Confused about relationship.. your advice?

I have been dating this guy for about 5 years. When we first got together I made a point to tell him that somewhere down the road I would like to get married and have a kid. ( I am 31 and he is 32 )


He was all for it in the beginning. I am now starting to think it was not really a thing that he needed in his life. He was married when he was 21 ans got a divorce when he was 24. They have a kid together.


My problem is I feel like he is in the '; been there done that'; state of mind and is not being honest with me. His kid is turning 10 tomorrow and it has really gotten me down. I don't want to have his kid so much older that he wont want to do anything with his younger sibling.





Sorry, I am all over the place with this.


To break it down, when I talk to him about this.. he feeds me lines. It is like reverse physchology. '; He says, I want to have kids more than you'; and then once again.. it is all but forgotten.


I am just thinking that it is a lie with him, and I just dont know how much longer I can wait. I dont want to be 40 and then try to have babies?


Also, I dont know when he will ever find money to buy me a ring.. its not really a priority. Instead of buying me an engagement ring.. he got a motorcycle and a 65 inch TV? Its like it never even crossed his mind.


Are guys really that dumb, or am I?





Sorry for the rambling... any help, thoughts or suggestions?Confused about relationship.. your advice?
Sweetie (coming from a guy) it doesn't sound like you are a priority to him. And if you're not one now (after 5 yrs) I'd say it's unlikely you ever will be.......