Who can give me some relationship advice?

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a 1 year 1/2. I'm almost 20 years old %26amp; he is 20. I love him a lot %26amp; he loves me but lately I've been having my doubts about our relationship. I'm in my 2nd year of university and he never finished high school and works part time at a bar. He doesn't really have any goals for the future; he says he'll go to school but I don't really see it happening. It's hard for me because my parents are always on my case about him %26amp; his life %26amp; I never have anything to say to defend him. I do love him but I want to live a good life %26amp; I don't know how good it'll be with him. He doesn't even drive, he's just in driving school now, so for the past year 1/2 I've been doing all the driving too.


Help? Advice?Who can give me some relationship advice?
Read what you wrote. Does it sound like a woman in love? It doesn't to me. It sounds like a woman who knows it's over, but isn't sure how to end it.





Rip the bandage off slow or fast. It's your choice.Who can give me some relationship advice?
Follow your heart/try not to regret for the decisions you make
Just give him a chance.


See if he the things he promises.


If he respects you.


He can support and take care of you.


Dont think about what others say because its your life!


You yourself only know the answer!
From what you've said, its clear that you have already made the decision. You just don't want to be the one to tell yourself the hard truth. You already know that despite how much you care about your boyfriend, this is not what you want for your future self.





The best advise my father ever gave me was when he said that ';What is dating if not the process of finding the person you want to marry?'; And so it has become a rule of mine that I will not continue to date anyone who I know I could not marry. So, for instance, I am not a smoker and could never live with someone who was. So that means I will not date anyone who smokes (that also means that I do not date someone who does and try to make them quit. You can't force your beliefs on someone else. They have to want it too).





You have to decide that you want for you and let the boys go who will not fit into your future life. This is not to be confused with being overly picky... there are always going to be things you have to compromise on in the future but you should know what things are definitely non-negotiable for you.





So far it sounds like you want someone who is a college graduate, like yourself, or who has a career (went to trade school). You clearly want certain things for your future and it seems like this boyfriend of yours is more of a drifter with no real plans, goals or even motivation to get himself together. Do you really want to be with someone for the rest of your life who only does things because he knows you want him to and not because he wants to better himself?





Let him go, hun, and figure out what is good for you. If later on he gets himself together maybe you could try again but don't wait for him. Do what is right by you first and foremost and the rest will come.





Good luck!
he isnt the one for you. he cant take care of you very well, and bars can tend to bring in sane people and let out drunks. im not saying that he is a drunk, but the temptation is pretty big.
If he is holding you back or dragging you down - then I'd say YOU'RE ALLOWED TO THINK ABOUT YOURSELF





And your future happiness





I reckon alot of people will say ''poor guy , stick with him''





But why do they never say ''poor girl''





If you are doing more giving them him , or leading the way - whats wrong with the man giving - and leading the way





You need a man you can look up to surely??
It is okay to be in love, and enjoy his company for now. But not everyone you date has to be the person you want to spend your life with. Sometimes even before you start dating someone you know they are not the kind of person you need as a life partner, but you can still enjoy dating.


You are right to have second thoughts, differences in life goals, level of education, and the big M...money, can ruin a relationship after the glow of lust wears off. Being realistic is part of life.
Sounds to me that he is still needing a mother. He doesn't drive, hasn't finished high school, does he have his GED? And then he works a bar part time. You know yourself working part time isn't getting you very far, please if he wanted to go back to school there is all kind of help out there. And if he doesn't want to go to school right now then why doesn't he have full time job to help you out? Think about life and what you want before you jump in too deep. You didn't give birth to him.
You wouldn't be asking if you did not have doubts about your relationship. If you love him enough you can over look his faults. If you do not love him enough to over look his faults, you need to move on. Good luck
your still young and have a lot of living to do . i think the more older you get you will realize the you guys dont have much in common and that you will be looking for things that he cant provide for you, so maybe you Dont have to make that decision now but in time it will happen unless he gets his act together
well Kat this is one of those age old problems-girls mature faster than guys do.


You are at the point now in your relationship where you are looking down the road and from where you stand now it looks like it's all up-hill.


If you can not defend him or his actions then the love you have is fading. If you loved him unconditionally there would be no hesitation in your defence of his attitude to life.


He only works part-time -what's he doing with the rest of his week?He sounds like he lacks motivation-big time.


I would spend some time assessing your relationship pros/cons and if he is not the man for you get out of the relationship finish your schooling and do not look back.


If you think you deserve better-then you do!
if you are already questioning being with him, it isn't going to get any better.
when 2 people are not of the same level or will never be, just doesn't work, because after a while when you only give and have nothing in return (mentally) it gets very tiring, and then you feel you're not going anywhere.


then you feel worthless, and when that happens, it will be even more devastating because the years will go by, and you and your partner will be even more attached to one another. and maybe you will do drastic things that you won't like from yourself either.


something similar happened to me, so if he is not up to catching up with you, then he is not right for you.


if you are weak, he will drag you down, and your life will be miserable.
you are only 20, things will change when you are over 30
He does sound like a loser, doesn't he? First advice is to tell your parents to back off, you can make your own decisions, that you know they mean well but sometimes girls your age don't like being told what to do and you might have dropped him a long time ago if they weren't always telling you to do it. I think you already know what to do about the boyfriend. Take a good look at him and decide if he's the man for you.
Find someone who you like just the way they are... trying to get someone to change is never a good basis for a relationship... though most people have relationships on that premise.
You really should consider your future with him. If you were planning to get married, then how would he be able to help support you? He needs to hold up half of the bargain, also. Maybe give him a little bit of time to clean himself up; but school or a steady job would be a necessity.





Good luck.


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i know what you mean. you're like this guy, but you want him to be a actual gentelman.


all i can say is this:


behind any succesfull man, there is a woman.
If you're having doubts thats completely fine. You may love him, but the biggest issue of all-do you love your life with him? If you dont, then it's ok to say, you know what- I need something different. If you guys are going in different directions thats just a part of life. The point of a relationship is to be happy together, and clearly you arent happy with his choice of lifestyle, I dont blame you, the point of life is to move UP not stay the same or go down. You guys are so young, the odds of you getting married are so slim, moving on will not hurt you in the long run. If you know deep down that this isnt what you want, then worry about only yourself and also show him respect by making a difficult decision instead of stringing him along with love and doubts.





good luck!
you, have a very hard question to answer so i hope i help.


You should casually ask him what he wants to do for a living. When he answers you can start to ask him when he is going to get his GED. And then you know the conversation should bloom. But if it doesn't you need to tell him your life's intentions, kids, house, pool. cars, jobs you know the ';Works';. I hope my advise helps and good luck!
well i reccommend taolking to him about how you feel.saying these exact things first.and specify what you think he should do about it and see how that goes.if that doesnt work then i wouldnt stay with him too much longer..i mean i know you love him and i know money isnt everything..but if he doesnt have any plans for the future then how is he gonna support you and if you plan on having kids how would he support them..just tell him how you feel and if he really gives a crap you should see results.good luck
i would tell him to turn it around and that you love him and **** but that if he wants to stay together to turn his life around