He was all for it in the beginning. I am now starting to think it was not really a thing that he needed in his life. He was married when he was 21 ans got a divorce when he was 24. They have a kid together.
My problem is I feel like he is in the '; been there done that'; state of mind and is not being honest with me. His kid is turning 10 tomorrow and it has really gotten me down. I don't want to have his kid so much older that he wont want to do anything with his younger sibling.
Sorry, I am all over the place with this.
To break it down, when I talk to him about this.. he feeds me lines. It is like reverse physchology. '; He says, I want to have kids more than you'; and then once again.. it is all but forgotten.
I am just thinking that it is a lie with him, and I just dont know how much longer I can wait. I dont want to be 40 and then try to have babies?
Also, I dont know when he will ever find money to buy me a ring.. its not really a priority. Instead of buying me an engagement ring.. he got a motorcycle and a 65 inch TV? Its like it never even crossed his mind.
Are guys really that dumb, or am I?
Sorry for the rambling... any help, thoughts or suggestions?Confused about relationship.. your advice?
im only 17 but i treated my fiance worse then that even and...all i can tell you is that if he wont turn around and start treating you better then you might need to go.i cant speak for all guys but i can speak for most people when i say that we all make big mistakes sometimes and some people(like me)wont find a reason to change or see what they're doing until its too late.ma'am your not dumb in this case it is him but...perhaps its time that you start trying to cut ties slowly so that if it does not go anywhere the break up wont be as painful, and cut them slowly in case he does find the changes that could save you, you guys aren't too far gone.i wish you the best of luck and love and hope it all works out one way or another for youConfused about relationship.. your advice?
Give him time. It may take a while, but he'll come around.
Well, the beginnings cloud your vision. He has been there, done that, and it ended badly for him. It's understandable that he would not want to be married. If you haven't seriously discussed marriage as of recently...a ring cannot be expected. You need to sit down and talk to him about what he wants to do. Say, ';It's been 5 years. I just want to know where this is headed. Are we thinking about getting married in the future? If so, we need to figure out the appropriate time. If not, where do we go from here? Do we want children? If we do, the time is coming sooner than later, due to the biological clock';. If he says he will not want to get married -- believe it. If he says ';one day...'; but can't even think about a ballpark time, then you need to decide if it's a dealbreaker. If you need marriage and kids, you may have to walk away if it's not what he wants.
...and don't count your chickens before they hatch. Don't think about kids with him if he can't even think about marriage with you.
In the eyes of others of his ilk, he's the smart one and you're the dummy. He's been using you for years. And you've let him. All based upon the fact that he agreed that eventually you will both marry. I'm a guy and I know plenty of guys like him. they're snakes. Some day you'll understand that this guy is laughting at you behind your back. In fact, he does it to your face. A motorcycle and a TV. in lieu of a ring. If that's not a slap in your face, I don't know what is. Dump this bum. And don't be so polite about it. Dump him good. Dump him the hardest and meanest way possible. That's what he deserves. Get rid of the rat. Get yourself moving. Get yourself in order. Get yourself a real man. You deserve it.
hi.some times people change over the years and realize that they no longer want the same things as each other.he needs to be straight with you about what he wants as he seems like he has a different agenda.men also like to tell us ladys what we want to hear.just to keep us sweet.he wont know what hes got till its gone.im going through some thing similar .may be you are not on his list of prioraties.bear in mind not all men are the same.good luck.
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