Ok sorry if this is weird or stupid, but I need some help.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for one year and seven months. We met on myspace... and we have a great relationship! We have alot of things in common... exept location, age, and religion.
I'm 16, he just turned 19.
I live in Texas, he lives in Egypt.
and He is Muslim, and I am Agnostic. But that's not the problem.!
a few weeks ago he got this thingy called the magic jack.. so he can call me on the phone, I have heard his voice before... because we talk with mics...
BUT! for some reason.. when he calls me, i get reallly nervous.. like butterflies in my stomach. and all that.. and we dont know what to talk about.. on the phone. when we are IM-ing, Email-ing, and Video chatting, we know what to talk about... and there is no problem..
but when we are on the phone... its almost, awkward. But i don't know why!
can anyone tell me why? PLEASE HELP? why is it so awkward, and why can we BOTH not find anything to talk about?Can someone give me some relationship advice? This may be wierd!?
you trip over yourself when ur on the phone
you care more what they think...
just talk about the same things you talk about when ur im-ingCan someone give me some relationship advice? This may be wierd!?
just chill, calm down and say somthin like ';how was ur day';
Friday, January 8, 2010
Guys or girls... i need relationship advice!! why am i scared of commitment?
I just recently started dating this boy that i have had feelings for for 2 years i think and we really like eachother and he told me that he wants this to last fora really long time... im really scared because this is my first real real relationship and he has had many so i put up a wall... i want it to work also. and also i'm a virgin and he isn't so it kinda scares me so i don't know when i want to have sex i don't think i'm ready yet... im 17 years old btw if that helps. please give me advice on what to do with myself i can't stop thinking about it... my question is how do i make myself less scared of everything?Guys or girls... i need relationship advice!! why am i scared of commitment?
it happens
only advice i can give you is dont do anything you'll regret later. and don't get toooo involved in it...yet. because you never know. just be careful. so u dnt end up getting hurt more later.
hope everything works out for you.Guys or girls... i need relationship advice!! why am i scared of commitment?
What you feel is perfectly natural. Tell him, and take it slow. You don't have to have sex, and you can leave anytime. But your fears are around him, so you need to tell him.
it happens
only advice i can give you is dont do anything you'll regret later. and don't get toooo involved in it...yet. because you never know. just be careful. so u dnt end up getting hurt more later.
hope everything works out for you.Guys or girls... i need relationship advice!! why am i scared of commitment?
What you feel is perfectly natural. Tell him, and take it slow. You don't have to have sex, and you can leave anytime. But your fears are around him, so you need to tell him.
Please, I need some urgent relationship advice!?
I'm 28. I split with my ex for 1.5 years, he dumped me after saying 'we weren't compatible'. In between we saw eachother and occasionally slept together. Now he's back and wants to see if it works. But I'm not so sure anymore. I feel lonely hence week to make decisions like this. I decided to try it out and hang out with him. But the first plan we made to go out to the movies (after having slept together two days ago) he didn't even bother to call to say he couldn't go. WE hadn't agreed on a time but it was a certain plan. I got upset and broke it off because for me it indicated he's not interested. He, on the other side, tells me: I thought that if you were interested in going you would call. You can call too';. Also he's always had this problem, with everyone. He's very uncomitted to everything and everyone. He says he's ';detached';. I'm afraid of loosing him but at the same time i'm afraid of messing up my life again. I've been pretty depressed over him but I love him, I think. I know that if we got back together I would have to sacrifice a lot of what I expect in a partner. But maybe sometimes that has to happen. Advice will be appreciated. Thank you :)Please, I need some urgent relationship advice!?
Move on, it seems like the relationship would be all work on your end and none on his....which is probably why he came back, because he realized how good he had it with you doing all the work. good luck hun.cream treatment
Move on, it seems like the relationship would be all work on your end and none on his....which is probably why he came back, because he realized how good he had it with you doing all the work. good luck hun.
Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
OK this may turn out kinda long but I hope someone takes the time to read it. My gf and I have been dating for almost a year (11 months). I am 21 yrs old and in college. We met over a year ago and began dating pretty much right away. We are very different people when it comes to our personalities but have lots of similarities in the way we were raised and the way we live.
I will admit that this is by far the longest relationship I have ever had (she's actually my only real gf ever). For many yrs I simply jumped from girl to girl and never stayed very long. I like women and for some reason women like me too. But she was very different from what I am used to so I stayed with her this long. I do feel like I love her and I've told her. We have even discussed the possibility of getting married one day. She tells me that for her I am ';it';. Our relationship is pretty great. We have problems and some of them are big but we have always decided that we want to be with each other.
We both recently moved out of our parent's house and got our own places to finish our degrees. And thats where I noticed the problems.
I'm gonna be completely honest here. I just ';don't feel it';. Thats the best way I can put it. I dont feel the want of being in the relationship anymore or the passion during sex. I do not miss her when she's gone and sometimes feel better when I'm alone. Don't get me wrong I do care about her very much and would do anything to make her happy. But sometimes I think thats the only reason that I have stuck around this long. I do not know if these feelings have arisen because of our relationship or if it is a result of the big move and total change in lifestyle and new city and everything. The truth is that I have no one here except for her.
I need to know if I should tell her most of this stuff and ask her if we can take a break and see if were better off by ourselves. I know that doing that is a total gamble and I could be destroying the best relationship I have ever had.
The problem comes from the fact that she is very dependent emotionally on me. She openly admits that. I know that she loves me more than I love her. To be honest although she is beautiful, I am the better looking of the 2. She is also not as social as me so she has trouble making friends. In the past year her only new friends have been the ones that I already had or made. And I feel like she will need me if we were to break up.
I need to know what you think is the best thing to do. Do I talk to her about this and call for a break? just break up? suck it up and see how it goes?
If we separate I will miss her dearly but for some reason I think I would be happier alone. She thinks everything is going great right now so this whole thing would be a shock to her. I know she is much more commited to this relationship than I am.
Please help me out with your opinions. BUT PLEASE NO HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW STUFF ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Adults only thanks.Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
I think you answered your own question in the statment ';I think I would be happier alone.'; This is your life too, and as important as it is to let her down gently, know that you only get one chance so make the most of it. Don't get stuck in a r/s you aren't happy in... live! Things are going to be hard for awhile and really crappy/sad, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck.
I will admit that this is by far the longest relationship I have ever had (she's actually my only real gf ever). For many yrs I simply jumped from girl to girl and never stayed very long. I like women and for some reason women like me too. But she was very different from what I am used to so I stayed with her this long. I do feel like I love her and I've told her. We have even discussed the possibility of getting married one day. She tells me that for her I am ';it';. Our relationship is pretty great. We have problems and some of them are big but we have always decided that we want to be with each other.
We both recently moved out of our parent's house and got our own places to finish our degrees. And thats where I noticed the problems.
I'm gonna be completely honest here. I just ';don't feel it';. Thats the best way I can put it. I dont feel the want of being in the relationship anymore or the passion during sex. I do not miss her when she's gone and sometimes feel better when I'm alone. Don't get me wrong I do care about her very much and would do anything to make her happy. But sometimes I think thats the only reason that I have stuck around this long. I do not know if these feelings have arisen because of our relationship or if it is a result of the big move and total change in lifestyle and new city and everything. The truth is that I have no one here except for her.
I need to know if I should tell her most of this stuff and ask her if we can take a break and see if were better off by ourselves. I know that doing that is a total gamble and I could be destroying the best relationship I have ever had.
The problem comes from the fact that she is very dependent emotionally on me. She openly admits that. I know that she loves me more than I love her. To be honest although she is beautiful, I am the better looking of the 2. She is also not as social as me so she has trouble making friends. In the past year her only new friends have been the ones that I already had or made. And I feel like she will need me if we were to break up.
I need to know what you think is the best thing to do. Do I talk to her about this and call for a break? just break up? suck it up and see how it goes?
If we separate I will miss her dearly but for some reason I think I would be happier alone. She thinks everything is going great right now so this whole thing would be a shock to her. I know she is much more commited to this relationship than I am.
Please help me out with your opinions. BUT PLEASE NO HIGH SCHOOL PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW STUFF ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. Adults only thanks.Can someone please give me relationship advice??? This isnt some teenage problem.?
I think you answered your own question in the statment ';I think I would be happier alone.'; This is your life too, and as important as it is to let her down gently, know that you only get one chance so make the most of it. Don't get stuck in a r/s you aren't happy in... live! Things are going to be hard for awhile and really crappy/sad, but time will heal the hurt. Good luck.
Im a guy looking for relationship advice, please help me?
so as you can tell, i'm a bit desperate here. i'm currently with a girl who's such a sweetheart but she isn't anything like my ex. my ex and i were together for a year and she moved away because of some family issues she had so we sort of grew apart. now shes back and all those feelings i had for her came back. we've been hanging out but she knows im with a girl who i really would hate to hurt. its just my ex and i have that connection. we enjoy every moment we spend together and laugh all the time. shes wonderful. i feel like i truly love her but then there's the girl im with. i feel soo bad cause shes such a sweetheart but we never laugh. it takes me hours just to get her to smile. should i stay with her and try to make it work? or explain to her i still love my ex. i need a lot of advice..badly.Im a guy looking for relationship advice, please help me?
Was your ex your first love? If so, remember that there will ALWAYS be something there for her! Even if you and her are both with someone new, there will always be that connection and a place in your heart for her that will never be filled by anyone else. What you have to decide if it is love your still feeling for her or if it is just that connection with her. Try looking farther than just the present. Picture your life 5 to 10 years down the road. Who do you see? Which girl is it easier to picture your life without? Whatever happens, always follow your heart and go where it leads you. You should never stay with a person you don't love because you are afraid of hurting them. It may seem better for her in the short-run, but in the long-run you'll be hurting her more by not giving her the love she deserves. I wish I could offer you some better advice, but this is one of those questions that ONLY you can answer for yourself! Good luck sweetie! Hope it all works out 4 you. :)Im a guy looking for relationship advice, please help me?
i agree with the whole ';follow your heart'; thing. but i know that doesnt help one bit. go with the old girlfriend. your recent one isnt making you happy, and the longer you keep this up, the more unhappy she will be. so if you tell her the truth, you stop wasting both of your time and you both get to do what you want.=everyone is happy. let her down soft, just dont make up somoething stupid cause she WILL find out. they always do =).
You can't stay with someone just to keep from letting them down or just because they're sweet---you'll only end up hurting them anyway. Sounds like you already know your decision.
Follow your heart! =)
hear with your head, listen with your heart.
Was your ex your first love? If so, remember that there will ALWAYS be something there for her! Even if you and her are both with someone new, there will always be that connection and a place in your heart for her that will never be filled by anyone else. What you have to decide if it is love your still feeling for her or if it is just that connection with her. Try looking farther than just the present. Picture your life 5 to 10 years down the road. Who do you see? Which girl is it easier to picture your life without? Whatever happens, always follow your heart and go where it leads you. You should never stay with a person you don't love because you are afraid of hurting them. It may seem better for her in the short-run, but in the long-run you'll be hurting her more by not giving her the love she deserves. I wish I could offer you some better advice, but this is one of those questions that ONLY you can answer for yourself! Good luck sweetie! Hope it all works out 4 you. :)Im a guy looking for relationship advice, please help me?
i agree with the whole ';follow your heart'; thing. but i know that doesnt help one bit. go with the old girlfriend. your recent one isnt making you happy, and the longer you keep this up, the more unhappy she will be. so if you tell her the truth, you stop wasting both of your time and you both get to do what you want.=everyone is happy. let her down soft, just dont make up somoething stupid cause she WILL find out. they always do =).
You can't stay with someone just to keep from letting them down or just because they're sweet---you'll only end up hurting them anyway. Sounds like you already know your decision.
Follow your heart! =)
hear with your head, listen with your heart.
In need of some friendship/relationship advice! Please help!?
I went out with this girl named Heather (cherry_coke_14) for a week in the beginning of Oct. We broke up and this guy named Avery became my best friend. Turns out he has been in love with her since before we went out. But the catch is: I also still love her. And she has moved on from me and feels nothing toward Avery. Confused yet? It gets worse. He doesnt know that i still love her because i would feel like crap if he knew because it would crush him. AND even if she did like me, i would still say ';no'; because i would not be able to live with myself if anything happened while Avery still likes her. But he is obsessed with her and it crushes me every time he talks about his love for her. It feels like he is rubbing it in my face but he doesnt know so its not his fault. My friendship with Avery means more to me than a relationship with Heather. But it KILLS me every time i think about our situation. Am i doing the right thing by not telling him and living with the pain? What should i do?In need of some friendship/relationship advice! Please help!?
to say that u have a true friend, one u can depend on day or night is a rare thing. Girls and will come and go in your life before u find the right one. But a friend will be there forever. I would not tell him.In need of some friendship/relationship advice! Please help!?
Just tell him she was your girlfriend. He should understand that she is off limits. If he doesn't, he really isn't a friend. Simple as that.
Either way, if she feels nothing towards this Avery dude, why care? Let him try and get shot down. Then you can give him some head like you probably fantasize about doing.
Let Avery have her. I mean a week? There's probaby better gurls and you should tell him too if she moved.
There are more fish in the sea, and you only went out with her for a week. You'll get over her-just endure it for now.
If I was u I would not tell Avery because then it could ruin your friendship. Relationships come and go but friends are forever. This is very true...i have seen this happen.
ooh...sounds like ur stuck in a sticky situation. *pats ur shoulders* okay...*therapy session time!* please sit down and take a seat, any seat. okay...so ur afraid of telling ur ex's bf that you still like her...and u dont wanna hurt his feelings, when you're the one whose feelings are hurt?? hmmm........i like the fact that you care about his feelings and all, but what about you?? you know you've gotta stand up for yourself somehow, someway. yeah well since I have no idea what to tell you, you can play with my silly putty while I try to figure this out....
SILLY PUTTY!
still confused, broken up inside...dont wanna hurt his feelings?? hmmm....
SILLY PUTTY!!!
Confused, hurt, feelings....hmmm....???
SILLY PUTTY!!!!!!!!!
confused...hurt....feelings....aaagggg… I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE!! that silly putty noise is driving me mad...okay okay! look why don't you just write out your feelings and give someone the pice of paper...anyone!! family, friend, sister, brother, grandma, your dog, your fish...better yet just give it to me!!? *sigh* okay, that's the best I've got. Also it was entertaining...specially the silly putty.
Hands back silly putty, a little sadly..
~hangs head low, as your walking out the door~
.......
YOU'D BETTER HAVE HAD ENJOYED THAT SILLY PUTTY!! cuse, there's pen marks all over it...write on a pice of paper next time?! okay?! kay. good.
~slams door.!~
boys...girls...cant live with them, can't live without them. =) ^_^
to say that u have a true friend, one u can depend on day or night is a rare thing. Girls and will come and go in your life before u find the right one. But a friend will be there forever. I would not tell him.In need of some friendship/relationship advice! Please help!?
Just tell him she was your girlfriend. He should understand that she is off limits. If he doesn't, he really isn't a friend. Simple as that.
Either way, if she feels nothing towards this Avery dude, why care? Let him try and get shot down. Then you can give him some head like you probably fantasize about doing.
Let Avery have her. I mean a week? There's probaby better gurls and you should tell him too if she moved.
There are more fish in the sea, and you only went out with her for a week. You'll get over her-just endure it for now.
If I was u I would not tell Avery because then it could ruin your friendship. Relationships come and go but friends are forever. This is very true...i have seen this happen.
ooh...sounds like ur stuck in a sticky situation. *pats ur shoulders* okay...*therapy session time!* please sit down and take a seat, any seat. okay...so ur afraid of telling ur ex's bf that you still like her...and u dont wanna hurt his feelings, when you're the one whose feelings are hurt?? hmmm........i like the fact that you care about his feelings and all, but what about you?? you know you've gotta stand up for yourself somehow, someway. yeah well since I have no idea what to tell you, you can play with my silly putty while I try to figure this out....
SILLY PUTTY!
still confused, broken up inside...dont wanna hurt his feelings?? hmmm....
SILLY PUTTY!!!
Confused, hurt, feelings....hmmm....???
SILLY PUTTY!!!!!!!!!
confused...hurt....feelings....aaagggg… I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE!! that silly putty noise is driving me mad...okay okay! look why don't you just write out your feelings and give someone the pice of paper...anyone!! family, friend, sister, brother, grandma, your dog, your fish...better yet just give it to me!!? *sigh* okay, that's the best I've got. Also it was entertaining...specially the silly putty.
Hands back silly putty, a little sadly..
~hangs head low, as your walking out the door~
.......
YOU'D BETTER HAVE HAD ENJOYED THAT SILLY PUTTY!! cuse, there's pen marks all over it...write on a pice of paper next time?! okay?! kay. good.
~slams door.!~
boys...girls...cant live with them, can't live without them. =) ^_^
Guys and girls I need relationship advice?
So for Vday my serious bf went all out and spoiled me. He got me roses, diamond earrings, and took me out to a really nice dinner. I of course wanted to do something for him so I bought lingerie.. and you get the drift.. but then shortly after he told me about the male version of Vday which is March 14th- steak and bj day. I looked it up and sure enough it is a real day but obviously not very well known. We kind of joked about it and I just forgot about it.
Yesterday was March 14th and we had plans to hang out. I took him out for dinner and then we went back to his place and watched a movie. We were cuddling and he seemed upset so I asked him what was wrong.. he just sighs and tells me that he was kind of disappointed because he had high expectations for the day. I was confused and then he brought of up steak and bj day... I was really annoyed and hurt. The fact that he expected it really bothered me. It also bothered me that apparently me taking him out to dinner and just hanging out with me wasn't enough. Then I started to feel guilty.. like a good gf would have known to celebrate this ';fake'; holiday because he went all out on v-day.
So i'm torn between being mad at him and feeling really bad. Any input?? Sorry it's so long.Guys and girls I need relationship advice?
be mad.
that's ridiculous.
that holiday is false.
i know no one who knows what that is.Guys and girls I need relationship advice?
thats terrible. you weren't ready for that yet so he should respect you. you should tell him how you feel.
Yesterday was March 14th and we had plans to hang out. I took him out for dinner and then we went back to his place and watched a movie. We were cuddling and he seemed upset so I asked him what was wrong.. he just sighs and tells me that he was kind of disappointed because he had high expectations for the day. I was confused and then he brought of up steak and bj day... I was really annoyed and hurt. The fact that he expected it really bothered me. It also bothered me that apparently me taking him out to dinner and just hanging out with me wasn't enough. Then I started to feel guilty.. like a good gf would have known to celebrate this ';fake'; holiday because he went all out on v-day.
So i'm torn between being mad at him and feeling really bad. Any input?? Sorry it's so long.Guys and girls I need relationship advice?
be mad.
that's ridiculous.
that holiday is false.
i know no one who knows what that is.Guys and girls I need relationship advice?
thats terrible. you weren't ready for that yet so he should respect you. you should tell him how you feel.
Can you offer me some relationship advice?
Here's the deal: I am torn between these two great guys. One of them is a friend of a friend's. ';Chris'; is really sweet. He calls and texts me several times a day. Sometimes, he'll have a reason to talk, but other times, he'll just hit me up to say hi. The problem I have with him is (and I know this is really shallow) he isn't cute... like at all. Also, while I appreciate that he shows his interest in me with an everyday call, he seems rather clingy. I like having a little me time. Anyways, this other guy, ';Steven';, is really sweet, too. He's one of my best friends. We've known each other for a couple of years now. Mainly, we'll talk through IM or something. It's a treat to have him call me. I've liked him now for about 5 or 6 months. He has a sort of awkwardness about him, but I still think he's cute, and we are able to talk about anything. We enjoy each other's company. I've debated over whether or not I should tell him how I feel. I fear rejection. However, my fear is somewhat irrational because he's tells me whenever he's crushing on a new girl. In the past, each one of those crushes have rejected him. It breaks my heart, too. He goes through the trouble of buying flowers and writing poetry. Lately, he hasn't been talking about his most recent crush. She's got a boyfriend. A little time afterwords, he would talk about how he'd still try for her, but now, he hasn't mentioned her. Should I try my luck with my best friend and risk rejection? How do I tell him without guilting him into reciprocating my feelings towards him? Do I tell him on the phone, through text, email? How long should I put it off? If I were to tell ';Steven'; I like him as more than a friend, how do I politely get ';Chris'; to back down?Can you offer me some relationship advice?
It seems you do not like Chris, so don't wast the poor man's time.. Tell him you only see him as a friend. Be polite. Go ahead and tell Steven you like him.. I know it's easier said than done but you have to get it out.. What will happen is going to happen, be brave.. If possible, tell him face to face.. If not, maybe a text will do although you have to say it seriously or he'll think your are just joking around.Can you offer me some relationship advice?
You could go out with the other guy and tell Chris that what he is doing is sweet and everything but you have bf and you don't wan to ruin your relationship with either of th e two boys
forget Chris
tell Steave your free one night and see what his Response is .
Happens all the time girl!!! Maybe to get Stevens attention start talking about liking one of his close friends(just to see how he reacts) and then maybe say no never mind a later that day! Depending on his reaction will tell you if he likes you more than a friend or as a friend! Talk to him in person...cuz if he is a close friend you will be able to see the answer when you look at him in the eyes!! You shouldn't tell chris n e thing after a while he will get the hint! (normally)
Take the chance with Steven. Only because you got alot more to say about him than with Chris. Plus. You said some negative things about chris and it doesnt look like steven is that big of a problem. Tell him in person how you feel. Tell him that you guys need to talk and You need to talk about it in person. Because thats the only way you can really tell him. Don't wait much longer. And also tell him that it kills you to seee him get hurt and that maybe you guys should try.
It's hard when you have a crush on your best friend but if you have one for him there might be a chance he can have one for you. But then again, rejection can leave a bump in the relationship depending on how its handled but alot of relationships start from a friendship...like mine did.
You can be subtle and make little hints to see how he reacts or do things that are more for couples or things that you would do in a relationship...he might like you and be unaware of it...like another path to choose from but to him the path isnt cleared so he passes it by...maybe he needs someone to open it for him. You know him best so you will know how. Another option is to come out and talk to eachother and let him know what feelings you are having and what you think of him. You dont have to come out and say...I like you more than a friend...but maybe something more subtle maybe see if he hold your hand...will he lean in for a kiss if youre close enough, how will he react if he thought you were into someone else...not by lying though..never lie
test it out....but dont do anything like this through text or email
And as for the other guy, hes sweet and everything and might have false hope for something between you but if you want him to still be a friend, maybe ';miss'; some of his calls to let him know you are not available for him all the time.
i hope everything works out for you
well if you tell steven that you like him, and he likes you, you can tell chris you have a boyfriend and he'll get the message. as for the telling steven part, i have no idea. sorry... im not good with confronting people with things like that but good luck :)
I dunno... i kinda had your experience... but i'm the ';Chris'; of the situation... so i think u just have to tell chris that u like someone... and gamble with steven... simple as that... chris have to get over... coz men get over... we're players remember? then do something about your connection with steven... don't expect anything... just do the things u do with him.. show some hints.. like joking around about how u like him... but not to the point that it sounds bullshit... and don't expect anything... just wait for improvements... he'll make his move if he wants u
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First, begin to use that big button that says ';Enter';. Big hunks of text like that are really annoying to read.
Second, choose the one you like, not the one you should like or could like. Call him, text him, IM him, or talk to him in person if that's what you want, it really doesn't matter. Ask him out somewhere and make sure its just the two of you, he'll get the hint.cream treatment
It seems you do not like Chris, so don't wast the poor man's time.. Tell him you only see him as a friend. Be polite. Go ahead and tell Steven you like him.. I know it's easier said than done but you have to get it out.. What will happen is going to happen, be brave.. If possible, tell him face to face.. If not, maybe a text will do although you have to say it seriously or he'll think your are just joking around.Can you offer me some relationship advice?
You could go out with the other guy and tell Chris that what he is doing is sweet and everything but you have bf and you don't wan to ruin your relationship with either of th e two boys
forget Chris
tell Steave your free one night and see what his Response is .
Happens all the time girl!!! Maybe to get Stevens attention start talking about liking one of his close friends(just to see how he reacts) and then maybe say no never mind a later that day! Depending on his reaction will tell you if he likes you more than a friend or as a friend! Talk to him in person...cuz if he is a close friend you will be able to see the answer when you look at him in the eyes!! You shouldn't tell chris n e thing after a while he will get the hint! (normally)
Take the chance with Steven. Only because you got alot more to say about him than with Chris. Plus. You said some negative things about chris and it doesnt look like steven is that big of a problem. Tell him in person how you feel. Tell him that you guys need to talk and You need to talk about it in person. Because thats the only way you can really tell him. Don't wait much longer. And also tell him that it kills you to seee him get hurt and that maybe you guys should try.
It's hard when you have a crush on your best friend but if you have one for him there might be a chance he can have one for you. But then again, rejection can leave a bump in the relationship depending on how its handled but alot of relationships start from a friendship...like mine did.
You can be subtle and make little hints to see how he reacts or do things that are more for couples or things that you would do in a relationship...he might like you and be unaware of it...like another path to choose from but to him the path isnt cleared so he passes it by...maybe he needs someone to open it for him. You know him best so you will know how. Another option is to come out and talk to eachother and let him know what feelings you are having and what you think of him. You dont have to come out and say...I like you more than a friend...but maybe something more subtle maybe see if he hold your hand...will he lean in for a kiss if youre close enough, how will he react if he thought you were into someone else...not by lying though..never lie
test it out....but dont do anything like this through text or email
And as for the other guy, hes sweet and everything and might have false hope for something between you but if you want him to still be a friend, maybe ';miss'; some of his calls to let him know you are not available for him all the time.
i hope everything works out for you
well if you tell steven that you like him, and he likes you, you can tell chris you have a boyfriend and he'll get the message. as for the telling steven part, i have no idea. sorry... im not good with confronting people with things like that but good luck :)
I dunno... i kinda had your experience... but i'm the ';Chris'; of the situation... so i think u just have to tell chris that u like someone... and gamble with steven... simple as that... chris have to get over... coz men get over... we're players remember? then do something about your connection with steven... don't expect anything... just do the things u do with him.. show some hints.. like joking around about how u like him... but not to the point that it sounds bullshit... and don't expect anything... just wait for improvements... he'll make his move if he wants u
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First, begin to use that big button that says ';Enter';. Big hunks of text like that are really annoying to read.
Second, choose the one you like, not the one you should like or could like. Call him, text him, IM him, or talk to him in person if that's what you want, it really doesn't matter. Ask him out somewhere and make sure its just the two of you, he'll get the hint.
Who can give me some relationship advice?
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a 1 year 1/2. I'm almost 20 years old %26amp; he is 20. I love him a lot %26amp; he loves me but lately I've been having my doubts about our relationship. I'm in my 2nd year of university and he never finished high school and works part time at a bar. He doesn't really have any goals for the future; he says he'll go to school but I don't really see it happening. It's hard for me because my parents are always on my case about him %26amp; his life %26amp; I never have anything to say to defend him. I do love him but I want to live a good life %26amp; I don't know how good it'll be with him. He doesn't even drive, he's just in driving school now, so for the past year 1/2 I've been doing all the driving too.
Help? Advice?Who can give me some relationship advice?
Read what you wrote. Does it sound like a woman in love? It doesn't to me. It sounds like a woman who knows it's over, but isn't sure how to end it.
Rip the bandage off slow or fast. It's your choice.Who can give me some relationship advice?
Follow your heart/try not to regret for the decisions you make
Just give him a chance.
See if he the things he promises.
If he respects you.
He can support and take care of you.
Dont think about what others say because its your life!
You yourself only know the answer!
From what you've said, its clear that you have already made the decision. You just don't want to be the one to tell yourself the hard truth. You already know that despite how much you care about your boyfriend, this is not what you want for your future self.
The best advise my father ever gave me was when he said that ';What is dating if not the process of finding the person you want to marry?'; And so it has become a rule of mine that I will not continue to date anyone who I know I could not marry. So, for instance, I am not a smoker and could never live with someone who was. So that means I will not date anyone who smokes (that also means that I do not date someone who does and try to make them quit. You can't force your beliefs on someone else. They have to want it too).
You have to decide that you want for you and let the boys go who will not fit into your future life. This is not to be confused with being overly picky... there are always going to be things you have to compromise on in the future but you should know what things are definitely non-negotiable for you.
So far it sounds like you want someone who is a college graduate, like yourself, or who has a career (went to trade school). You clearly want certain things for your future and it seems like this boyfriend of yours is more of a drifter with no real plans, goals or even motivation to get himself together. Do you really want to be with someone for the rest of your life who only does things because he knows you want him to and not because he wants to better himself?
Let him go, hun, and figure out what is good for you. If later on he gets himself together maybe you could try again but don't wait for him. Do what is right by you first and foremost and the rest will come.
Good luck!
he isnt the one for you. he cant take care of you very well, and bars can tend to bring in sane people and let out drunks. im not saying that he is a drunk, but the temptation is pretty big.
If he is holding you back or dragging you down - then I'd say YOU'RE ALLOWED TO THINK ABOUT YOURSELF
And your future happiness
I reckon alot of people will say ''poor guy , stick with him''
But why do they never say ''poor girl''
If you are doing more giving them him , or leading the way - whats wrong with the man giving - and leading the way
You need a man you can look up to surely??
It is okay to be in love, and enjoy his company for now. But not everyone you date has to be the person you want to spend your life with. Sometimes even before you start dating someone you know they are not the kind of person you need as a life partner, but you can still enjoy dating.
You are right to have second thoughts, differences in life goals, level of education, and the big M...money, can ruin a relationship after the glow of lust wears off. Being realistic is part of life.
Sounds to me that he is still needing a mother. He doesn't drive, hasn't finished high school, does he have his GED? And then he works a bar part time. You know yourself working part time isn't getting you very far, please if he wanted to go back to school there is all kind of help out there. And if he doesn't want to go to school right now then why doesn't he have full time job to help you out? Think about life and what you want before you jump in too deep. You didn't give birth to him.
You wouldn't be asking if you did not have doubts about your relationship. If you love him enough you can over look his faults. If you do not love him enough to over look his faults, you need to move on. Good luck
your still young and have a lot of living to do . i think the more older you get you will realize the you guys dont have much in common and that you will be looking for things that he cant provide for you, so maybe you Dont have to make that decision now but in time it will happen unless he gets his act together
well Kat this is one of those age old problems-girls mature faster than guys do.
You are at the point now in your relationship where you are looking down the road and from where you stand now it looks like it's all up-hill.
If you can not defend him or his actions then the love you have is fading. If you loved him unconditionally there would be no hesitation in your defence of his attitude to life.
He only works part-time -what's he doing with the rest of his week?He sounds like he lacks motivation-big time.
I would spend some time assessing your relationship pros/cons and if he is not the man for you get out of the relationship finish your schooling and do not look back.
If you think you deserve better-then you do!
if you are already questioning being with him, it isn't going to get any better.
when 2 people are not of the same level or will never be, just doesn't work, because after a while when you only give and have nothing in return (mentally) it gets very tiring, and then you feel you're not going anywhere.
then you feel worthless, and when that happens, it will be even more devastating because the years will go by, and you and your partner will be even more attached to one another. and maybe you will do drastic things that you won't like from yourself either.
something similar happened to me, so if he is not up to catching up with you, then he is not right for you.
if you are weak, he will drag you down, and your life will be miserable.
you are only 20, things will change when you are over 30
He does sound like a loser, doesn't he? First advice is to tell your parents to back off, you can make your own decisions, that you know they mean well but sometimes girls your age don't like being told what to do and you might have dropped him a long time ago if they weren't always telling you to do it. I think you already know what to do about the boyfriend. Take a good look at him and decide if he's the man for you.
Find someone who you like just the way they are... trying to get someone to change is never a good basis for a relationship... though most people have relationships on that premise.
You really should consider your future with him. If you were planning to get married, then how would he be able to help support you? He needs to hold up half of the bargain, also. Maybe give him a little bit of time to clean himself up; but school or a steady job would be a necessity.
Good luck.
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i know what you mean. you're like this guy, but you want him to be a actual gentelman.
all i can say is this:
behind any succesfull man, there is a woman.
If you're having doubts thats completely fine. You may love him, but the biggest issue of all-do you love your life with him? If you dont, then it's ok to say, you know what- I need something different. If you guys are going in different directions thats just a part of life. The point of a relationship is to be happy together, and clearly you arent happy with his choice of lifestyle, I dont blame you, the point of life is to move UP not stay the same or go down. You guys are so young, the odds of you getting married are so slim, moving on will not hurt you in the long run. If you know deep down that this isnt what you want, then worry about only yourself and also show him respect by making a difficult decision instead of stringing him along with love and doubts.
good luck!
you, have a very hard question to answer so i hope i help.
You should casually ask him what he wants to do for a living. When he answers you can start to ask him when he is going to get his GED. And then you know the conversation should bloom. But if it doesn't you need to tell him your life's intentions, kids, house, pool. cars, jobs you know the ';Works';. I hope my advise helps and good luck!
well i reccommend taolking to him about how you feel.saying these exact things first.and specify what you think he should do about it and see how that goes.if that doesnt work then i wouldnt stay with him too much longer..i mean i know you love him and i know money isnt everything..but if he doesnt have any plans for the future then how is he gonna support you and if you plan on having kids how would he support them..just tell him how you feel and if he really gives a crap you should see results.good luck
i would tell him to turn it around and that you love him and **** but that if he wants to stay together to turn his life around
Help? Advice?Who can give me some relationship advice?
Read what you wrote. Does it sound like a woman in love? It doesn't to me. It sounds like a woman who knows it's over, but isn't sure how to end it.
Rip the bandage off slow or fast. It's your choice.Who can give me some relationship advice?
Follow your heart/try not to regret for the decisions you make
Just give him a chance.
See if he the things he promises.
If he respects you.
He can support and take care of you.
Dont think about what others say because its your life!
You yourself only know the answer!
From what you've said, its clear that you have already made the decision. You just don't want to be the one to tell yourself the hard truth. You already know that despite how much you care about your boyfriend, this is not what you want for your future self.
The best advise my father ever gave me was when he said that ';What is dating if not the process of finding the person you want to marry?'; And so it has become a rule of mine that I will not continue to date anyone who I know I could not marry. So, for instance, I am not a smoker and could never live with someone who was. So that means I will not date anyone who smokes (that also means that I do not date someone who does and try to make them quit. You can't force your beliefs on someone else. They have to want it too).
You have to decide that you want for you and let the boys go who will not fit into your future life. This is not to be confused with being overly picky... there are always going to be things you have to compromise on in the future but you should know what things are definitely non-negotiable for you.
So far it sounds like you want someone who is a college graduate, like yourself, or who has a career (went to trade school). You clearly want certain things for your future and it seems like this boyfriend of yours is more of a drifter with no real plans, goals or even motivation to get himself together. Do you really want to be with someone for the rest of your life who only does things because he knows you want him to and not because he wants to better himself?
Let him go, hun, and figure out what is good for you. If later on he gets himself together maybe you could try again but don't wait for him. Do what is right by you first and foremost and the rest will come.
Good luck!
he isnt the one for you. he cant take care of you very well, and bars can tend to bring in sane people and let out drunks. im not saying that he is a drunk, but the temptation is pretty big.
If he is holding you back or dragging you down - then I'd say YOU'RE ALLOWED TO THINK ABOUT YOURSELF
And your future happiness
I reckon alot of people will say ''poor guy , stick with him''
But why do they never say ''poor girl''
If you are doing more giving them him , or leading the way - whats wrong with the man giving - and leading the way
You need a man you can look up to surely??
It is okay to be in love, and enjoy his company for now. But not everyone you date has to be the person you want to spend your life with. Sometimes even before you start dating someone you know they are not the kind of person you need as a life partner, but you can still enjoy dating.
You are right to have second thoughts, differences in life goals, level of education, and the big M...money, can ruin a relationship after the glow of lust wears off. Being realistic is part of life.
Sounds to me that he is still needing a mother. He doesn't drive, hasn't finished high school, does he have his GED? And then he works a bar part time. You know yourself working part time isn't getting you very far, please if he wanted to go back to school there is all kind of help out there. And if he doesn't want to go to school right now then why doesn't he have full time job to help you out? Think about life and what you want before you jump in too deep. You didn't give birth to him.
You wouldn't be asking if you did not have doubts about your relationship. If you love him enough you can over look his faults. If you do not love him enough to over look his faults, you need to move on. Good luck
your still young and have a lot of living to do . i think the more older you get you will realize the you guys dont have much in common and that you will be looking for things that he cant provide for you, so maybe you Dont have to make that decision now but in time it will happen unless he gets his act together
well Kat this is one of those age old problems-girls mature faster than guys do.
You are at the point now in your relationship where you are looking down the road and from where you stand now it looks like it's all up-hill.
If you can not defend him or his actions then the love you have is fading. If you loved him unconditionally there would be no hesitation in your defence of his attitude to life.
He only works part-time -what's he doing with the rest of his week?He sounds like he lacks motivation-big time.
I would spend some time assessing your relationship pros/cons and if he is not the man for you get out of the relationship finish your schooling and do not look back.
If you think you deserve better-then you do!
if you are already questioning being with him, it isn't going to get any better.
when 2 people are not of the same level or will never be, just doesn't work, because after a while when you only give and have nothing in return (mentally) it gets very tiring, and then you feel you're not going anywhere.
then you feel worthless, and when that happens, it will be even more devastating because the years will go by, and you and your partner will be even more attached to one another. and maybe you will do drastic things that you won't like from yourself either.
something similar happened to me, so if he is not up to catching up with you, then he is not right for you.
if you are weak, he will drag you down, and your life will be miserable.
you are only 20, things will change when you are over 30
He does sound like a loser, doesn't he? First advice is to tell your parents to back off, you can make your own decisions, that you know they mean well but sometimes girls your age don't like being told what to do and you might have dropped him a long time ago if they weren't always telling you to do it. I think you already know what to do about the boyfriend. Take a good look at him and decide if he's the man for you.
Find someone who you like just the way they are... trying to get someone to change is never a good basis for a relationship... though most people have relationships on that premise.
You really should consider your future with him. If you were planning to get married, then how would he be able to help support you? He needs to hold up half of the bargain, also. Maybe give him a little bit of time to clean himself up; but school or a steady job would be a necessity.
Good luck.
%26lt;33
i know what you mean. you're like this guy, but you want him to be a actual gentelman.
all i can say is this:
behind any succesfull man, there is a woman.
If you're having doubts thats completely fine. You may love him, but the biggest issue of all-do you love your life with him? If you dont, then it's ok to say, you know what- I need something different. If you guys are going in different directions thats just a part of life. The point of a relationship is to be happy together, and clearly you arent happy with his choice of lifestyle, I dont blame you, the point of life is to move UP not stay the same or go down. You guys are so young, the odds of you getting married are so slim, moving on will not hurt you in the long run. If you know deep down that this isnt what you want, then worry about only yourself and also show him respect by making a difficult decision instead of stringing him along with love and doubts.
good luck!
you, have a very hard question to answer so i hope i help.
You should casually ask him what he wants to do for a living. When he answers you can start to ask him when he is going to get his GED. And then you know the conversation should bloom. But if it doesn't you need to tell him your life's intentions, kids, house, pool. cars, jobs you know the ';Works';. I hope my advise helps and good luck!
well i reccommend taolking to him about how you feel.saying these exact things first.and specify what you think he should do about it and see how that goes.if that doesnt work then i wouldnt stay with him too much longer..i mean i know you love him and i know money isnt everything..but if he doesnt have any plans for the future then how is he gonna support you and if you plan on having kids how would he support them..just tell him how you feel and if he really gives a crap you should see results.good luck
i would tell him to turn it around and that you love him and **** but that if he wants to stay together to turn his life around
Anyone that's good with relationship advice?
About a week ago, my boyfriend %26amp; I ended our relationship on somewhat mutual terms. He left, I was fine, he was fine..and now I am a complete emotional wreck. I guess I didn't realize what we really had until he was gone, completely out of my life. He is my best friend in the world, the love of my life, and I am so lost without him. We haven't talked, I've made an attempt, but he doesn't seem to really care too much and it hurts. I've tried to move on and speak with other guys but it's not the same, they don't care about anything but hooking up. I honestly don't know what to do or how to move on. I'm depressed and need a little advice on what to do. Anyone else ever gone through a similar situation? How did you finally get on with your life?Anyone that's good with relationship advice?
everyone has babe.its gonna take some time,just be single for a while go out with friends.it will get easier.xxxAnyone that's good with relationship advice?
confront him about it and tell him how u feel. I have. but there will be other guys that just dont want to hook up. people change. but there is someone out there for everyone-even u. so dont give up!
That happened to me four years ago. Except it wasn't so nice. I had just gotten back from a trip, and it was our one year anniversary. He was my first love and broke it off over the phone. I was an emotional wreck for weeks. For 2 months I gave up on all men. I said ';Screw it, I'll die alone. All guys want is in my pants, and I don't do that!'; So I gave up. When I finally came to terms that I was over him and moving on, my sister introduced me to someone. Three years later, we are getting married. So don't fret. You will find your special someone, he just always comes along just when you stop looking.
Maybe you should try to get back with the ex? If thats out of the question, maybe u need to stop comparing him with the new guys, and try to focus on the positive or different qualities in the guys your going after. Also, hooking up at the bar isn't the best way to find long-term. Find some other groups or people at work, etc. Although I have met several great girls after a night of drinking.
Stay busy and yes every male and female out there has had a broken heart. Guess what you will recover in time. From what you write about him now not wanting to talk should tell you he is good with moving on.
Why are you so worried about him when there are so many nice boys out there you have yet to meet.
first of all pursuing other guys will only make your ex harder to get over. every girl has that trigger in their mind that when something happens like a break up and they see things around them that remind them of their ex they instantly go and look for those memories and little things in someone else. which is the worst thing you truly could do. like i tell my girl friends as hard as it sounds, time heals everything, even the worst of things.
for example the first and only love i have had in my life is gone and im still not over it and its been well over 8 months.. its one of those things where you have to wait.. the waiting does get trying and it does hurt at times but the more you surround your self with good things the stronger you truly feel.
as for talking to him its one of those things about guys, for most men is you let them be, and they ultimately will come around. and if they dont it really proves you came out better in the relationship then they did. guys need their space, weather in a relationship or out of one. its something you should respect. if you wait a little and not ask to hang out or anything if your as close as you say i bet you something will happen and one of these nights he will need you as a friend and you should be willing to take that. (DON'T pursue anything about your past relationship if hes talking to you about something different, bad bad idea for many reasons, focus on the conversation HES putting fourth)
i hope i helped.
if you want any further help you can email me at olivia_rieser@yahoo.com
that goes for anyone else that likes/needs advice from a different point of view, feel free to email me!(:
i would let him know how you feel at this point and if he doesn't respond shows how much he cares for you...but i would try and move on but only when your ready.
Read my blog. It has lots of articles on ways of coping with break ups, including how to go about reconciling if that's what you want.
http://makingupwithex.blogspot.com
Having said that though, it's only been a week. Perhaps you are just scared about being alone and getting that confused with missing him.
Instead of openly inviting other guys into relationships (serious or not), you should simply be their friend first, so that they can become emotionally fond of you and want more than just hooking up.
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This sounds exactly like my last relationship with my ex bobby...our relationship lasted eleven months and bob was the best person i had ever been with! But we ended on mutual terms. Bobby moved on after about a week but after afew days i was heart broken. i thought i was fine but it sort of just hit me one day that i was all alone. everything i had that was great and stable in my life had ended...i went to bobby's house crying and apologized. Asked for them to take me back...obviously bobby refused because there was another girl in the picture. I still remember both of us crying but sometimes these things hapen.
Only time can make this better. As crappy as that sounds. Rebounds will only tear you apart worse and until you know for sure that you are truly over your ex i wouldn't try getting into another relationship.
The way I see it, you have two paths you can go down. Go after him, and take the risk of rejection which may hurt you worse (or help you alot) or you can take the time to move on. realize that if it's meant to be you'll be together again. But things like this can't be forced.
I hope I helped a little.
everyone has babe.its gonna take some time,just be single for a while go out with friends.it will get easier.xxxAnyone that's good with relationship advice?
confront him about it and tell him how u feel. I have. but there will be other guys that just dont want to hook up. people change. but there is someone out there for everyone-even u. so dont give up!
That happened to me four years ago. Except it wasn't so nice. I had just gotten back from a trip, and it was our one year anniversary. He was my first love and broke it off over the phone. I was an emotional wreck for weeks. For 2 months I gave up on all men. I said ';Screw it, I'll die alone. All guys want is in my pants, and I don't do that!'; So I gave up. When I finally came to terms that I was over him and moving on, my sister introduced me to someone. Three years later, we are getting married. So don't fret. You will find your special someone, he just always comes along just when you stop looking.
Maybe you should try to get back with the ex? If thats out of the question, maybe u need to stop comparing him with the new guys, and try to focus on the positive or different qualities in the guys your going after. Also, hooking up at the bar isn't the best way to find long-term. Find some other groups or people at work, etc. Although I have met several great girls after a night of drinking.
Stay busy and yes every male and female out there has had a broken heart. Guess what you will recover in time. From what you write about him now not wanting to talk should tell you he is good with moving on.
Why are you so worried about him when there are so many nice boys out there you have yet to meet.
first of all pursuing other guys will only make your ex harder to get over. every girl has that trigger in their mind that when something happens like a break up and they see things around them that remind them of their ex they instantly go and look for those memories and little things in someone else. which is the worst thing you truly could do. like i tell my girl friends as hard as it sounds, time heals everything, even the worst of things.
for example the first and only love i have had in my life is gone and im still not over it and its been well over 8 months.. its one of those things where you have to wait.. the waiting does get trying and it does hurt at times but the more you surround your self with good things the stronger you truly feel.
as for talking to him its one of those things about guys, for most men is you let them be, and they ultimately will come around. and if they dont it really proves you came out better in the relationship then they did. guys need their space, weather in a relationship or out of one. its something you should respect. if you wait a little and not ask to hang out or anything if your as close as you say i bet you something will happen and one of these nights he will need you as a friend and you should be willing to take that. (DON'T pursue anything about your past relationship if hes talking to you about something different, bad bad idea for many reasons, focus on the conversation HES putting fourth)
i hope i helped.
if you want any further help you can email me at olivia_rieser@yahoo.com
that goes for anyone else that likes/needs advice from a different point of view, feel free to email me!(:
i would let him know how you feel at this point and if he doesn't respond shows how much he cares for you...but i would try and move on but only when your ready.
Read my blog. It has lots of articles on ways of coping with break ups, including how to go about reconciling if that's what you want.
http://makingupwithex.blogspot.com
Having said that though, it's only been a week. Perhaps you are just scared about being alone and getting that confused with missing him.
Instead of openly inviting other guys into relationships (serious or not), you should simply be their friend first, so that they can become emotionally fond of you and want more than just hooking up.
Answer mine? Thanx.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
This sounds exactly like my last relationship with my ex bobby...our relationship lasted eleven months and bob was the best person i had ever been with! But we ended on mutual terms. Bobby moved on after about a week but after afew days i was heart broken. i thought i was fine but it sort of just hit me one day that i was all alone. everything i had that was great and stable in my life had ended...i went to bobby's house crying and apologized. Asked for them to take me back...obviously bobby refused because there was another girl in the picture. I still remember both of us crying but sometimes these things hapen.
Only time can make this better. As crappy as that sounds. Rebounds will only tear you apart worse and until you know for sure that you are truly over your ex i wouldn't try getting into another relationship.
The way I see it, you have two paths you can go down. Go after him, and take the risk of rejection which may hurt you worse (or help you alot) or you can take the time to move on. realize that if it's meant to be you'll be together again. But things like this can't be forced.
I hope I helped a little.
Could someone give me some relationship advice?
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him very much and could see us getting married someday. I just don't know if he will ever ask me. This is something we don't really talk about at all. Anytime I bring up even the topic he does not want to talk about it. About 4 months my exboyfriend came back into my life. We were together for 1 1/2 years and he broke my heart. He left me for someone else. Now that we are talking again he has told me how much he loves me and misses me. He has seen how wrong he was and wants to spend the rest of his life making it up to me. He has even told me he wants to marry me. I still love him very much and keep going back and forth as to who I want to be with. My current boyfriend and I have had some problems- mostly to do with my ex. I just don't know what to do. I love them both very much but I'm worried that I will get hurt. How do I make this choice?Could someone give me some relationship advice?
hi there i can not tell you what to do but dear i had two laidy's i was in love with and i picked the one that had gave me hell but the one i had picked was the one that had did me bad all ready and i just wonted it to work so bad i did not see she was just telling me she loved me becauseze some drop-edoped themthythay lie to get back with me i should got with the one that had not did me bad so i am just saying i would get with the one that has not lied to me and hurt me be for please get back and let me know how things are goingCould someone give me some relationship advice?
You need a break from both, then pick one!
flip a coin and call heads or tails in the air.
You know girl, it just sucks! You are being a baby if you think you can play this game for long. You all will be hurt. And it will be caused by your not making a clear decision now. If you are a good con artist and you get off on the tension and uneasiness of what you create then so be it.If you want to learn to make mature choices especially when people you care about are at stake You must do the right thing and bring it out in the open. Be real man.
hi there i can not tell you what to do but dear i had two laidy's i was in love with and i picked the one that had gave me hell but the one i had picked was the one that had did me bad all ready and i just wonted it to work so bad i did not see she was just telling me she loved me becauseze some drop-edoped themthythay lie to get back with me i should got with the one that had not did me bad so i am just saying i would get with the one that has not lied to me and hurt me be for please get back and let me know how things are goingCould someone give me some relationship advice?
You need a break from both, then pick one!
flip a coin and call heads or tails in the air.
You know girl, it just sucks! You are being a baby if you think you can play this game for long. You all will be hurt. And it will be caused by your not making a clear decision now. If you are a good con artist and you get off on the tension and uneasiness of what you create then so be it.If you want to learn to make mature choices especially when people you care about are at stake You must do the right thing and bring it out in the open. Be real man.
Just started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
The thing is... me and a friend went straight to relationship since we are good friends and know everything about each other... the problem is, we know so much about each other that it could be a bad thing... not saying in general, but I feel like it kinda gets a bit boring and not as many things to talk about... I wanted to ask for suggestion on how to keep thing interesting in this situation and make things work. ThanksJust started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
Need more communicates. Some couples do talk less but still love each other. Get 2gether doing some activities or going for a short trips. Some suprises will do the trick likes sending flowers or chocolates. Give some freedom. If both of u are working then u won't feel boring.Just started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
2 choices!
the bad feeling one and the romantic one!
1- say ';do you reaaly want this'; she can say yes or kiss you or no and cries.
2- bring to a dine and say im happy with this.
well... all i can suggest is take up a new hobby which both of u will like and keep on trying new things to keep the relationship alive... or maybe go travelling ard [that if both of u r at legal age]...
One better way is to end that relation.
I'm sure there is something you don't know about this friend. To show interest, ask questions
Need more communicates. Some couples do talk less but still love each other. Get 2gether doing some activities or going for a short trips. Some suprises will do the trick likes sending flowers or chocolates. Give some freedom. If both of u are working then u won't feel boring.Just started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
2 choices!
the bad feeling one and the romantic one!
1- say ';do you reaaly want this'; she can say yes or kiss you or no and cries.
2- bring to a dine and say im happy with this.
well... all i can suggest is take up a new hobby which both of u will like and keep on trying new things to keep the relationship alive... or maybe go travelling ard [that if both of u r at legal age]...
One better way is to end that relation.
I'm sure there is something you don't know about this friend. To show interest, ask questions
I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
The hardest thing i ever had to do, ive done it. My family helped me pack up all my stuff, there was alot, and i moved the heck out of there. I feel very sad and know im doing the right thing. But is there any encouragement from anyone? I need some advice on how to stay strong.I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
at first u will question it, because once away from it u will begin to think maybe it wasn't all that bad especially if u loved him allot. but u made the right choice to get out of it before it got any worse. what u should do is get in a therapy group where there will be others like yourself who have already been through this they will be your encouragement. when he calls u and he will, just realize that abusers hardly ever change without some kind of intervention. and now the worst of it is over with, u just have to work on your self esteem because when u get abused it will tear down your self esteem, all kinds of thoughts will go through your head, u may second guess yourself, wonder if u should go back and give it one more chance, but don't.I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
It sounds like you have a good support system with your family, That will help a lot, If you have a religous faith that will help enormously. You will find that most of your fears about being alone are unfounded. You will be amazed at how strong you are and before long you will be proud of yourself for letting go of a relationship that did not serve you well. If you think you are in danger take any precautions neccessary. Congratulations on empowering yourself! God has great plans for you .
Moving out of any relationship is hard, there are always those 'feelings' that kind of haunt you about having done the right thing. But you have, it's hard to be in an abusive relationship and keep your wits about you, your self esteem is under constant attack. But give yourself a few months and you will come to feel better about it and yourself. Don't hurry into any new relationship or the old one will be dragged along into it. Stay strong and you know that there is a whole world of us out here who are concerned about you. I'm glad that you were one that did make it out.
Make a list of everything that he did right.
Make a list of everything that he did wrong.
Throw both lists out the window, because it was an abusive relationship.
It wasn't your fault. You're the victim. You should probably try to keep as much of a normal life as possible, and think about going through counseling, or try getting more involved in activities around your community/church. That way you can move on. Because if you dwell on the past then you can never move forward. Also, let everyone know how big of a scum bag he is for doing that. And, just take it step by step. ';Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch, life's a cinch';
You have done a very brave thing - unfortuneately trying to stay strong is hard for the first few months, especially if the partner comes to you promising to ';change';.
The important thing to do to keep yourself strong is to have good plans in place (eg What are you going to do if he does show up?) and surround yourself with supportive family and friends.
Con-grads, Go to work, focus on your future. Go out with friends. Get involve with anything and everything to keep your mind off of him. He will not change, he will get worse. He will tell you anything to make you think that he's changed and get you back. He will eventually, get mad and make you think ( if he hasn't already ) that no one will have you and all the insults he can come up with. Have you a good cry. And please move on.
I found writing in a journal was very helpful and writing here on YA when I needed an outside perspective or strength...
In my journal, I would write down times that he abused me... each time a different event... and in my ';weak'; moments, I would pull it out and remember exactly why I left... as I became stronger, it became a journal of strength and hope... my accomplishments and my dreams..
Here on YA, well, it really helped to write asking for support when I needed it, or helping others.. or just laughing at some of the freaky q's on here.. and then I made some good friends...
you're doing the right thing.. it's hard but it gets better.. you've taken a huge step toward a better life... now just breath and enjoy being safe... happiness will come.
hun im a man that is lone some all the time im loving and sweet i been a lone my whole life being rejected by weman and im not bad looking just i cant talk good best thing would to take time pain hurts it doesnt heal in moments but dont let your self down every thing will happen in time im sorry to hear your situation but dont be afraid or in lost or confused just learn from it to not make the miss take agian weman are strong mently and emotionaly if they control there feelings learn of them use them and in time you will find the right one and when you do you will be so much happyer keep your gard up but dont shut the door god has ways of us seeing hate darkness sadness in are lives so when we do see the light it will shine all so much brighter hugs and love have a wounderful day
Where are you staying? I trust that it is a safe place. Lean on family for the emotional support that you need. He is going to try to sweet talk you into coming back. He will tell you how sorry he is and that it will never happen again. He will promise almost anything to get you to come back. If you give in and go back it will start all over again and it will be harder to leave the next time. I know what I am talking about as I have been in your position. Do not go back no matter what he says. I know how you feel and I know how hard it is but believe me there is happiness in your future with out him. You need some time to heal. Spend time with family and friends and do not go places alone. Do not agree to meet your abuser alone for any reason. Here is a web site you may find useful.
http://d21c.com/amiani/TarasDedication.h鈥?/a>
Good luck to you and congratulations for taking the big step.
I have been in your exact situation. My relationship lasted for 4 years, though, and we had a child. I left him when my son was 2 months old because I didn't want my son to be raised around him. He was SOOO abusive! There were even a couple of times that he was threatening to kill me, while grabbing a knife, and I managed to escape with NO CLOTHES on because he ripped them all up. I ran out the door, screaming for help and got it from HIS PARENTS who drove me home, wrapped in a f**king blanket.
Let me tell you.. TAKE MY WORD.. These guys DO NOT CHANGE. Do NOT FEEL SORRY FOR HIM FOR ANYTHING OR FEEL SAD THAT HE IS THE WAY HE IS. Just accept it and accept that this is NOT how you want to live your life...
I am now married to the most AMAZING man!! He adopted my first son, and he has never even told me what to do..EVER.. I am ME. I am free to be me, and I have never been so damn happy in my entire life.
This hard decision you have made will not only save your life but allow you to live and be yourself and find true happiness without feeling obligated to try and ';help'; some guy that is depriving you of your one and only life... Seriously.. You'll find a nice guy next time and love it...
It's time to think of your future and move ahead.. Live for YOU, not for him.. You WILL NOT REGRET IT! Congrats on your upcoming happy, free life.. Enjoy it! You only live once.
Nothing can heal a broken relationship but time. You did the right thing, you will eventually get over it and look back and wonder why you stayed as long as you did. Just be patient. Hopefully one day you meet someone who loves you and cares about you.
i just left a abusive relationship and i know how hard it is. just think bout what makes u happy and being around positive people. I miss her everyday but its for the best and alot safer for me, keep ur chin up.
congrats on that! you left before the police took you out in a bodybag. don't go back. people like that dont change and even if he does, do you want to put your life at risk like that. dont take that chance. LACE YOUR BOOTS AND RUN WITHOUT LOOKING BACK!!!
You did what was best for you. And today you took a stand so you should be proud of yourself. You are no longer someone's punching bag and for that I applaud you. You are on the road to actually loving yourself for once!
The best thing is having your family around. It's hard believe me I went through it with my ex-wife. You have to take it one step at a time, but you need your family to talk to.
You stay strong forever. Get some counseling and get into a support group. Keep busy and know you are doing the right thing. That was never love.
You just did the hard part. Enjoy...........cream treatment
at first u will question it, because once away from it u will begin to think maybe it wasn't all that bad especially if u loved him allot. but u made the right choice to get out of it before it got any worse. what u should do is get in a therapy group where there will be others like yourself who have already been through this they will be your encouragement. when he calls u and he will, just realize that abusers hardly ever change without some kind of intervention. and now the worst of it is over with, u just have to work on your self esteem because when u get abused it will tear down your self esteem, all kinds of thoughts will go through your head, u may second guess yourself, wonder if u should go back and give it one more chance, but don't.I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
It sounds like you have a good support system with your family, That will help a lot, If you have a religous faith that will help enormously. You will find that most of your fears about being alone are unfounded. You will be amazed at how strong you are and before long you will be proud of yourself for letting go of a relationship that did not serve you well. If you think you are in danger take any precautions neccessary. Congratulations on empowering yourself! God has great plans for you .
Moving out of any relationship is hard, there are always those 'feelings' that kind of haunt you about having done the right thing. But you have, it's hard to be in an abusive relationship and keep your wits about you, your self esteem is under constant attack. But give yourself a few months and you will come to feel better about it and yourself. Don't hurry into any new relationship or the old one will be dragged along into it. Stay strong and you know that there is a whole world of us out here who are concerned about you. I'm glad that you were one that did make it out.
Make a list of everything that he did right.
Make a list of everything that he did wrong.
Throw both lists out the window, because it was an abusive relationship.
It wasn't your fault. You're the victim. You should probably try to keep as much of a normal life as possible, and think about going through counseling, or try getting more involved in activities around your community/church. That way you can move on. Because if you dwell on the past then you can never move forward. Also, let everyone know how big of a scum bag he is for doing that. And, just take it step by step. ';Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch, life's a cinch';
You have done a very brave thing - unfortuneately trying to stay strong is hard for the first few months, especially if the partner comes to you promising to ';change';.
The important thing to do to keep yourself strong is to have good plans in place (eg What are you going to do if he does show up?) and surround yourself with supportive family and friends.
Con-grads, Go to work, focus on your future. Go out with friends. Get involve with anything and everything to keep your mind off of him. He will not change, he will get worse. He will tell you anything to make you think that he's changed and get you back. He will eventually, get mad and make you think ( if he hasn't already ) that no one will have you and all the insults he can come up with. Have you a good cry. And please move on.
I found writing in a journal was very helpful and writing here on YA when I needed an outside perspective or strength...
In my journal, I would write down times that he abused me... each time a different event... and in my ';weak'; moments, I would pull it out and remember exactly why I left... as I became stronger, it became a journal of strength and hope... my accomplishments and my dreams..
Here on YA, well, it really helped to write asking for support when I needed it, or helping others.. or just laughing at some of the freaky q's on here.. and then I made some good friends...
you're doing the right thing.. it's hard but it gets better.. you've taken a huge step toward a better life... now just breath and enjoy being safe... happiness will come.
hun im a man that is lone some all the time im loving and sweet i been a lone my whole life being rejected by weman and im not bad looking just i cant talk good best thing would to take time pain hurts it doesnt heal in moments but dont let your self down every thing will happen in time im sorry to hear your situation but dont be afraid or in lost or confused just learn from it to not make the miss take agian weman are strong mently and emotionaly if they control there feelings learn of them use them and in time you will find the right one and when you do you will be so much happyer keep your gard up but dont shut the door god has ways of us seeing hate darkness sadness in are lives so when we do see the light it will shine all so much brighter hugs and love have a wounderful day
Where are you staying? I trust that it is a safe place. Lean on family for the emotional support that you need. He is going to try to sweet talk you into coming back. He will tell you how sorry he is and that it will never happen again. He will promise almost anything to get you to come back. If you give in and go back it will start all over again and it will be harder to leave the next time. I know what I am talking about as I have been in your position. Do not go back no matter what he says. I know how you feel and I know how hard it is but believe me there is happiness in your future with out him. You need some time to heal. Spend time with family and friends and do not go places alone. Do not agree to meet your abuser alone for any reason. Here is a web site you may find useful.
http://d21c.com/amiani/TarasDedication.h鈥?/a>
Good luck to you and congratulations for taking the big step.
I have been in your exact situation. My relationship lasted for 4 years, though, and we had a child. I left him when my son was 2 months old because I didn't want my son to be raised around him. He was SOOO abusive! There were even a couple of times that he was threatening to kill me, while grabbing a knife, and I managed to escape with NO CLOTHES on because he ripped them all up. I ran out the door, screaming for help and got it from HIS PARENTS who drove me home, wrapped in a f**king blanket.
Let me tell you.. TAKE MY WORD.. These guys DO NOT CHANGE. Do NOT FEEL SORRY FOR HIM FOR ANYTHING OR FEEL SAD THAT HE IS THE WAY HE IS. Just accept it and accept that this is NOT how you want to live your life...
I am now married to the most AMAZING man!! He adopted my first son, and he has never even told me what to do..EVER.. I am ME. I am free to be me, and I have never been so damn happy in my entire life.
This hard decision you have made will not only save your life but allow you to live and be yourself and find true happiness without feeling obligated to try and ';help'; some guy that is depriving you of your one and only life... Seriously.. You'll find a nice guy next time and love it...
It's time to think of your future and move ahead.. Live for YOU, not for him.. You WILL NOT REGRET IT! Congrats on your upcoming happy, free life.. Enjoy it! You only live once.
Nothing can heal a broken relationship but time. You did the right thing, you will eventually get over it and look back and wonder why you stayed as long as you did. Just be patient. Hopefully one day you meet someone who loves you and cares about you.
i just left a abusive relationship and i know how hard it is. just think bout what makes u happy and being around positive people. I miss her everyday but its for the best and alot safer for me, keep ur chin up.
congrats on that! you left before the police took you out in a bodybag. don't go back. people like that dont change and even if he does, do you want to put your life at risk like that. dont take that chance. LACE YOUR BOOTS AND RUN WITHOUT LOOKING BACK!!!
You did what was best for you. And today you took a stand so you should be proud of yourself. You are no longer someone's punching bag and for that I applaud you. You are on the road to actually loving yourself for once!
The best thing is having your family around. It's hard believe me I went through it with my ex-wife. You have to take it one step at a time, but you need your family to talk to.
You stay strong forever. Get some counseling and get into a support group. Keep busy and know you are doing the right thing. That was never love.
You just did the hard part. Enjoy...........
Im a big guy and Ive never been in a relationship with another guy. Any Advice?
Hi, Like the question says, I am looking for relationship advice from gay people. Please if you dont have experience, or are against gays, stay away. Otherwise I welcome any advice, especially from other big guys with possibly the same kind of situation. I just dont know where to start. ThanksIm a big guy and Ive never been in a relationship with another guy. Any Advice?
should ask this in the gay section bro
should ask this in the gay section bro
I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
I'm hopeless when it comes to romance and relationship. I really like my boyfriend. I feel I can have long term relationship with this person. I have no idea what interesting things can I do to make the relationship more fun and exciting. What do you guys and girls do?I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
You got to find some fun stuff to do that the both of you enjoy doing together. Hobbies, crafts, sports, or anything besides just looking at each other. This really tests the strength of your relationship, doesn't it? If you don't really enjoy being together, and just spending time together, and you are pressured by sex all the time, then maybe you need to consider the fact, you may not be such a great couple after all. If that's all your partner wants to do, then your relationship is in trouble to start with. Talk to someone about this, like your parents, school counselor, or a minister. Good Luck, and I hope you find what your looking for!!I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
Find things you enjoy doing together, maybe start a hobby together?
I don't do it, but I always thought that sky diving and bungee-jumping would be SOOOOO fun!
Go to church tomorrow, invite hin to you local church. Because then you will be prosperous and successful both of you.
Why don't you just be yourself after all he became your boyfriend because he like youjust the way you are.Just be yourself.
Do Tikibibi to him or go fishing.
You could at least,show him your t*ts!
Surprise him with the things he enjoys. Is he in to sports,etc.? Do those kind of things. Like if he likes to go fishing . Plan a day for that without letting him know ..just the 2 of you go out on the lake %26amp; make a day of it.
Bump uglies with him! You'll like it and want more!
If you do things right it all leads to sex...if you are lucky. Romantic is candles, flowers, a quiet dinner, slow dancing to sexy music...how couldn't you have sex afterwards?
Games, movies, amusement parks, role-playing, random acts of kindness, spontaneity, small surprises, presents, etc.
...just to name a few.
coming from someone who's sexless i recommend you dress sexy once in a while. try new things. go new places. walk around naked waxed and shaved except the eyebrows unless they need it fix your hair.
go on a trip with your immediate family and him.
sexy pantyhose and heels, let him look and touch
it will drive hhim wild
With us, it is just being together, touching each other. We can be watching TV and rubbing each others feet, or playing with each others hair, stuff like that. It's the simple things that work the best.
chill out take a holiday, laugh dont take it so serious but to be honest im single so i really cant answer the question but i wouldnt worry about it just chiiiiiiiil woman chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiil
touch nibble kiss DUE!!
I sometimes make a lounge picnic.. put a blanket down in the front room.. bottle wine and some picnic foods...it can be quite erotic... J
Try all the classics - massages, candle-lit dinners, snuggling in front of a fireplace.
Those sort of things can lead to sex but don't always. Just be up front if sex becomes an issue. If your bf expects something will lead to sex and doesn't, ut can be upsetting.
You can always do something he wants to do but you aren't crazy about. For example, if he loves to ski but you're terrified, maybe take a lesson on the slope from him and show that you are doing it just to be with him. He'll appreciate it.
You got to find some fun stuff to do that the both of you enjoy doing together. Hobbies, crafts, sports, or anything besides just looking at each other. This really tests the strength of your relationship, doesn't it? If you don't really enjoy being together, and just spending time together, and you are pressured by sex all the time, then maybe you need to consider the fact, you may not be such a great couple after all. If that's all your partner wants to do, then your relationship is in trouble to start with. Talk to someone about this, like your parents, school counselor, or a minister. Good Luck, and I hope you find what your looking for!!I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
Find things you enjoy doing together, maybe start a hobby together?
I don't do it, but I always thought that sky diving and bungee-jumping would be SOOOOO fun!
Go to church tomorrow, invite hin to you local church. Because then you will be prosperous and successful both of you.
Why don't you just be yourself after all he became your boyfriend because he like youjust the way you are.Just be yourself.
Do Tikibibi to him or go fishing.
You could at least,show him your t*ts!
Surprise him with the things he enjoys. Is he in to sports,etc.? Do those kind of things. Like if he likes to go fishing . Plan a day for that without letting him know ..just the 2 of you go out on the lake %26amp; make a day of it.
Bump uglies with him! You'll like it and want more!
If you do things right it all leads to sex...if you are lucky. Romantic is candles, flowers, a quiet dinner, slow dancing to sexy music...how couldn't you have sex afterwards?
Games, movies, amusement parks, role-playing, random acts of kindness, spontaneity, small surprises, presents, etc.
...just to name a few.
coming from someone who's sexless i recommend you dress sexy once in a while. try new things. go new places. walk around naked waxed and shaved except the eyebrows unless they need it fix your hair.
go on a trip with your immediate family and him.
sexy pantyhose and heels, let him look and touch
it will drive hhim wild
With us, it is just being together, touching each other. We can be watching TV and rubbing each others feet, or playing with each others hair, stuff like that. It's the simple things that work the best.
chill out take a holiday, laugh dont take it so serious but to be honest im single so i really cant answer the question but i wouldnt worry about it just chiiiiiiiil woman chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiil
touch nibble kiss DUE!!
I sometimes make a lounge picnic.. put a blanket down in the front room.. bottle wine and some picnic foods...it can be quite erotic... J
Try all the classics - massages, candle-lit dinners, snuggling in front of a fireplace.
Those sort of things can lead to sex but don't always. Just be up front if sex becomes an issue. If your bf expects something will lead to sex and doesn't, ut can be upsetting.
You can always do something he wants to do but you aren't crazy about. For example, if he loves to ski but you're terrified, maybe take a lesson on the slope from him and show that you are doing it just to be with him. He'll appreciate it.
Advice for maintaining a healthy relationship in law school?
Does anyone have suggestions, from personal experience, on how to make maintaining a relationship in law school easier? Personal experience and strong supported advice will earn the best answer, and my thanks.Advice for maintaining a healthy relationship in law school?
Don't break the law ,,,Advice for maintaining a healthy relationship in law school?
im assuming you mean it will be hard considering how time consuming law school can be.
in reality, it all comes down to -do the two of you have enough patience, honesty, and loyalty to make it work through a difficult time?
the situation hardly matters, its mostly about how the two people can make it work...together.
if the two of you can talk through problems, and have good solid communication and respect for oneanother and love eachother enough, law school will be no problem, and neither should anything else. good luck.
Don't break the law ,,,Advice for maintaining a healthy relationship in law school?
im assuming you mean it will be hard considering how time consuming law school can be.
in reality, it all comes down to -do the two of you have enough patience, honesty, and loyalty to make it work through a difficult time?
the situation hardly matters, its mostly about how the two people can make it work...together.
if the two of you can talk through problems, and have good solid communication and respect for oneanother and love eachother enough, law school will be no problem, and neither should anything else. good luck.
Need some advice for my relationship?
Me and my girlfriend have only been dating for 5 weeks. I think that my feelings for her have changed a little since we first started dating. She has already told me that i am perfect for her and that she is paranoid about me breaking up with her. I told her that relationships wont work if she is doubting us. But now im starting to doubt us. What should i do?Need some advice for my relationship?
If you are now having doubts about the relationship then I suggest you take a step back, breathe, and take everything in. Pros, cons, but go beyond that, beyond the surface. Do not lead her on any longer than you should. If doubts are coming in, find out where they are coming from. Are they from a bad day? something or someone coming between you two? The mood or atmosphere between you two have seriously changed? Ask your self these questions and countless more. But do so quickly, the more you don't answer these questions truthfully the more time will pass. If you care for her then tell her, be open, after your step back, sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Even if you decide to break up, do it honestly and up front and do it in a manner of love and respect. If find that you would like to continue in this relationship, tell her what you did. Tell her that you took this step back and looked at your relationship and for whatever reason you concluded, all your doubts are gone and you wanted to tell her that you have no doubts about each other. Above all be your self and be honest. Ignoring things will only hurt you / her in the long run. Need some advice for my relationship?
well u should work harder on ur relationship or else its not gonna get any where. when u go out with someone ur feelings do change sometimes depending on the person. if she has been acting different then u should talk to her about it and just be honest with everything. i have learned from experience that when u are tottaly honset with someone u feel better about ur self and being with that person b/c they can trust u. hope this helps. good luck
Well, if you're already getting the itch... MOVE ON!!! Especially if its new... Why waste anyones time and get her feelings even more involved... Its not your fault that she has that insecurity... You're not obligated to stay with her just to make her feel okay. That would only make the situation code red WORSE!!!
If you are now having doubts about the relationship then I suggest you take a step back, breathe, and take everything in. Pros, cons, but go beyond that, beyond the surface. Do not lead her on any longer than you should. If doubts are coming in, find out where they are coming from. Are they from a bad day? something or someone coming between you two? The mood or atmosphere between you two have seriously changed? Ask your self these questions and countless more. But do so quickly, the more you don't answer these questions truthfully the more time will pass. If you care for her then tell her, be open, after your step back, sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Even if you decide to break up, do it honestly and up front and do it in a manner of love and respect. If find that you would like to continue in this relationship, tell her what you did. Tell her that you took this step back and looked at your relationship and for whatever reason you concluded, all your doubts are gone and you wanted to tell her that you have no doubts about each other. Above all be your self and be honest. Ignoring things will only hurt you / her in the long run. Need some advice for my relationship?
well u should work harder on ur relationship or else its not gonna get any where. when u go out with someone ur feelings do change sometimes depending on the person. if she has been acting different then u should talk to her about it and just be honest with everything. i have learned from experience that when u are tottaly honset with someone u feel better about ur self and being with that person b/c they can trust u. hope this helps. good luck
Well, if you're already getting the itch... MOVE ON!!! Especially if its new... Why waste anyones time and get her feelings even more involved... Its not your fault that she has that insecurity... You're not obligated to stay with her just to make her feel okay. That would only make the situation code red WORSE!!!
I need advice---Relationship--?
My sons dad and I were together for 4 years-We broke up in October and now he says he ';probably'; has a new girlfriend-He keeps saying different things about her like sometimes no she is not my girlfriend and then he will call her his chick or something. He slept at her house last night he goes out to movies, dinner etc- He says they havent talked about being bf/gf and that they havent had sex either. The thing is is that we had sex 2 weeks ago and I feel used-now he is saying he doesnt remember that we had sex- He usually watches our son at my house and I told him I will meet him at his moms cause he doesnt need to be at my house-usually he is there at 7:15a and he said that since I am making him go to his moms he wont be there til 7:30-I will be late to work!! He is trying to control me it feels like- So I said forget it and our son is just going to daycare in the am. I need advice on what to do to both get my mind off of him and to make it so that he does not have mental control!I need advice---Relationship--?
I've had a few friends go through simliar situations but my advice would be to have a serious conversation with him about how you feel and what needs to be done. Maintain your relationship as parents and that's what is most important. It may be difficult because you had a long relationship but think about what is best for you and stop the ';friends with benefits'; relationship. Don't settle for being #2!!!I need advice---Relationship--?
Don't let him call the shots. If he's gonna keep using you and sleep with her at the same time no one wins but him. Be smart and leave this guy now!
Honey, when you figure it out, let me know... Cause I have been in this situation for 2 and a half years.
I've had a few friends go through simliar situations but my advice would be to have a serious conversation with him about how you feel and what needs to be done. Maintain your relationship as parents and that's what is most important. It may be difficult because you had a long relationship but think about what is best for you and stop the ';friends with benefits'; relationship. Don't settle for being #2!!!I need advice---Relationship--?
Don't let him call the shots. If he's gonna keep using you and sleep with her at the same time no one wins but him. Be smart and leave this guy now!
Honey, when you figure it out, let me know... Cause I have been in this situation for 2 and a half years.
Has nothing to do with relationship but advice?
Had a room mate and I could not afford it and she told me that if I could not afford it go ahead and move with a relative and I thought about it and moved out. So now I have decided since I have money that I would go ahead and pay her what i oew her but I still have my name on the least and hers is too. And she is probably still upset that I left and I am mad @ my self that I put not only her but me to in the situation. I want to resolve the problem some body please give me advice?Has nothing to do with relationship but advice?
Paying her the back rent is a good place to start. Saying you're sorry is another great step. If she wants to have a relationship with you afterward, great. If not, you still did the right thing.
Also, get your name off the lease. Send a letter to the housing office or manage with a copy of your ID that says you would like to be removed from the lease as you no longer live there. It will not affect your room mate's ability to live there, but you are legally responsible for damage/cleaning while your name is still on the lease.cream treatment
Paying her the back rent is a good place to start. Saying you're sorry is another great step. If she wants to have a relationship with you afterward, great. If not, you still did the right thing.
Also, get your name off the lease. Send a letter to the housing office or manage with a copy of your ID that says you would like to be removed from the lease as you no longer live there. It will not affect your room mate's ability to live there, but you are legally responsible for damage/cleaning while your name is still on the lease.
Advice for long distance relationship?
i have been with my boyfriend for about four months now. i am in love with him. our relationship started, is, and will continue for a while to be- long distance.
i have broken up with past boyfriends because of distance and i tend to get really emotional when i can't see my man on a regular basis. however, i want to make it work this time. so, i'm asking for advice on how to cope with the distance? especially from girls because we tend to be more emotional.
any advice would be nice and much appreciated. thank you in advance!Advice for long distance relationship?
You both have to make the effort to call one another and wen one of you have the time go n see each other.
the only way a relationship will work if its a two way street.Advice for long distance relationship?
I live nearly 5 hours away from my boyfriend--- and I understand that it's hard to cope with the distance. Some days are harder than others.
I try to hang out with my girlfriends as much as possible--- the nights out help to keep my mind off the fact that I'm not with my boyfriend. Reading always helps. Just find as many ways as you can to distract yourself from thinking about it constantly.
Also, ask yourself ';Do you see potential for this relationship to go anywhere?'; If you can't see any kind of future with him, don't waste your time trying to make a long distance relationship work.
If you really, really want to make it work--- talk to him EVERY SINGLE DAY! Even if it's just for a few minutes. You need to keep each other informed on what's going on in your lives.
Once you get the hang of it, it gets a lot easier. I promise.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=epfoie-Kf…
That should help a little...
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Just pay attention to everything...
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But also dont get your hopes up, LDR's have a reallllyyyy
high fail rate..
If you want a more secure relationship, that wont break
as easy, find someone close to you..
i have broken up with past boyfriends because of distance and i tend to get really emotional when i can't see my man on a regular basis. however, i want to make it work this time. so, i'm asking for advice on how to cope with the distance? especially from girls because we tend to be more emotional.
any advice would be nice and much appreciated. thank you in advance!Advice for long distance relationship?
You both have to make the effort to call one another and wen one of you have the time go n see each other.
the only way a relationship will work if its a two way street.Advice for long distance relationship?
I live nearly 5 hours away from my boyfriend--- and I understand that it's hard to cope with the distance. Some days are harder than others.
I try to hang out with my girlfriends as much as possible--- the nights out help to keep my mind off the fact that I'm not with my boyfriend. Reading always helps. Just find as many ways as you can to distract yourself from thinking about it constantly.
Also, ask yourself ';Do you see potential for this relationship to go anywhere?'; If you can't see any kind of future with him, don't waste your time trying to make a long distance relationship work.
If you really, really want to make it work--- talk to him EVERY SINGLE DAY! Even if it's just for a few minutes. You need to keep each other informed on what's going on in your lives.
Once you get the hang of it, it gets a lot easier. I promise.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=epfoie-Kf…
That should help a little...
.
Just pay attention to everything...
.
But also dont get your hopes up, LDR's have a reallllyyyy
high fail rate..
If you want a more secure relationship, that wont break
as easy, find someone close to you..
Needing advice, relationship problem!?
Well my boyfriend said he dont love me the same way as he did before, he find that our relationship has change, he takes me for granted he dont really see those things i give and the love i give. he said im to nice, he wanted to break up with me and i said how about cool off, then he said then there will be no calling texting, he said he will call when he's ready and when he is ready to see me.
he has a new text mate a girl he work with, but the girl have a boyfriend. he is just friend with her, and im ok with it.
all i wish that he realise that im worth being with. i just wish to be love by him, its been long time i have heard he said he love me:( it hurts to be with somone who only see the negative side. i feel i done everything
WHAT SHOULD I DO...Needing advice, relationship problem!?
You should just move on girlie!
He is over you and wants out, hence the no texting or calling!
Go out with your friends and don't give him a second though, he really isn't worth it....you can't force someone to care about you!
There will be a guy out there that will appreciate every little thing you do for him and you're not going to fond him by sitting by the phone waiting for this one to call you are you?Needing advice, relationship problem!?
how blunt does he have to be he doesn't love u he doesn't want contact from u. he will call u when he is ready? and u r willing to wait? doesn't this sound off to u. wake up stop hurting and find someone that wants to be with u not use u. if u have done everything, there is nothing else to try so stop trying and move on. good luck
Hope this might help.
http://www.SaveAndKeep-YourRelationship.鈥?/a>
All of the power is in NOT CARING.
It's easier said than done, but he has said some pretty hurtful things. Maybe has has lost love for you, or maybe he wants a convenient 'time-out' so he can try other girls and come back to you - either way! He's spelled it out; you are supposed to wait for him until he is kind enough to grace you with a text message.
If you sit and wait for it, feeling sad and mourning the loss, you'll find it's not as satisfying once it happens. That's because he is an ***.
Who the hell cares if HE knows you're worth being with? You know it, and that's all that matters. Invest your time, heart and energy into someone who doesn't leave you guessing.
he has a new text mate a girl he work with, but the girl have a boyfriend. he is just friend with her, and im ok with it.
all i wish that he realise that im worth being with. i just wish to be love by him, its been long time i have heard he said he love me:( it hurts to be with somone who only see the negative side. i feel i done everything
WHAT SHOULD I DO...Needing advice, relationship problem!?
You should just move on girlie!
He is over you and wants out, hence the no texting or calling!
Go out with your friends and don't give him a second though, he really isn't worth it....you can't force someone to care about you!
There will be a guy out there that will appreciate every little thing you do for him and you're not going to fond him by sitting by the phone waiting for this one to call you are you?Needing advice, relationship problem!?
how blunt does he have to be he doesn't love u he doesn't want contact from u. he will call u when he is ready? and u r willing to wait? doesn't this sound off to u. wake up stop hurting and find someone that wants to be with u not use u. if u have done everything, there is nothing else to try so stop trying and move on. good luck
Hope this might help.
http://www.SaveAndKeep-YourRelationship.鈥?/a>
All of the power is in NOT CARING.
It's easier said than done, but he has said some pretty hurtful things. Maybe has has lost love for you, or maybe he wants a convenient 'time-out' so he can try other girls and come back to you - either way! He's spelled it out; you are supposed to wait for him until he is kind enough to grace you with a text message.
If you sit and wait for it, feeling sad and mourning the loss, you'll find it's not as satisfying once it happens. That's because he is an ***.
Who the hell cares if HE knows you're worth being with? You know it, and that's all that matters. Invest your time, heart and energy into someone who doesn't leave you guessing.
Need advice! relationship started when I wasnt technically single...?
Hi, I need advice from all you beautiful people out there. Your experience and expertise are appreciated.
Here is my current situation: I have been dating a man for 3.5 years and have not been happy for quite sometime. He is emotionally abusive and I have been stuck. I have been wanting to break up with him but he has abandonment/attachment issues so I have to wait until its a safe time (i.e. he is with his family so they can ensure he doesnt hurt himself). That safe time wont be for another few weeks.
In the meantime, I have felt emotionally and physically separated from him for months. I have felt single during this time even though I technically am not.
So in comes new guy. After a few weeks of hanging out we both realized we are totally in love with one another. He is everything I have ever wanted, a whole nuther level of man above my boyfriend. Through knowing him I have realized how much me and my boyfriend are not good for each other, and that he is not what I want long term.
So knowing all this my question is: can I have a healthy relationship with this new guy if it started before I was technically single? I just want us to be happy without anything getting in the way.
Maybe this will help: new guy and I have agreed not to see each other again until I am technically single and ready for a relationship. But we probably will talk on the phone (maybe eliminate that too?).
Thank you!!!!Need advice! relationship started when I wasnt technically single...?
Have you realized that you are cheating on this new guy you are with and ';so in love with?'; Does he know that you are currently in a relationship other than the one you are in with him?
Relationships don't end well when they start off deceitful.
maybe you should learn to be happy by yourself instead of switching from one man to another.
Here is my current situation: I have been dating a man for 3.5 years and have not been happy for quite sometime. He is emotionally abusive and I have been stuck. I have been wanting to break up with him but he has abandonment/attachment issues so I have to wait until its a safe time (i.e. he is with his family so they can ensure he doesnt hurt himself). That safe time wont be for another few weeks.
In the meantime, I have felt emotionally and physically separated from him for months. I have felt single during this time even though I technically am not.
So in comes new guy. After a few weeks of hanging out we both realized we are totally in love with one another. He is everything I have ever wanted, a whole nuther level of man above my boyfriend. Through knowing him I have realized how much me and my boyfriend are not good for each other, and that he is not what I want long term.
So knowing all this my question is: can I have a healthy relationship with this new guy if it started before I was technically single? I just want us to be happy without anything getting in the way.
Maybe this will help: new guy and I have agreed not to see each other again until I am technically single and ready for a relationship. But we probably will talk on the phone (maybe eliminate that too?).
Thank you!!!!Need advice! relationship started when I wasnt technically single...?
Have you realized that you are cheating on this new guy you are with and ';so in love with?'; Does he know that you are currently in a relationship other than the one you are in with him?
Relationships don't end well when they start off deceitful.
maybe you should learn to be happy by yourself instead of switching from one man to another.
Relationship/sex advice please? New man!?
I've met this guy a few times and I really like him and he really likes me, but he always goes on about sex and stuff, which I feel I am ready for, but I haven't had sex properly before and I REAAALLY don't want to tell him that I haven't... even though he'll find out when we do. Is there anything I can do to stop him knowing? Like breaking it myself or anything? Sounds so stupid.. hahaRelationship/sex advice please? New man!?
please don't sleep with a guy you don't even know or have a relationship with - ESPECIALLY FOR YOUR FIRST TIME!!!!
many of my friends first times were with guys they didn't know, and each of them regrets their decision and wish theyd waited.
Whereas i was in a loving relationship with the guy i lost it to, and i'm still with him a year and a half later.
To me it really sounds like he just wants to get in your pants -_-
a guy yuou feel ready to have sexual relations with will be a guy you feel you can tell that you are a virgin - which is clearly not this guy.
sorry to be so blunt, but i feel quite strongly about your situation and i am so sure you should wait!!Relationship/sex advice please? New man!?
Are you totally sure this guy likes you, it sounds more like he just wants a quick one and then will leave you after but he may not could be wrong. however, you should tell him you have not had sex properly before, he will understand and then maybe you two can take it slow. just try not to jump in at the deep end and get hurt make sure he does really like you before you go for it so as you don't get hurt.
This whole thing about 'breaking it' is a myth. Most people have completely lost any trace of their hymen long before they actually have sex. If he's that up for it then he wont care whether you've had it before or not.
not stupid at all~ just don't lie~ you are making to much out of this, he will be even happier to be the actual real men in your life, but make sure you want it to~ don't worry~
You haven't had sex properly?? In my day it was a case of you have had sex, or you haven't...simple as! :p
I'm just playin ya
Just make sure that you want him to be the one as if it`s gone it`s gone. you might regret it for the rest of your life.
oh damn are you sure he really likes you??
it sounds to me that he wants to just get in your pants
please don't sleep with a guy you don't even know or have a relationship with - ESPECIALLY FOR YOUR FIRST TIME!!!!
many of my friends first times were with guys they didn't know, and each of them regrets their decision and wish theyd waited.
Whereas i was in a loving relationship with the guy i lost it to, and i'm still with him a year and a half later.
To me it really sounds like he just wants to get in your pants -_-
a guy yuou feel ready to have sexual relations with will be a guy you feel you can tell that you are a virgin - which is clearly not this guy.
sorry to be so blunt, but i feel quite strongly about your situation and i am so sure you should wait!!Relationship/sex advice please? New man!?
Are you totally sure this guy likes you, it sounds more like he just wants a quick one and then will leave you after but he may not could be wrong. however, you should tell him you have not had sex properly before, he will understand and then maybe you two can take it slow. just try not to jump in at the deep end and get hurt make sure he does really like you before you go for it so as you don't get hurt.
This whole thing about 'breaking it' is a myth. Most people have completely lost any trace of their hymen long before they actually have sex. If he's that up for it then he wont care whether you've had it before or not.
not stupid at all~ just don't lie~ you are making to much out of this, he will be even happier to be the actual real men in your life, but make sure you want it to~ don't worry~
You haven't had sex properly?? In my day it was a case of you have had sex, or you haven't...simple as! :p
I'm just playin ya
Just make sure that you want him to be the one as if it`s gone it`s gone. you might regret it for the rest of your life.
oh damn are you sure he really likes you??
it sounds to me that he wants to just get in your pants
Girls help!!!! First relationship. Need advice.?
I have just gotten my first girlfriend. What do i do in a relationship? How do i show affection and stuff like that?
P.S. - Im 17 and shes 16Girls help!!!! First relationship. Need advice.?
Aww I'm happy for you! Are you her first boyfriend? If you are, then take it slowish so you don't make her nervous. But, when you are ready, try holding her hand, and give her hugs when you see her. Put your arm around her when you sit next to each other, and don't you dare touch her in any perverted way.
P.S. - Im 17 and shes 16Girls help!!!! First relationship. Need advice.?
Aww I'm happy for you! Are you her first boyfriend? If you are, then take it slowish so you don't make her nervous. But, when you are ready, try holding her hand, and give her hugs when you see her. Put your arm around her when you sit next to each other, and don't you dare touch her in any perverted way.
Advice...relationship?
Ok started hanging out with two guys I went to high school with. The one I knew best, had a g/f then and the other guy I start dating, ended up pregnant , we were ok about it then I miscarried. I was extrememly upset. The one that was there most for me though everything with his best friend. It made us grow apart and then the one night at the bar we broke up and he started being all over a girl he works with. Now they are kinda dating after 3.5 weeks. His friend and his girlfriend broke up about 2.5 months ago. Now (the friend) tells me that he really likes me and he kissed me. We hang out all the time even more than my ex and I. I like him but would that be wrong? he is great with my son son and we have so much fun together! what do I do? I think my ex and his ex would be mad? I am so confused and IDK what to do..Advice...relationship?
Its not wrong. Have sexy time with him.Advice...relationship?
I think you both are on the rebound and should NOT get together. You don't want to be the reason their friendship falls apart. You both are very vulnerable right now, especially you after your miscarriage. Take some time for yourself and your son and don't get caught up in something that could become very messy.
i think if he's been thier for you and cared for you while you were pregnate he greww and helped you during one of the hardest time in your life ... ithink you should enjoy him he is the one that acted beter and well the other guy moved on and you should to ... i hope u end uo together ...
Talk to him about it he has to know that it will hurt his friendship with your ex if this goes further. If he is okay with that i see no reason to not see him. Unless you and his ex are friends then it will also ruin that friendship. You have to decide how important he is to you and go from there. Good luck
Well, would you like your son to grow up with a person who doesn't really care about you? Because you know what I think, your friend that likes you does care for you, and I'd bet he may give you and your son a better life...just know who's perfect for you...watch out 'cos your son's real father may be wanting him back...
.........My head hurts!
You think *you* are confused?!!! After reading your question, I don't know my head from my a**!
your ex is your ex. move on with your own life and do what makes you happy and is best for your son. and if the exes get mad, it's their own problem.makeup class
Its not wrong. Have sexy time with him.Advice...relationship?
I think you both are on the rebound and should NOT get together. You don't want to be the reason their friendship falls apart. You both are very vulnerable right now, especially you after your miscarriage. Take some time for yourself and your son and don't get caught up in something that could become very messy.
i think if he's been thier for you and cared for you while you were pregnate he greww and helped you during one of the hardest time in your life ... ithink you should enjoy him he is the one that acted beter and well the other guy moved on and you should to ... i hope u end uo together ...
Talk to him about it he has to know that it will hurt his friendship with your ex if this goes further. If he is okay with that i see no reason to not see him. Unless you and his ex are friends then it will also ruin that friendship. You have to decide how important he is to you and go from there. Good luck
Well, would you like your son to grow up with a person who doesn't really care about you? Because you know what I think, your friend that likes you does care for you, and I'd bet he may give you and your son a better life...just know who's perfect for you...watch out 'cos your son's real father may be wanting him back...
.........My head hurts!
You think *you* are confused?!!! After reading your question, I don't know my head from my a**!
your ex is your ex. move on with your own life and do what makes you happy and is best for your son. and if the exes get mad, it's their own problem.
Just started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
The thing is... me and a friend went straight to relationship since we are good friends and know everything about each other... the problem is, we know so much about each other that it could be a bad thing... not saying in general, but I feel like it kinda gets a bit boring and not as many things to talk about... I wanted to ask for suggestion on how to keep thing interesting in this situation and make things work. ThanksJust started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
Need more communicates. Some couples do talk less but still love each other. Get 2gether doing some activities or going for a short trips. Some suprises will do the trick likes sending flowers or chocolates. Give some freedom. If both of u are working then u won't feel boring.Just started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
I'm sure there is something you don't know about this friend. To show interest, ask questions
2 choices!
the bad feeling one and the romantic one!
1- say ';do you reaaly want this'; she can say yes or kiss you or no and cries.
2- bring to a dine and say im happy with this.
One better way is to end that relation.
well... all i can suggest is take up a new hobby which both of u will like and keep on trying new things to keep the relationship alive... or maybe go travelling ard [that if both of u r at legal age]...
Need more communicates. Some couples do talk less but still love each other. Get 2gether doing some activities or going for a short trips. Some suprises will do the trick likes sending flowers or chocolates. Give some freedom. If both of u are working then u won't feel boring.Just started relationship with friend, need advice how to keep interest?
I'm sure there is something you don't know about this friend. To show interest, ask questions
2 choices!
the bad feeling one and the romantic one!
1- say ';do you reaaly want this'; she can say yes or kiss you or no and cries.
2- bring to a dine and say im happy with this.
One better way is to end that relation.
well... all i can suggest is take up a new hobby which both of u will like and keep on trying new things to keep the relationship alive... or maybe go travelling ard [that if both of u r at legal age]...
I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
The hardest thing i ever had to do, ive done it. My family helped me pack up all my stuff, there was alot, and i moved the heck out of there. I feel very sad and know im doing the right thing. But is there any encouragement from anyone? I need some advice on how to stay strong.I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
at first u will question it, because once away from it u will begin to think maybe it wasn't all that bad especially if u loved him allot. but u made the right choice to get out of it before it got any worse. what u should do is get in a therapy group where there will be others like yourself who have already been through this they will be your encouragement. when he calls u and he will, just realize that abusers hardly ever change without some kind of intervention. and now the worst of it is over with, u just have to work on your self esteem because when u get abused it will tear down your self esteem, all kinds of thoughts will go through your head, u may second guess yourself, wonder if u should go back and give it one more chance, but don't.I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
It sounds like you have a good support system with your family, That will help a lot, If you have a religous faith that will help enormously. You will find that most of your fears about being alone are unfounded. You will be amazed at how strong you are and before long you will be proud of yourself for letting go of a relationship that did not serve you well. If you think you are in danger take any precautions neccessary. Congratulations on empowering yourself! God has great plans for you .
Moving out of any relationship is hard, there are always those 'feelings' that kind of haunt you about having done the right thing. But you have, it's hard to be in an abusive relationship and keep your wits about you, your self esteem is under constant attack. But give yourself a few months and you will come to feel better about it and yourself. Don't hurry into any new relationship or the old one will be dragged along into it. Stay strong and you know that there is a whole world of us out here who are concerned about you. I'm glad that you were one that did make it out.
Make a list of everything that he did right.
Make a list of everything that he did wrong.
Throw both lists out the window, because it was an abusive relationship.
It wasn't your fault. You're the victim. You should probably try to keep as much of a normal life as possible, and think about going through counseling, or try getting more involved in activities around your community/church. That way you can move on. Because if you dwell on the past then you can never move forward. Also, let everyone know how big of a scum bag he is for doing that. And, just take it step by step. ';Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch, life's a cinch';
You have done a very brave thing - unfortuneately trying to stay strong is hard for the first few months, especially if the partner comes to you promising to ';change';.
The important thing to do to keep yourself strong is to have good plans in place (eg What are you going to do if he does show up?) and surround yourself with supportive family and friends.
Con-grads, Go to work, focus on your future. Go out with friends. Get involve with anything and everything to keep your mind off of him. He will not change, he will get worse. He will tell you anything to make you think that he's changed and get you back. He will eventually, get mad and make you think ( if he hasn't already ) that no one will have you and all the insults he can come up with. Have you a good cry. And please move on.
I found writing in a journal was very helpful and writing here on YA when I needed an outside perspective or strength...
In my journal, I would write down times that he abused me... each time a different event... and in my ';weak'; moments, I would pull it out and remember exactly why I left... as I became stronger, it became a journal of strength and hope... my accomplishments and my dreams..
Here on YA, well, it really helped to write asking for support when I needed it, or helping others.. or just laughing at some of the freaky q's on here.. and then I made some good friends...
you're doing the right thing.. it's hard but it gets better.. you've taken a huge step toward a better life... now just breath and enjoy being safe... happiness will come.
hun im a man that is lone some all the time im loving and sweet i been a lone my whole life being rejected by weman and im not bad looking just i cant talk good best thing would to take time pain hurts it doesnt heal in moments but dont let your self down every thing will happen in time im sorry to hear your situation but dont be afraid or in lost or confused just learn from it to not make the miss take agian weman are strong mently and emotionaly if they control there feelings learn of them use them and in time you will find the right one and when you do you will be so much happyer keep your gard up but dont shut the door god has ways of us seeing hate darkness sadness in are lives so when we do see the light it will shine all so much brighter hugs and love have a wounderful day
Where are you staying? I trust that it is a safe place. Lean on family for the emotional support that you need. He is going to try to sweet talk you into coming back. He will tell you how sorry he is and that it will never happen again. He will promise almost anything to get you to come back. If you give in and go back it will start all over again and it will be harder to leave the next time. I know what I am talking about as I have been in your position. Do not go back no matter what he says. I know how you feel and I know how hard it is but believe me there is happiness in your future with out him. You need some time to heal. Spend time with family and friends and do not go places alone. Do not agree to meet your abuser alone for any reason. Here is a web site you may find useful.
http://d21c.com/amiani/TarasDedication.h鈥?/a>
Good luck to you and congratulations for taking the big step.
I have been in your exact situation. My relationship lasted for 4 years, though, and we had a child. I left him when my son was 2 months old because I didn't want my son to be raised around him. He was SOOO abusive! There were even a couple of times that he was threatening to kill me, while grabbing a knife, and I managed to escape with NO CLOTHES on because he ripped them all up. I ran out the door, screaming for help and got it from HIS PARENTS who drove me home, wrapped in a f**king blanket.
Let me tell you.. TAKE MY WORD.. These guys DO NOT CHANGE. Do NOT FEEL SORRY FOR HIM FOR ANYTHING OR FEEL SAD THAT HE IS THE WAY HE IS. Just accept it and accept that this is NOT how you want to live your life...
I am now married to the most AMAZING man!! He adopted my first son, and he has never even told me what to do..EVER.. I am ME. I am free to be me, and I have never been so damn happy in my entire life.
This hard decision you have made will not only save your life but allow you to live and be yourself and find true happiness without feeling obligated to try and ';help'; some guy that is depriving you of your one and only life... Seriously.. You'll find a nice guy next time and love it...
It's time to think of your future and move ahead.. Live for YOU, not for him.. You WILL NOT REGRET IT! Congrats on your upcoming happy, free life.. Enjoy it! You only live once.
Nothing can heal a broken relationship but time. You did the right thing, you will eventually get over it and look back and wonder why you stayed as long as you did. Just be patient. Hopefully one day you meet someone who loves you and cares about you.
i just left a abusive relationship and i know how hard it is. just think bout what makes u happy and being around positive people. I miss her everyday but its for the best and alot safer for me, keep ur chin up.
congrats on that! you left before the police took you out in a bodybag. don't go back. people like that dont change and even if he does, do you want to put your life at risk like that. dont take that chance. LACE YOUR BOOTS AND RUN WITHOUT LOOKING BACK!!!
You did what was best for you. And today you took a stand so you should be proud of yourself. You are no longer someone's punching bag and for that I applaud you. You are on the road to actually loving yourself for once!
The best thing is having your family around. It's hard believe me I went through it with my ex-wife. You have to take it one step at a time, but you need your family to talk to.
You stay strong forever. Get some counseling and get into a support group. Keep busy and know you are doing the right thing. That was never love.
You just did the hard part. Enjoy...........
at first u will question it, because once away from it u will begin to think maybe it wasn't all that bad especially if u loved him allot. but u made the right choice to get out of it before it got any worse. what u should do is get in a therapy group where there will be others like yourself who have already been through this they will be your encouragement. when he calls u and he will, just realize that abusers hardly ever change without some kind of intervention. and now the worst of it is over with, u just have to work on your self esteem because when u get abused it will tear down your self esteem, all kinds of thoughts will go through your head, u may second guess yourself, wonder if u should go back and give it one more chance, but don't.I just left a 3 year abusive relationship today. Any advice, im feeling kinda wea here.?
It sounds like you have a good support system with your family, That will help a lot, If you have a religous faith that will help enormously. You will find that most of your fears about being alone are unfounded. You will be amazed at how strong you are and before long you will be proud of yourself for letting go of a relationship that did not serve you well. If you think you are in danger take any precautions neccessary. Congratulations on empowering yourself! God has great plans for you .
Moving out of any relationship is hard, there are always those 'feelings' that kind of haunt you about having done the right thing. But you have, it's hard to be in an abusive relationship and keep your wits about you, your self esteem is under constant attack. But give yourself a few months and you will come to feel better about it and yourself. Don't hurry into any new relationship or the old one will be dragged along into it. Stay strong and you know that there is a whole world of us out here who are concerned about you. I'm glad that you were one that did make it out.
Make a list of everything that he did right.
Make a list of everything that he did wrong.
Throw both lists out the window, because it was an abusive relationship.
It wasn't your fault. You're the victim. You should probably try to keep as much of a normal life as possible, and think about going through counseling, or try getting more involved in activities around your community/church. That way you can move on. Because if you dwell on the past then you can never move forward. Also, let everyone know how big of a scum bag he is for doing that. And, just take it step by step. ';Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch, life's a cinch';
You have done a very brave thing - unfortuneately trying to stay strong is hard for the first few months, especially if the partner comes to you promising to ';change';.
The important thing to do to keep yourself strong is to have good plans in place (eg What are you going to do if he does show up?) and surround yourself with supportive family and friends.
Con-grads, Go to work, focus on your future. Go out with friends. Get involve with anything and everything to keep your mind off of him. He will not change, he will get worse. He will tell you anything to make you think that he's changed and get you back. He will eventually, get mad and make you think ( if he hasn't already ) that no one will have you and all the insults he can come up with. Have you a good cry. And please move on.
I found writing in a journal was very helpful and writing here on YA when I needed an outside perspective or strength...
In my journal, I would write down times that he abused me... each time a different event... and in my ';weak'; moments, I would pull it out and remember exactly why I left... as I became stronger, it became a journal of strength and hope... my accomplishments and my dreams..
Here on YA, well, it really helped to write asking for support when I needed it, or helping others.. or just laughing at some of the freaky q's on here.. and then I made some good friends...
you're doing the right thing.. it's hard but it gets better.. you've taken a huge step toward a better life... now just breath and enjoy being safe... happiness will come.
hun im a man that is lone some all the time im loving and sweet i been a lone my whole life being rejected by weman and im not bad looking just i cant talk good best thing would to take time pain hurts it doesnt heal in moments but dont let your self down every thing will happen in time im sorry to hear your situation but dont be afraid or in lost or confused just learn from it to not make the miss take agian weman are strong mently and emotionaly if they control there feelings learn of them use them and in time you will find the right one and when you do you will be so much happyer keep your gard up but dont shut the door god has ways of us seeing hate darkness sadness in are lives so when we do see the light it will shine all so much brighter hugs and love have a wounderful day
Where are you staying? I trust that it is a safe place. Lean on family for the emotional support that you need. He is going to try to sweet talk you into coming back. He will tell you how sorry he is and that it will never happen again. He will promise almost anything to get you to come back. If you give in and go back it will start all over again and it will be harder to leave the next time. I know what I am talking about as I have been in your position. Do not go back no matter what he says. I know how you feel and I know how hard it is but believe me there is happiness in your future with out him. You need some time to heal. Spend time with family and friends and do not go places alone. Do not agree to meet your abuser alone for any reason. Here is a web site you may find useful.
http://d21c.com/amiani/TarasDedication.h鈥?/a>
Good luck to you and congratulations for taking the big step.
I have been in your exact situation. My relationship lasted for 4 years, though, and we had a child. I left him when my son was 2 months old because I didn't want my son to be raised around him. He was SOOO abusive! There were even a couple of times that he was threatening to kill me, while grabbing a knife, and I managed to escape with NO CLOTHES on because he ripped them all up. I ran out the door, screaming for help and got it from HIS PARENTS who drove me home, wrapped in a f**king blanket.
Let me tell you.. TAKE MY WORD.. These guys DO NOT CHANGE. Do NOT FEEL SORRY FOR HIM FOR ANYTHING OR FEEL SAD THAT HE IS THE WAY HE IS. Just accept it and accept that this is NOT how you want to live your life...
I am now married to the most AMAZING man!! He adopted my first son, and he has never even told me what to do..EVER.. I am ME. I am free to be me, and I have never been so damn happy in my entire life.
This hard decision you have made will not only save your life but allow you to live and be yourself and find true happiness without feeling obligated to try and ';help'; some guy that is depriving you of your one and only life... Seriously.. You'll find a nice guy next time and love it...
It's time to think of your future and move ahead.. Live for YOU, not for him.. You WILL NOT REGRET IT! Congrats on your upcoming happy, free life.. Enjoy it! You only live once.
Nothing can heal a broken relationship but time. You did the right thing, you will eventually get over it and look back and wonder why you stayed as long as you did. Just be patient. Hopefully one day you meet someone who loves you and cares about you.
i just left a abusive relationship and i know how hard it is. just think bout what makes u happy and being around positive people. I miss her everyday but its for the best and alot safer for me, keep ur chin up.
congrats on that! you left before the police took you out in a bodybag. don't go back. people like that dont change and even if he does, do you want to put your life at risk like that. dont take that chance. LACE YOUR BOOTS AND RUN WITHOUT LOOKING BACK!!!
You did what was best for you. And today you took a stand so you should be proud of yourself. You are no longer someone's punching bag and for that I applaud you. You are on the road to actually loving yourself for once!
The best thing is having your family around. It's hard believe me I went through it with my ex-wife. You have to take it one step at a time, but you need your family to talk to.
You stay strong forever. Get some counseling and get into a support group. Keep busy and know you are doing the right thing. That was never love.
You just did the hard part. Enjoy...........
Im a big guy and Ive never been in a relationship with another guy. Any Advice?
Hi, Like the question says, I am looking for relationship advice from gay people. Please if you dont have experience, or are against gays, stay away. Otherwise I welcome any advice, especially from other big guys with possibly the same kind of situation. I just dont know where to start. ThanksIm a big guy and Ive never been in a relationship with another guy. Any Advice?
should ask this in the gay section bro
should ask this in the gay section bro
I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
I'm hopeless when it comes to romance and relationship. I really like my boyfriend. I feel I can have long term relationship with this person. I have no idea what interesting things can I do to make the relationship more fun and exciting. What do you guys and girls do?I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
You got to find some fun stuff to do that the both of you enjoy doing together. Hobbies, crafts, sports, or anything besides just looking at each other. This really tests the strength of your relationship, doesn't it? If you don't really enjoy being together, and just spending time together, and you are pressured by sex all the time, then maybe you need to consider the fact, you may not be such a great couple after all. If that's all your partner wants to do, then your relationship is in trouble to start with. Talk to someone about this, like your parents, school counselor, or a minister. Good Luck, and I hope you find what your looking for!!I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
Find things you enjoy doing together, maybe start a hobby together?
I don't do it, but I always thought that sky diving and bungee-jumping would be SOOOOO fun!
Go to church tomorrow, invite hin to you local church. Because then you will be prosperous and successful both of you.
Why don't you just be yourself after all he became your boyfriend because he like youjust the way you are.Just be yourself.
Do Tikibibi to him or go fishing.
You could at least,show him your t*ts!
Surprise him with the things he enjoys. Is he in to sports,etc.? Do those kind of things. Like if he likes to go fishing . Plan a day for that without letting him know ..just the 2 of you go out on the lake %26amp; make a day of it.
Bump uglies with him! You'll like it and want more!
If you do things right it all leads to sex...if you are lucky. Romantic is candles, flowers, a quiet dinner, slow dancing to sexy music...how couldn't you have sex afterwards?
Games, movies, amusement parks, role-playing, random acts of kindness, spontaneity, small surprises, presents, etc.
...just to name a few.
coming from someone who's sexless i recommend you dress sexy once in a while. try new things. go new places. walk around naked waxed and shaved except the eyebrows unless they need it fix your hair.
go on a trip with your immediate family and him.
sexy pantyhose and heels, let him look and touch
it will drive hhim wild
With us, it is just being together, touching each other. We can be watching TV and rubbing each others feet, or playing with each others hair, stuff like that. It's the simple things that work the best.
chill out take a holiday, laugh dont take it so serious but to be honest im single so i really cant answer the question but i wouldnt worry about it just chiiiiiiiil woman chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiil
touch nibble kiss DUE!!
I sometimes make a lounge picnic.. put a blanket down in the front room.. bottle wine and some picnic foods...it can be quite erotic... J
Try all the classics - massages, candle-lit dinners, snuggling in front of a fireplace.
Those sort of things can lead to sex but don't always. Just be up front if sex becomes an issue. If your bf expects something will lead to sex and doesn't, ut can be upsetting.
You can always do something he wants to do but you aren't crazy about. For example, if he loves to ski but you're terrified, maybe take a lesson on the slope from him and show that you are doing it just to be with him. He'll appreciate it.
You got to find some fun stuff to do that the both of you enjoy doing together. Hobbies, crafts, sports, or anything besides just looking at each other. This really tests the strength of your relationship, doesn't it? If you don't really enjoy being together, and just spending time together, and you are pressured by sex all the time, then maybe you need to consider the fact, you may not be such a great couple after all. If that's all your partner wants to do, then your relationship is in trouble to start with. Talk to someone about this, like your parents, school counselor, or a minister. Good Luck, and I hope you find what your looking for!!I need advice spicing up romance in my relationship without having sex. What can you suggest?
Find things you enjoy doing together, maybe start a hobby together?
I don't do it, but I always thought that sky diving and bungee-jumping would be SOOOOO fun!
Go to church tomorrow, invite hin to you local church. Because then you will be prosperous and successful both of you.
Why don't you just be yourself after all he became your boyfriend because he like youjust the way you are.Just be yourself.
Do Tikibibi to him or go fishing.
You could at least,show him your t*ts!
Surprise him with the things he enjoys. Is he in to sports,etc.? Do those kind of things. Like if he likes to go fishing . Plan a day for that without letting him know ..just the 2 of you go out on the lake %26amp; make a day of it.
Bump uglies with him! You'll like it and want more!
If you do things right it all leads to sex...if you are lucky. Romantic is candles, flowers, a quiet dinner, slow dancing to sexy music...how couldn't you have sex afterwards?
Games, movies, amusement parks, role-playing, random acts of kindness, spontaneity, small surprises, presents, etc.
...just to name a few.
coming from someone who's sexless i recommend you dress sexy once in a while. try new things. go new places. walk around naked waxed and shaved except the eyebrows unless they need it fix your hair.
go on a trip with your immediate family and him.
sexy pantyhose and heels, let him look and touch
it will drive hhim wild
With us, it is just being together, touching each other. We can be watching TV and rubbing each others feet, or playing with each others hair, stuff like that. It's the simple things that work the best.
chill out take a holiday, laugh dont take it so serious but to be honest im single so i really cant answer the question but i wouldnt worry about it just chiiiiiiiil woman chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiil
touch nibble kiss DUE!!
I sometimes make a lounge picnic.. put a blanket down in the front room.. bottle wine and some picnic foods...it can be quite erotic... J
Try all the classics - massages, candle-lit dinners, snuggling in front of a fireplace.
Those sort of things can lead to sex but don't always. Just be up front if sex becomes an issue. If your bf expects something will lead to sex and doesn't, ut can be upsetting.
You can always do something he wants to do but you aren't crazy about. For example, if he loves to ski but you're terrified, maybe take a lesson on the slope from him and show that you are doing it just to be with him. He'll appreciate it.
Can Someone Please Give Me Advice On My Relationship...?
Im a Libra and my Gf is a Cancer, and I really like her, but our relationship is kind of at a stand-still. I just cant seem to figure out how she works. LoL. Shes a very aggressive flirt and we keep running into issue of showing affection (and no we have not and will not have sex). I just need some advice. Thanks. :) Can Someone Please Give Me Advice On My Relationship...?
im a cancer.
cancers dont hold back and love to be really flirty and go for what they want, so she is agressivly flirting because she likes you (:Can Someone Please Give Me Advice On My Relationship...?
Stick with first - third bases?
stick with whatevers comfortable now and there won't be as many issues, and then gradually work upon that.
but if your the one thats not affectionate (I'm guessing you are) than
COME ON DUDE
SHOW YOUR GIRL SOME LOVEmakeup class
im a cancer.
cancers dont hold back and love to be really flirty and go for what they want, so she is agressivly flirting because she likes you (:Can Someone Please Give Me Advice On My Relationship...?
Stick with first - third bases?
stick with whatevers comfortable now and there won't be as many issues, and then gradually work upon that.
but if your the one thats not affectionate (I'm guessing you are) than
COME ON DUDE
SHOW YOUR GIRL SOME LOVE
What advice would you give when you think your family is ruining your relationship?
advice i would give is to just ignore them and get on with ur relationship, dont let them feel they are superior to uWhat advice would you give when you think your family is ruining your relationship?
I went through that, just ignore it if you can. If not, move away.What advice would you give when you think your family is ruining your relationship?
I'd sit my family down and have a talk with them
Really, if your family is the one stopping you from being happy, don't listen to them, Family shouldnt be that involved in your love life anyways.
i would ask myself,why do they do that,if there is any logical reason,maybe i'm wrong
I went through that, just ignore it if you can. If not, move away.What advice would you give when you think your family is ruining your relationship?
I'd sit my family down and have a talk with them
Really, if your family is the one stopping you from being happy, don't listen to them, Family shouldnt be that involved in your love life anyways.
i would ask myself,why do they do that,if there is any logical reason,maybe i'm wrong
Please help me with this relationship, please give me good advice cuz i could use it?
Should I e-mail or call my ex, we have been together for two years and broken up for 3 weeks, he broke up with me over an argument and never once called me except when he called my job and hang up. but i still have strong feelings for him, see i still love this guy and want to be with him, and I don't know if he still loves me or how he feels, but he still has our pics together on the web and its giving me hope, what should i do. or should I leave it the way it is.Please help me with this relationship, please give me good advice cuz i could use it?
Give it a couple of weeks more. Then call and casually ask how he is doing. His reaction will tell you what to do next.
Give it a couple of weeks more. Then call and casually ask how he is doing. His reaction will tell you what to do next.
OK ADVICE?? relationship issues but kids involved?
me and my fiancee have 2 kids and we had them quick in the relationship we've always been really close but now im grown up and a parent and its like he never grew up and we fight about the kids all the time...i think he should spend more time and he thinks that he does enough and that hes entitles to relax but yet i think i never get to relax why arent we in this together we both work full time why should my mom role be 24/7 yet he can shut daddy off whenever? im starting to resent him and everything...i always just make up with him but im tired of doing it even though its better for the kids. i mean we're not abusive to eachother its more of constantly unnerving eachother, little quirks..should i walk away this time or try again?? like i said it feels like bumps in the road everytime but im just tired of this road i think..i dont know what to say to him when i see him tonight?OK ADVICE?? relationship issues but kids involved?
A parent role is 24/7. You both need a break from kids, it is the father responsibility to also chip in. You should both make a schedule and atleast 2 a month each of you in separate occasions goes out and gets break from each other and the kids. Nothing extravagent something like you go out do your nails, lunch friend, he goes to ball game with the guys etc. You state you both work when you both get home split up the chores -- one does cooking other dishes; one bathe the kids the other put the to sleep; etc. This is a two way responsiblity not one, stop giving in and put your foot down, he is also taking advantage of you. I dont care if he is tired so are you.OK ADVICE?? relationship issues but kids involved?
your exactly like my mom and dad.
if your husband isnt there for your kids and you think you can support them or just get child support then leave him because my mom always says she wants to leave my father but never does and i know she dose not like her life.
my advise is that you try talking to him again and tell him excatly how you feel dont hold nothing back if he is not wiling to help and change for you and the kids then maybe you do need to leave it is not fair for the kids to have to hear there parents fight all the time i have a son and me and his father fought all the time we never ould get along so i left i did not stay for my son b/c he knew when his mommy and daddy was fighting and i did not think that it was fair we are happy now and better he does not have to hear us fight and he sees his dad all the time hope this helps and dont think that you have to stay with him for your kids if you are happy you kids wil be to the want you to be happy just like you want them to be happy
You guys need counseling. He needs a third party to tell him to help you with the burden of parenting. If he doesn't want to do counseling tell him that you are considering moving out or kicking him out.
Welcome to adulthood and marriage. Work it ou for the kids. Nothing in life is going to be a cake walk, don't expect to get your wonderland.
A parent role is 24/7. You both need a break from kids, it is the father responsibility to also chip in. You should both make a schedule and atleast 2 a month each of you in separate occasions goes out and gets break from each other and the kids. Nothing extravagent something like you go out do your nails, lunch friend, he goes to ball game with the guys etc. You state you both work when you both get home split up the chores -- one does cooking other dishes; one bathe the kids the other put the to sleep; etc. This is a two way responsiblity not one, stop giving in and put your foot down, he is also taking advantage of you. I dont care if he is tired so are you.OK ADVICE?? relationship issues but kids involved?
your exactly like my mom and dad.
if your husband isnt there for your kids and you think you can support them or just get child support then leave him because my mom always says she wants to leave my father but never does and i know she dose not like her life.
my advise is that you try talking to him again and tell him excatly how you feel dont hold nothing back if he is not wiling to help and change for you and the kids then maybe you do need to leave it is not fair for the kids to have to hear there parents fight all the time i have a son and me and his father fought all the time we never ould get along so i left i did not stay for my son b/c he knew when his mommy and daddy was fighting and i did not think that it was fair we are happy now and better he does not have to hear us fight and he sees his dad all the time hope this helps and dont think that you have to stay with him for your kids if you are happy you kids wil be to the want you to be happy just like you want them to be happy
You guys need counseling. He needs a third party to tell him to help you with the burden of parenting. If he doesn't want to do counseling tell him that you are considering moving out or kicking him out.
Welcome to adulthood and marriage. Work it ou for the kids. Nothing in life is going to be a cake walk, don't expect to get your wonderland.
NEED ADVICE relationship problems?!?
i am not happy w/ my bf. he doesnt spend much time with me. he has also never introduced me to his family or his friends. we have been together for almost 16months. also his ex is #1 on his myspace. i just feel like he is embarrassed of me and doesnt respect me, but i am soo in love with him. i have told him the problems i dont expect him to read my mind. he took so long to take off the pics that he had of his ex off his myspace. she doesnt even kno i exist. i have talked to her but i concealed my identity and she proved that he isnt lying or cheating on me. but she wants to get bak w/ him. he still lives w/ his parents and whenever his mom asks him to go home he does when he's with me. he doesnt even say im with my gf. he claims he loves me soo much more than anyone and that he's not embarrassed of me. i kno he loves me, but i dont think he respects my wishes. please just give me serious answers, thank you.NEED ADVICE relationship problems?!?
if he is not giving you what you want the first step in any relationship is to talk to him about it.
the second... depending on the response he gave you.. you would either give him time to show that he meant what he said and would do better.
or if he didnt say anything like that.. then break up with him.
and after you wait for a while... you would decide whether or not he was doing a good job.. and if he is.. then your problems solved... and if hes not.... you would be better off with someone else that would treat you right.NEED ADVICE relationship problems?!?
Sorry but you asked the true: he is selfish, spoiled and childish...besides he doesn't respect you.You need to have more self respect and your self esteem more high girl.I say if you like to suffer keep him, but if you wan to be stronger, more happy and free of stress, end the relationship.It doesn't really matters much what he says,it's more important the way he treats you and what he do for you...just write down in a paper the good and the bad...than just weight both and pick!!Good luck!!and if you think you cannot get over the break up you will, believe me....
sometimes the best way to find out if someone cares is when you're no longer around.
some people don't appreciate what they've got, until it's gone.
another thing is, a guy who wants his ex back only wants her cuz he no longer has her. when he gets her, he won't want her.
and the girl only wants him cause she lost him and now that he has someone else, she wants him...when she get's him, she'll dump him as soon as she finds someone better.
classic case of ';players syndrome';
i'd stay away from these type of people
if he pays more attention to his ex than he does you, then i'd break up. it's kinda insane that over a year and you've never met his friends or family. you're better than that, everyone is better than that. break up with him and try to find another man.
yeah if ur not happy w him, it's time to break-up. I don't think he's a very good guy.
if he is not giving you what you want the first step in any relationship is to talk to him about it.
the second... depending on the response he gave you.. you would either give him time to show that he meant what he said and would do better.
or if he didnt say anything like that.. then break up with him.
and after you wait for a while... you would decide whether or not he was doing a good job.. and if he is.. then your problems solved... and if hes not.... you would be better off with someone else that would treat you right.NEED ADVICE relationship problems?!?
Sorry but you asked the true: he is selfish, spoiled and childish...besides he doesn't respect you.You need to have more self respect and your self esteem more high girl.I say if you like to suffer keep him, but if you wan to be stronger, more happy and free of stress, end the relationship.It doesn't really matters much what he says,it's more important the way he treats you and what he do for you...just write down in a paper the good and the bad...than just weight both and pick!!Good luck!!and if you think you cannot get over the break up you will, believe me....
sometimes the best way to find out if someone cares is when you're no longer around.
some people don't appreciate what they've got, until it's gone.
another thing is, a guy who wants his ex back only wants her cuz he no longer has her. when he gets her, he won't want her.
and the girl only wants him cause she lost him and now that he has someone else, she wants him...when she get's him, she'll dump him as soon as she finds someone better.
classic case of ';players syndrome';
i'd stay away from these type of people
if he pays more attention to his ex than he does you, then i'd break up. it's kinda insane that over a year and you've never met his friends or family. you're better than that, everyone is better than that. break up with him and try to find another man.
yeah if ur not happy w him, it's time to break-up. I don't think he's a very good guy.
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