Need advice! relationship started when I wasnt technically single...?

Hi, I need advice from all you beautiful people out there. Your experience and expertise are appreciated.





Here is my current situation: I have been dating a man for 3.5 years and have not been happy for quite sometime. He is emotionally abusive and I have been stuck. I have been wanting to break up with him but he has abandonment/attachment issues so I have to wait until its a safe time (i.e. he is with his family so they can ensure he doesnt hurt himself). That safe time wont be for another few weeks.


In the meantime, I have felt emotionally and physically separated from him for months. I have felt single during this time even though I technically am not.


So in comes new guy. After a few weeks of hanging out we both realized we are totally in love with one another. He is everything I have ever wanted, a whole nuther level of man above my boyfriend. Through knowing him I have realized how much me and my boyfriend are not good for each other, and that he is not what I want long term.





So knowing all this my question is: can I have a healthy relationship with this new guy if it started before I was technically single? I just want us to be happy without anything getting in the way.





Maybe this will help: new guy and I have agreed not to see each other again until I am technically single and ready for a relationship. But we probably will talk on the phone (maybe eliminate that too?).





Thank you!!!!Need advice! relationship started when I wasnt technically single...?
Have you realized that you are cheating on this new guy you are with and ';so in love with?'; Does he know that you are currently in a relationship other than the one you are in with him?


Relationships don't end well when they start off deceitful.


maybe you should learn to be happy by yourself instead of switching from one man to another.