your instincts say here)