I really need some relationship advice. Please read this and help me out?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and we are both 22. He is very serious about the relationship, and he tells me constantly that I’m the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Only one problem—I’m not sure if he’s “the one” for me. He treats me like a queen writing me poems and letters, wining and dining me, letting me win in almost everything (from arguments to games), opens doors for me still, does me favors without wanting anything in return, and he even chose me over his mom. His mom is foreign, and does not want her son dating out of his race because it is “weird, wrong, dirty, abnormal” etc. in her eyes. She hates me with a fiery passion. Because he’s with me, his relationship with his mother has flipped upside down for the worse. Simply put, he’s sacrificed so much for me.





I know my boyfriend is codependent on me. We’ve broke up a few times in the past, and I took him back because he became depressed, withdrawn from the entire world, %26amp; started writing poems about dying%26amp; how he wished his heart would stop beating. I care about him deeply, but now I think it’s only as a friend, and I don’t want to see him horribly depressed just because of me. I want him to move on, because I know there are hundreds of women who would appreciate him and love him, where I fail to do so. He deserves so much better.





Throughout the entire relationship, I’ve always had my doubts about “us”. To me, it just never seemed as if it would last forever, regardless of how wonderful he is to me. Never once did intuitively know that I could spend the rest of my life with him. I feel so comfortable and secure with him, and I am so afraid that if I break up with him I will be making the biggest mistake of my life. But lately I find myself thinking about being with other people, dating again, and I am very distant from my boyfriend. I no longer feel a spark, and his imperfections are starting to annoy me.





Question: I’m trying to figure out if I really love him, or if I should let him go. I know this is cliché, but how do I know if he is the one for me?I really need some relationship advice. Please read this and help me out?
He sounds like a good guy but somewhat of a doormat for you. It is nice that he treats you so well but I know how annoying it can be when someone bends to your every whim or what they think you'll like. I don't know about you but I want a partner not a sad little puppy following me around. I dated a guy like that and would purposefully start saying some crazy stuff. He would agree, never put up a fight. After a while it was like I was dating myself, only what I liked to watch, eat, etc. Pretty boring.





Look if you've never felt that he's really the one and you were just having fun, you aren't doing him any favors by staying with him. He will be sad and will say/do anything to get you back. But if you don't feel like he's the one and he is very serious about making you the one, you need to level with him and part your ways. If it's not there, it won't ever be. He'll get over eventually and so will you. It really sucks when there isn't that huge incident like cheating or constant fighting that breaks people up. I've been there and it is really hard bc there isn't a reason except that you're not in-love although you really like the person. Good luck.I really need some relationship advice. Please read this and help me out?
he sounds very manipulating with his unmanly drama -you want someone who excites you.
There is never a ';the one'; for me. People are not perfect and there will be flaws in everyone. This is why there is no perfect woman/man out there. You are not responsible for his happiness or misery. If he chooses to carry a torch for you, he does so on his own. What is important is how you feel. If you feel you must move on, then do so. You do not want to go through life feeling you cheated yourself on experiences life has to offer because you felt sorry for this guy.
Ugh. I hate when guys get dramatic and fake suicidal (if he were really thinking about suicide, he would not write it down).


One - There's no such thing as ';true love';. Love is a decision. You can make a commitment, you can break a commitment, but anyone who says that love just happens is full of it.


Two - If you're not into him anymore, you should probably move on and let him move on. You can try to be his friend, but if he starts talking suicide, you might need to back off and let his family and friends deal with it. Being involved as a friend after a break, if he is that depressed, will only make things worse.


Tough one. Good luck.
so he worships the ground you walk on and you wanna go start over with some potential d-bag... is that what your saying?





Either forget all this for 2 months or so. love him like your life depended on it. and then reasses after 2 months.


or if your not willing to try that then just break it off today and don't make it worse for him.
Oh man!! If he started writing poems about death and stuff, you need to get him help!! seriously!! i had a boyfriend almost commit suicide on my front yard in front of my younger siblings because i broke up with him. You do not need a guy like that. Go out and find other people, tell him that you need to take a break and try to see other people!! Try websites like Eharmony or something like that, set up some dates where you can meet different people date them, get to know them, etc. But remember you do not need someone that writes about death or him dying in your life.





If you are drifting apart break it off, do not take him back if he writes you poems saying how much he loves you or that he is going to kill himself. He is only trying to get you back. If he really loves you, he will let you go. there is a famous quote that i always follow (there are different versions of it too)





';If you love someone, set them free


If they return, they are yours


If they don't, they never were';





';If you love something enough,


Set it Free.


If it comes back to you,


It is yours to keep.


If it doesn't come back,


Then it was never yours.';





I hope you follow this advice and get out of the relationship as soon as possible. It will be better for both of you in the end!!!
It is unfair to drag the relationship out for a longer period of time if you do not share the similar feelings that your partner shares for you.





Are you are definitely sure that you are willing to throw away a person in your life that is loving you unconditionally and as you say, sacrificing so much to give you everything you deserve.





A hard decision, as obviously if your partner is alone without you he becomes very depressed. Keep him close as a friend if you decide to end the relationship, however don't give him false hope of a reconciliation.





Good luck.!
take a break, a month or so, no contact. see if you need him or what,at 22, you have your whole life ahead of you. take a vacation with out him, see if you miss him! you say ';I’ve always had my doubts about “us”. you will only know!!!
Let him go. Trust me.





I dated a guy like that who was wonderful to me, too, but the thing is, I didn't love him, just like you don't love your boyfriend, at least not romantically.





Just because the guy is perfect on paper, doesn't mean he's perfect for YOU.





Letting him go is the best thing for both of you. You would get to breathe and stop trying to make something fit that doesn't.





And doesn't he deserve to be with a woman who loves him passionately, not just one who appreciates how sweet he is? It will hurt him at first, but it will be the best thing for him in the end.





Do the right thing...